Was with my 1st bf 4 7 yrs and we split because i was socialising more hes 5 yrs older and we grow apart living together away from our family & friends put strane on us, plus he was texting some girl and that broke my trust for the first ever time. We got back together after 6mths, for 6mths but i enjoyed being single more so ended things, was all new 2 me. In dec last yr i contacted him as i missed him, found out a few weeks later i was pregnant with another mans child so he can with me to the abortion clinic. after the abortion my head was a total mess i went away 4 2 weeks and he was putting alot of pressure on me i had to end it again as all we were doing was arguing and crying, maybe i was being selfish thinking of myself not 2 sure wasnt in the best frame of mind. I saw him in the street last week, we argued and ended up making up, now i think i wanna get back with him but i dont wanna hurt him again, i never chucked out anything he brought me or things we had together. Help!
2007-03-21 12:20:39 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should we get back together, can it work having so much history and one anothers family and friends hating the idea. is anyone in the same situation or has been and can advise me. I care for him so much but dont want to hurt him.
2007-03-21 12:22:44 · update #1
if you have to ask strangers????...you know the answer already...
2007-03-21 12:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by amri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This looks to me like one person loving another while the other is just caring. Hes put up with all that you have done and helped you through it this is someone who loves you while you just care for him mostly because of the past you have together hence you don't want to hurt him.
Be true to yourself if you think the history you have with him can keep you together and still be happy then give it a go....this will be a sacrifice, otherwise you might get bored again and leave him like the 1st time because you want something else and you will hurt him again. Talk together and figure out what you both want in your relationship and most importantly in life.
Good luck
2007-03-21 19:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by JAM - Emotions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl start a new. There is going to be a trust issue, an what you did when we were a part issue, a you were pregnant by another man issue all kinds of issues. Love him enough to let him go. Find someone that don't know anything about your past and will love you for the person you are, Let him find someone and start a new. good luck!!
2007-03-21 19:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just let things be for a while. Get on with your life and studies and when you have graduated if you were meant to be together it will happen.
2007-03-21 19:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got bored reading it half way through
2007-03-21 19:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have got no confidence
2007-03-22 05:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by PAUL D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-03-21 19:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by xxfliteratixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋