I went on a date on sunday,it went v.well but he actually cut the date early as was hungover - but he assured me that it wasn't me & asked me to look up times for us to go ice skating soon. He said that he nearly cancelled the date as he felt crap - but he didn't want to - so i'm taking that as a good thing. When i got home i text him thanking him for a lovely evening & he replied that he'd had a good night & that he was sorry that he left early. Anyway - it has been apparent before the date that he is rubbish at getting in contact - returning texts etc - which he confirmed himself & i know that he is a busy person too with work. Anyway - it was my b'day yesterday & i thought that he would forget, i'd had a bit to drink and i tried calling him and it rang out. Anyway that was yesterday lunchtime and i still haven't heard anything and i'm getting worried that i will not hear anything now - i know that he has been online today too - if he can do that then why hasn't he got in touch? Help
2007-03-21 11:30:49 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is rubbish at keeping in touch..your relationship will never be happy because he wont change and you will always be annoyed..You are seeing the signs now..dont leave it until its too late.
2007-03-25 08:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted to see you again, even though he's very busy he would of made time. It's sometimes so hard to tell what another person wants. He could be playing games, he could be on line speaking to other women and if you have to wonder I don't think you should waste your time, just go out with someone else.
You'd probably want to mention that to him first.
And I'd be pissed If I were you I would have to demand him to take me ice-skating first, either way if he liked me or not.
2007-03-21 11:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my humble experience, if a guy likes you he is either on the phone to you or in your face. If a bloke doesn't get a firm next date from you when you are on the first one, I would take that as a no-chance. Guys are pretty obvious - if he wanted to, he would find time to text no matter how busy. I would cool down, take a deep breath and move on. If he chases you after that then okay but frankly I think you are worth the effort and he isn't making any. Shout 'Next'!
2007-03-21 11:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry gal but you have fallen for this guy and probably gotten so close to him in the short time you have known him yet it looks like he didn't get that close, hence you expect him to have remembered and even contacted you for your b'day. While other people might not realise that even when you have seen this side of him but still want him unfortunately we cannot control our feelings for people like him.
My advise give him some space and in the mean time train yourself not to have expectations ....hard as this may sound....but this way you don't get hurt or disappointed, unfortunately we sometimes have to learn the hard way...well i had to.
Good luck
2007-03-21 12:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by JAM - Emotions 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it, one date isn't much to get worked up about. Get yourself out and about and meet, and possibly date, a few more candidates. If this guy is interested he will get in touch, he might be busy disentangling himself from another relationship that's going nowhere so it may be a while. By then you should have met a few more to compare him with and might not be so keen!
2007-03-21 12:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by DEREK P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I know how frustrating this is. But the best thing for you to do is back way off and fill up your time with the things you like and with other dates. I don't mean to imply he's run off...I mean to say that if you were busy doing other things, you wouldn't be worried about how long it's taking him to call you.
Chin up sweets. He'll call when you least expect it.
2007-03-21 11:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Marina D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you need to relax. you have only known the guy for three days. if he has a busy schedule, then he could have been online for work or something not "personal related". Or, maybe he is going to suprise you later!
But, on the other side, if he keeps having this attitude about things for 2 weeks or more, then dump him. -if this is the case- you will finde someone who VALUES calling you and LOVES to hear your voice on the phone and KEEPS HIS PROMISE to call you back. believe me, my bf of 2 months and i got together after i had a sittuation kinda simmilar to yours!!!
best of luck!
2007-03-21 11:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just relax. Maybe he's busy and just hasn't had time to get back to you. Give him a couple days. If he still hasn't called, don't continue to call him!! If he doesn't call you, it's a clear sign that he's just not interested and you need to move on find someone worth your time. If guys don't call you back, it their way of saying "I'm just not into you" without having to actually say it. Sure, it's lame and childish, but guys would rather do that than actually tell you they don't want to see you again. Don't waste your time.
2007-03-21 11:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you ain't gonna like this answer, but you both sound like a couple of saturday night drunks....and if it were me, i wouldn't call either....but if i were you, i would not even give him the time of day, because if he had a hangover, then he has a drinking problem, and that is something you do not need...and if you and him need to drink beer or any liquor to have a good time then you both need to be in jail, for you are gonna kill someone on the road, and if he was hungover.....what the hell was he doing driving? he gets on the road, and i spot him or any drunk driver on the road, i will call the police and have him or anyone put in jail.....i have no tolerance for drunken drivers, they are nothing but a bunch of sad losers who drink their problems away and think its funny to do so
2007-03-21 11:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by phishsports 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why are you worrying yourself about this?? its obvious that you and him can not have a relationship because he's aready a lousy guy.. what do you think he's going to be like if he is your boyfriend? leave him alone before you get too emotionally attached.. you and him is not going to work unless he gets himself together.. either he's giving you the run around or he has a girl on the side.
2007-03-21 11:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by Blake 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋