HELP...please... spoilt 3 year old?

Question

i mean i really need help
i have a 3 year old brother im 20 by the way andhe is really spoilt and shouts and screams the house down when he doesnt get what he wants so most of the time me and my mum just give him what he asks for to SHUT him up. but now hes geetting worse i mean he screams to stay at home and not go to nursery he screams to watch his favorite cartoon every minute of the day even when me and my mum what to watch something else and if we dont listen he will just carry on screaming and throwing things about until we finally give in ...we have tried everything but nothing seems to work he gets worse every day.we dont seem to be able to get through to him and make him understand that this behaviour is just not exeptable.please help. its really stressing me and my mom out
THANKS

Answer 1

Kezzy, I do not believe in hitting a child so I had to figure out a way to get my daughter to learn without harming her. When she was near 3 we went to a local department store. I did not have much money and she wanted a toy. I had to say no and she threw herself on the floor and started kicking and screaming. I threw myself down right next to her in the store and started kicking and screaming!! Of course, this behavior from an adult was drawing quite the crowd. My daughter got up and clenched her little teeth together and said for me to get up get up now. I smiled sweetly at her and said oh no I like pitching fits this is fun and went back to screaming and kicking. She folded like a house of cards begged me to stop and pretty much was totally embarrassed. After that whenever she would start to pitch a fit. All I had to say was -- Oh boy are we going to pitch fits? and her response was always, no, no we are not! Nobody is going to pitch a fit. -lol I suggest that you and your mother try this - quite frankly it shocked the stuffing out of my daughter. Good luck -k-

Answer 2

Take his hands, make sure you look right in his eyes and say NO and mean it. Keep doing this as often as you need to...sounds crazy but it works, I have had several screaming fit throwing kids in my preschool class...the type who crawl under the table and scream and scream when the have to pick up etc. Once they know you mean business and are consistent and stick to your guns and DON'T give in the behavior does get better. It may take some time since he is use to getting his way, but this is worth a try.

Oh, another thing, speak slowly and calmly when trying this method..don't raise your voice...just keep on repeating...for example: No, we are not watching cartoons right now...we are going to eat dinner at the table...also sounds strange, but it really does work.

I just have to add...I read the post above mine...3 year olds need to be with other kids...I don't know how many hours your brother is going to school, but my students are only at school three hours a day...we are not raising them, they are learning social skill s and how to get along with others and how not to throw screaming fits...they are having a good time, I promise!

Answer 3

I have a 3 year old and I understand what you and mum are going through. I say" you do not need to scream. There isn't a reason for it. No one will listen to you next time you scream. If you do it again you can sit in your room." Say it in a stern yet calm voice, so he knows he isn't affecting you. If he screams again without a word I take him into his room and make him sit with the door closed. Let him scream in his room.

Answer 4

You and your mom have created a monster. STOP giving in to his screaming and wanting things!!!! You can't reason with a 3 year old, so don't try. Start punishing him by putting him in a corner or on a chair and if he trys to get away then pull a few strands of his hair, that's what I did with my children. You have to try something before it is to late. When he gets older, you won't be able to control him and then what will you do.
Children should be disciplined as soon as they start to understand. This may sound harsh to you but you have to do something. You could also take his toys away from him, but do not give in to him, no matter what!!!!! Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Try to ignore him for awhile, like 5-10minutes. If he still keeps screaming go over to him and explan to him he is not the boss and he can not always get his way. Tell him screaming is not going to give him what he wants. Tell him when he is done screaming he can talk to you like a big boy.

Answer 6

Stop giving in! Put him in his room and let him throw his tantrum as long as he needs to. I don't like Dr. Phil, but that was one piece of advice I agreed with from him.

You are hurting him by giving in. Seek professional help as well, discuss it with his pediatrician.

Answer 7

he needs a good swat in the bum....and then you 2 need to just close him in his room and let him rant and rave without giving in. Get your earphones on with some nice music and ignore him. That's the only way that behavior will stop

Answer 8

have you ever heard this saying - all kids behave as well as they are treated?

well, children under 5 are severely damaged by going to nursery. the fact that he begs to stay home is so sad because it means he still hopes someone will actually raise him.

your mom has to stop sending him to nursery and raise him so he can be better disciplined and less angry. he's 'asking to stay home - how very very sad. his behavior is not acceptable, but it's because no one is raising him.

moms actually detach from their kids when they send them to nursery. this helps her ignore him when he's home, make excuses for not putting in the time it takes - he's not born knowing how to act, you know.

why is this poor little boy in nursery already? why have these little kids?

Answer 9

you need to say NO and stand your ground - he is three and winning the war - and he knows it! it will only get worse if you let it go.
have you tried time outs?
i personally believe a little tap on the butt doesn't hurt either.

Answer 10

if it is REALLY bad try talking to a pro. like Dr. Phil. I had a cousin like that and he was four at the time .....my aunt took him to Dr. Phil or one of those shows/pro's and he was never like that again.
iT MAY REALLY WORK

whatever you & you Mom decide to do I personally hope it works =]

GOOD LUCK - Lilli