How long should it take to get over someone?

Question

i just went through an ugly break up after a year and a half. I've had relationships that lasted longer, but I've never been in love the way I thought I was with this person. My recovery IS coming along; the fact that she was not at all the person I thought she was helps. In fact, it's as though I was just meeting her for the first time the day of the breakup. She was very cruel, very unfair, and her 'reasons' were bunk. I'm finding myself hung up in the anger phase right now. In fact, I hate her guts, but enough about her. I'm looking out for number one now. I really just wanna get her out of my mind and feel whole again. This anger's doing a number on me, though. How long would you say it should take to feel human again? It's been 2mos. since the breakup.

Answer 1

Ok. I am going through a nasty break-up too. It really helps me to get back to things that I did before my ex. Even though I may not be as happy as I once was and it will take time to get there, I look to each day as a new possibility. Just get back to things you did before you started dating, get back to old routines, or things that make you happy.

GOOD LUCK! Falling in love and getting over that person is super hard. I wish you the best! When I was angry I just jumped in my car and turned the music up too loud and cruised around for a bit ( cheating songs are the best!)

Answer 2

if your feelings are true, you should not need to ask how long it should take to get over someone. I myself broke up with my ex-wife back in september. I won't follow a book of how long it should take.

I am not the ruler of my Heart. I wish I was. But I'm Not. I have been sad and angery since it, and it has not gotten any less. I feel I do not know when this will end.

I would Never get back with her (as she never would with me), because I Know Now, just how slutty and dishonest she really was. That she had cheated on me and would again. A big flirt with others.

Yet I gave her everything I had cause I thought she loved me, untill I saw the truth in her actions.

I am so hurt that I have closed the doors to my heart tight. I won't date anyone ever again as far as I can see, it s all over.

This poison of memory hurts too much, and I'm tired. I will not get fooled again.

I'd rather spend the rest of my (hopefully short days, though i doubt it at 25), alone. instead of a chance of being in pain and fooled by yet another woman.

yet i wish at the same time, i had a woman to love me, yet im too danged hurt from the last. I KNOW my ex will move on, because she is a flirt, and a cheat.

She could have gotten lessons from a family member , whom was an angel .

Answer 3

actually I had a therapist tell me once that you should expect to "grieve" over a relationship for about half the time you spent in it. So if a relationship lasted a year and a half, you should be over it in 9 months. Of course this is a general guideline, and isn't set in stone. It could take a little less time or a little bit more.