ok i need help understanding her!!! she gets mad at me because i never include her in stuff when im with the guys, but i have spent more time with her than my friends since we started going out, so iv had to be with her friends.... so why does she get mad? or she gets mad if i like move to different seat at dinner to talk to the guys when she sometimes doesnt sit by me but goes to girls! the only times she is assertive like kissing me, holding myu hand, hugging me is when i kinda ignore her or get mad! i feel like im used kinda, like she only comes to me when she wants attention or needs to showen shes cared for.
but she tells her friends i neber include her and that she feels used! but i have to take all the ingnitiative in the relationship and stuff, she rarely tells me that she loves me unless i say it first.
also do i not compliment her enough? because she likes to get into arguements about her being ugly so ill keepy telling her shes not ugly and i love the way she looks. ??
2007-03-21 12:02:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
include her in one activity that you go to with the guys and see if she liked being in that group the next day.
2007-03-21 12:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her how u feel. Try to not say it kind of meanly- she might break up with u. Another thing is that it kinda sounds like shes using u. Don't let her do stuff like go talk to her friends at another table when ur on a date, or start complaining that she doesnt include u when she with her friends. Let her know how it feels. Im not trying to make u mean. I just want to tell u how to show her how it feels and not in a mean way. Always remeber this: TREAT OTHERS THE WAY U WANT TO BE TREATED. and honestly and aparently she doesnt know that rule. Good luck and I hope that helps!
2007-03-21 19:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by s k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man...you've already got some great answers
...But I'll give you a passing piece of advise.
Simple method of finding a good woman/girl FOR YOU....she doesn't have to appeal to your friends..or anyone else.
BE yourself...100% of the time. If she don't like it...dump her immediately...move on to the next one. It's a complex method of elimination I know, but it will eventually get you with someone you can spend your time with, without wondering what the &%$ you did wrong today.
Simply put, if you like watching footbal, scratching your @$$ and eating pizza on sunday afternoon with the guys, then she should enjoy the same, or have something else to entertain herself with while you do these things. DO NOT compromise yourself with a woman who thinks she can change you. If she balks the first day....get rid of her then, do not wait. If you do and she stays, she's got a plan....to help you change.
2007-03-21 19:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HER NOW
she sounds like the kind of person that only wants a boyfriend for the bragging rights. you know the whole "haha. i have a boyfriend and you dont!" or the attention seeking side i.e. "omg! my BOYFRIEND doesnt get me! he doesnt understand me! blah blah blah" you sound like you really are trying to be a good boyfriend. and it seems like you're doing a pretty good job. let her know how you're feeling and if she doesn't do anything to try to change, you know its time to let her go.
2007-03-21 19:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just wants a ton of attention...and she sounds really needy. Tell her to calm down and that the relationship shouldn't be about depending on each other so much.
2007-03-21 19:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes just asking for symathy. theres probably something going on within her. something deeper. u should probably talk to her about it and if u feel u cant handle it then i would advise u to get out of the relationship
2007-03-21 19:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what r u waiting for dump that hoe she proably thinks she can get what ever she wants do it while shes with her friends so shell really be feeling sorry
2007-03-21 19:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by lol love to laugh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW sounds like shes toying with you. Look into reverse psychology and use it on her.
2007-03-21 19:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by nighthawk159 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much baggage with this one dude..trade her in for a new and improved model...
2007-03-21 19:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their has to be someone better for you,
i wish you luck...
thats a tricky one....
2007-03-21 19:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋