I am 33. I have never had a girlfriend. But I want to ask a girl out. But I am not attractive-looking. How do I ask a girl out if I am downright ugly looking?
2007-03-21 13:09:05 · 17 answers · asked by NJboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me that you have low self-esteem. You're going to have to loose that when you are talking to the girl. Start talking to her, get to know her. When it's clear that you know her pretty well, just go up to her and casually ask her if she'd like to go on a date with you sometime. Don't be so down on your looks-someone out there is sure to like you for you, not your looks. Good Luck!
2007-03-21 13:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, you have to stop with this, "I am not attractive" and "I am downright ugly". If you don't have confidence in yourself, how do you expect a girl to respect you enough to date you? You have to understand and tell yourself, "I may not be the best looking guy around, but I am a great person, and that is what girls will love about me." Anyway, if you conduct yourself in the right way, and have a sweet personality, then you have something most guys don't. It doesn't matter if you're as hott as Brad Pitt, if you are a total jerk, no one is going to date you, except maybe a few floosies, and girls who are out for a one-night stand. You have to be nice, and romantic, and sensitive. Those are in the top slots on most girls' lists of traits they want in guys. Have confidence in yourself and put yourself out there! There is the right girl out there somewhere.
2007-03-21 20:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may call yourself ugly but not really have the opinion of the entire female population on your side here.
I have been quite attracted to men who might not be considered handsome by most ordinary standards. In fact, I have a current lover who is absolutely sexy as hell to me but not really anything special at first glance. His secret is that he doesn't know this. He exudes a kind of confidence that has nothing to do with GQ type looks. He is also one hell of a lover.
When I'm with him he makes me feel like the most beautiful women ever to breathe and that makes him georgeous to me. He truly takes my breath away.
The things I find attractive about him and that make him appear sexy to me are the way he puts his arm around my waist and pulls me to his side. The way he lifts my chin to meet his face when he kisses me. The firm and confident way he touches me - every single time. The way he speaks with authority.
I'm not the only woman who feels this way. This guy has women all over him where ever he goes. Men also have great confidence in his opinion and trust him in business matters.
So don't sell yourself short. You may have something that you aren't giving yourself credit for and if you don't no one else will either. Look for those things in yourself that are attractive. I NEVER met an truly ugly man with no redeeming qualities and that's a fact.
Think it over. Ask female friends to help you build up your strongest points and use them to your advantage. Work on it. Don't give up. There is someone for everyone and likely many someone's.
2007-03-21 20:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not meaning to answer a question with a question, but who says you're "downright ugly looking"? Give yourself a break. Not all girls care about looks anyway. It's who you are not what you are. Sheesh. It's also a matter of P.O.V. (Point of View). I've met a lot of guys who weren't voted the sexiest guy and wished they'd asked me out (back in the days when I cared about that stuff). Ask her out anyway and see where it goes from there. And, please ... whatever you do, don't try to impress her.
2007-03-21 20:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by OP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay look,
If the girl turns you down because she doesn't like how you look, then she is acting like a 6th grader and you need a woman
1. Walk up to her and go with the flow man, calm down and be yourself, the inside is what counts, man, just stay cool and relaxed and soon, the right woman will come to you!
2007-03-21 20:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by I'm mad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter what you look like, its whats inside of you that matters, people are beautiful on the inside, She will see this too, just ask her politely, Remember a way to a girls heart is romance, be caring, Good luck to you.
2007-03-21 20:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't.
I'm just kidding! There's plenty of fish in the sea, you just need to find your Nemo.
Ask her out already! What's there to lose? If she likes you back, great; don't forget those condoms! If she doesn't, you don't need that snob. Hurry up before she finds someone else!
I hope this helps, Good luck!
nicole
2007-03-21 20:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn.......that's tough man. If your that ugly maybe you shouldn't even risk the embarrassment of asking her out. Since she's probably going to say no anyway.
2007-03-21 20:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by masija420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go up to her and say ''you know and i know that i don't look that good but when you get to know me you will see it not the looks that count.'' but you got to remember that no one is ugly it just what you think that matters.
2007-03-21 20:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by badgerboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just let her get to know you first then there's more of a chance no matter what you look like
2007-03-21 20:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋