Coming Out..?

Question

I am a Bi-Sexual christian, I live in Canberra Australia, but am moving to Melbourne soon.

I have told a few people, like my minister, and some close friends.

My main problem is my family, my mum is strongly against homosexual relationships. I can't tell her, nor do I want to live for her. I don't want to hurt my mum, she has a pride in me of being her only christian child, this would take away the fact that i am a christian.

I am worried she will find out from others i have told, but I can't keep it inside with the others.

Answer 1

Pay no attention to those who are posting rude things. You are who you are, born a bi-sexual just as I was born a straight female. Who you love matters not. It matters only that you love them.

As I see it, you have a choice. Either wait in fear for your mother to find this out from others, or get it off your chest and tell her yourself.

I wouldn't want to be in your shoes right now. This is going to be difficult no matter what you decide, and it may very well turn out to be a bad scene. Or things just might go better than expected, it's impossible to tell. Your mother may already have her suspicions.

Whatever you decide, you are right in wanting to live your life as best suits you. You cannot be happy and fulfilled if you are constantly worried about offending other people.

As for being a Christian...why not? There are gay Christians all over the world. It's no crime to be gay or bi-sexual, it's a way of life. This is a difficult time for you, and I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

You'll likely take this the wrong way, but....

if bi-sexuality isn't helping you, why practice it? Perhaps you should really re-assess the problem. Is sticking to a hetero-lifestyle really worse than disdain from your mother? As a Christian, you're supposed to surrender yourself, even your desires, to God to live Holy. I don't think dishonouring parents is a very good thing....

and again, it's all about the lifestyle, not the feelings. the lifestyle you can change on your own....the feelings....that'll take some work. I'd try and change to avoid having to say anything if I were you.

and lemme guess, this was taken the wrong way....

Answer 3

You should be honest with others. But mostly, you need to be honest with yourself. You cannot be a Christian and continue to excuse unrighteous behavior.
http://www.schneblin.com/studies/pdfs/homosexuality_qa.pdf

I do not wish to sound harsh, but I am trying to warn you. Do not think you can create a god of your own design and expect the Living God to ignore the idolotry involved. If you wish to serve Jesus with all your heart, you need to understand what it means when He says, "If your right eye offends you, cut it off and throw it far from you." Yes, you are very attached emotionally to homosexuality, but it would be better for you to cast it far from you than to enter the judgment with it intact.

I'm sure you will find many supporters here on Yahoo, and many will condemn what I say. But I care for you enough to take the slings and arrows to tell you the truth. If you want to be a Bi-Sexual, then go. But do not seek to excuse yourself by calling it Bi-Sexual christianity--the two do not mix and will carry a more harsh judgment in the end. Choose one or the other.

Answer 4

just because you are gay, that does not exclude you from being a Christian. Maybe in her eyes, but not in reality.

Answer 5

you cannot be a homo and a christian at the same time! for Jesus says, you will either love the lord and hate evil, or you will love evil and hate the lord! there is no in between! i will pray that would work a act grace in your heart as he did mine.

Answer 6

tell her, don't ask her if it's ok. You are who you are. You believe what you believe, and no one not even your family can tell you otherwise

Answer 7

It's better she hear it from you than anyone else...if she loves you, she will understand...