I Have Fancied This Guy For Ages, And Boy Does He Know About It. We Had A Very Long Chat A Couple Of Weeks Ago And He Told Me He Has Always Liked Me Back, But Nothing Can Happen Between Us Since He Is A Jehovah's Witness, And They Are Forbidden To Date Non-Witnesses. We Then Snogged, And We Have Snogged Quite A Few Times Since Then. Thing Is, He Has Dated Non-Witnesses Before, But He Was Caught Last Time, Which Has Made Him More Wary This Time Around. We Both Really Really Like Each Other And It Isnt Just A Crush, But I Do Respect His Religion And I Do Feel Bad For Giving In When He Asked To Snog Me, Because I Dont Want To Take Him Away From His Religion, But Then Again I Am In Love With Him. Im So Confused And I Dont Know What To Do ! Someone Please Help !
2007-03-21 11:54:27 · 32 answers · asked by Beckaaaaa_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry about the capitals at the start of every word guys, i know its gramatically incorrect, but i think it looks better !
2007-03-21 12:03:58 · update #1
Oh yeah, and i am not going to convert either, even if i love him, i love birthdays and christmas too much! lol
2007-03-21 12:08:06 · update #2
In response to papa bear, i am not religious. And i have never even tried a cigarette. let alone do drugs, not that that has anything to do with the question !
2007-03-21 19:28:27 · update #3
The Scriptures clearly instruct a true worshipper to marry only another true worshipper.
(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a [marriage or other] covenant with them or their gods.
(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with [unbelievers]. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.
(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.
(Nehemiah 13:25) You should not give your daughters to [the unbeliever's] sons, and you should not accept any of their daughters for your sons or yourselves.
(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.
2007-03-26 07:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same place at one point in my life. Except it was with a Mormon boy. The thing that's really tricky about religion is that no matter how hard you work at something they always have the pressures of their faith pulling them back. I am sure that he is into you, and that he very much likes the time that he spends with you. Chances are when he gets around his family, and friends within the church he feels guilty and confused. By the sounds if he was "caught" before , that his family is putting the pressure on him to not cross religious boundaries. You know, there are only so many places in heaven (according to most religions) so they see anyone who is not of the same faith to be less "pure" then themselves. I went through it and its not fun. I understand how you must be feeling. If he really cares for you, and not just the "snogging" as you put it, then maybe he will eventually choose you over his faith. Don't count on it though because unless your part of it, you'll never know how much stress and guilt those in religious sects put on their members. I wish you luck!! Maybe things will turn out better for you than they did for me!
2007-03-29 10:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by indy_chic2376 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sharing common goals and beliefs with the person you want to marry is very important. Marriage is a real challenge, requiring many adjustments in behavior and attitude by both parties. Logically, the more you already have in common with your prospective partner, the easier those adjustments will be.
This helps us to see why the apostle Paul exhorted Christians to avoid becoming “unevenly yoked with unbelievers.” (2 Corinthians 6:14) Paul knew that marrying someone who does not share the same faith and understanding of Bible principles can create conflict and disagreement. The admonition to ‘marry only in the Lord’ is reasonable. (1 Corinthians 7:39) It reflects God’s thinking. Those who wisely follow it avoid many serious complications and problems. -- Proverbs 2:1, 9.
As about the guy you're talking about probably he isn't such a spiritual person if he did what you said or maybe he's not baptized or he's inactive. A true JW wouldn't do that.
EveyM is a big liar. We follow the Bible. We don't do immoral things . That's just a myth.
2007-03-22 10:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
But I Do Respect His Religion...
If you sincerely respect his religion then ask for a bible study. You don't have to be religious to start one. It will educate you in his beliefs and if you are interested in a long-term relationship or even marriage, then he can show you the requirements to become a JW.
And if you marry then you two can Snogg (Urban term for kissing) in public anytime you want. If he ends up being your soul mate would it be that hard to simply learn something that you did know about before? And have something more in common then before?
Maybe giving up something is small in comparison to a man that will stay at your side of the rest of your life? JWs are trained to treat their wives like pearls, does that sound like something you would have to give up to get?
2007-03-26 09:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by keiichi 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you are quite young yet and this IS just a crush. I am not sure what "snogging" is, but I will take it to mean "making out", or something like that and not actual intercourse.
You say you love this boy, but do you really know him? He is from a different "world" than you. He was raised with different convictions, values and beliefs than you. These differences often make a relationship with a non-believer impossible.
What concerns me is this boy is not honest. He is trying to deceive his congregation and his family. He is not being kind to you by further involving your emotions in a relationship that he is forbidden to have. Ask yourself what kind of person would do this? Is he showing love to you? Respect? No. He is simply trying to gratify himself, in a cheap and hurtful way.
I am a Jehovah's Witness, and I do understand that young people often let their emotions run away with them. This boy does not show the maturity level one would expect of a person entering a serious, commited relationship. Jehovah's Witnesses are taught that to treat their romantic interests with kindness, honour, and respect, and to have marriage in mind when dating. We do not date for recreation. It is unlikely this boy has you in mind for marriage, so in a sense he is just using you.
Be the bigger, better person and walk away before you are hurt. This boy is not for you, and he needs some guidance and some time to grow up before he pursues any more relationships.
2007-03-22 01:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by rachely1 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
First of all being a Jehovah's Witness is more than just saying you are, its a life style. He obviously don't want to life it. However maybe he lives with his parents and he doesn't want to embarrass them. If he isn't baptized he isn't one, so maybe that's why he is on both side of the fence. Why don't you study with JW's maybe you will understand his issues better. Snogged whats snogged? He is on his way out just give him time. Satan will encourage him and then he can be yours.
2007-03-21 12:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Elle 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Blue bell on this 1? hes not taking his religion very serious? hes snogging u????? so religion is just an excuse to go as far as he wants..... and then stop in the name of GOD .....AL AH...... WHOEVER??? and why should you feel bad if He asked YOU??? you are not forcing yourself on him, he is comming bac 4 more????
2007-03-29 02:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by x caroline x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with 2 JW's once. Maybe he thinks snogging you will lead to your conversion. Or he's not that much of a witness.
Ask him the ultimate question ... if he had to choose between you and his religion ... which would it be.
And why DO you start all your words with a capital? That's flippin hard work!
2007-03-21 12:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Part Time Cynic 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
As he is the one with religious beliefs, he should be the one worried about it. As it is, you are 'temptation' which is what they are trained to avoid but hormones speak louder than words! The Witnesses I know are fantastic people so you could just nip along to the local Kingdom Hall and show that you are respectful at least. Its a bit of a culture shock for non-witnesses but you can't knock what you don't know. My witnesses still call on me with cakes and Watchtowers so I love them all to bits.
2007-03-21 12:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
So what you are saying is you want to teach him how to violate his parent's trust and get away with it. Makes me wonder what else you are doing that also violates your own parent's trust, such as sleeping around, using drugs, and getting drunk. The issue is not religion here, it is trust. The trust of a parent that a child, regardless of age, will follow their lessons, even when not under their supervision. Clearly, either your parents have not teach you that, or you are also rebelling against them. So, what religion were you raised in that is so oppressive that you are rebelling against it, also?
2007-03-21 13:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋