Hypothetically, would you criticize a person for NOT BEING ABLE?

Question

TO CARE for a mentally retarded child that is aggressive...when you have a normal child to raise???when they put the child in a Home for caring children???..i would NOT...just wanted your opinion..that is all...

Answer 1

I don't think anyone has the right to criticise unless they have been in the same situation themselves. It is not our place to judge others, maybe if people looked at them and offered help instead of criticism, things wouldn't be so hard for her.

Answer 2

I think everyone does what they think is right. I've never been around a mentally retarded person so I cannot say what I would do or what someone else should do. I have no idea what it takes to raise a child like that. Again though, I think each person does the best thing they know to do.

Answer 3

there is a difference between not being able to and not wanting to. my friend her sister is severely mentally retarded and is confined to a wheelchair. her sister is in her 20's and is at the level of a 5 month old baby. she has been living in a home since she was about 9 years old and its because as she got bigger and heavier it became difficult for her mother to care for her and her other children. so no, in a situation like that i would nto criticize anyone.

i have met children of all disabilities so i see first hand how difficult it is. u just don't know until u r in the families shoes. so i just would not criticize.

i would criticize the people who are abusing their MR children because they are so stressed out and don't know how to deal with it. thats just plain wrong.

Answer 4

That is a mater of choice, therer are so many pro's and con's. In my area they have like a halfway house for mental challenged people, they work, or get diability. In theses homes they are required to take care of their personal needs. Some can not, then they have advisors to help them. I think this is a good thing. They live there 24/7, as do advisors.

Answer 5

My former neighbor had a mentally handicapped teenaged son who was very sexually aggressive. He was a sweet kid, but I was afraid to spend any time alone w/him. I wouldn't fault a person who felt the need to move an agressive child to a facility where s/he could be closely supervised.

Answer 6

Nope. My sister has an agressive handicapped child whom she refuses to put in a home and I am afraid every day for my two other nephews. The child in question has already caused his younger brother to need stitches several times and has even stabbed him with a fork.

I wish she would look into more options but she adamently refuses..but at what expense? She is protecting one child because he has disabilites but is harming two more in the process.

Answer 7

NO, I would not criticize anyone in this situation. I would commend them for being honest with themselves and doing what they had to for the well being of themselves and ALL their children.
Any one who keeps a special needs child out of guilt or obligation is headed for trouble. They will not be able to handle it.

Answer 8

My opinion is.... I would not judge them at all. I have no idea what they are going through. Thats like judging someone for putting their elderly parents in a nursing home.
I think if they are doing the best thing for child, and not just whatever is convenient, then they are a great parent for it.

Answer 9

I wouldnt criticize. I dun think its rite tho. Sum cant help it. I have a mentally disabled brother who use to b aggressive when he got in his teens. My ma stuck by his side though it all. He isnt aggressive any more really. She raised 2 so called "normal" kids as well. I have a autistic niece who can be agressive at times. U shouldnt punish a disabled child. THEY CANT HELP IT!! If u love them u must stick by their sides through thick & thin. Its called tough love, suck it up :-) i wouldnt change my brother or niece EVER and i dunno what i would do w/o them. I love them despite their imperfection. Whose perfect anyways? No one! Would u like to be taken to a home bc of a flaw? I dun think so..

Answer 10

My mum went through this with my brother. She was a single parent of 3 and one was severly disabled and she was unable to care for him on her own so he had to go into care but we always went and visited and he was always involved with birthdays, xmas and all that stuff. If I hadn't seen my mum go through it I may be more critical of it but after living through it I can understand why it had to happen.