I can usually blow off the way people act towards me, but with my husband's family, I can't.
We celebrated my Mother in law's birthday last weekend with everyone there. His sister is married to a loser; his brother married someone who had a kid, got pregnant when they were casually dating, and recently gave birth to a 3rd child. His brother's wife held up the baby to his sister and told the baby to tell "Auntie" to give her a cousin. We're approved and waiting for adotpion. We also have not ruled out biological kids. Why does it hurt so much when they do stuff like this?
I'd also like to mention is that the only thing my husband and I ever fight about is the way his family treats me. I'm supposibly the "bad influence" on everyone and was uninvited to Christmas. My husband was invited and I wasn't. His brother told him to "grow some balls and come without me" He stayed with me where he belongs!
2007-03-21 11:28:38 · 8 answers · asked by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They are trying to ruin your marriage. Talk to your husband. Tell him you do not want to separate him from his family, but you do not to let them ruin your marriage. Ask him to see them without you. I don't mean during family holidays; those he should spend with you. But he can visit them at other times.
It is easy to tell that they are trying to separate you two. These people actually UNINVITED you to Christmas. What kind of low class people do this? And the baby thing was just plain cruel.
Stay away from these people before they drive you crazy. They are already driving a wedge between you and your husband. Do not let them win.
Good luck. My in-laws were just as bad in a low key sort of way.
2007-03-21 12:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sisters husband is a loser, and the brothers wife likes to get pregnant outside of marriage, but you're the loser? HA. Who knows why they act so ridiculous. Maybe they sense that you dis-approve of them. I wouldn't have too much respect for people like that either. Especially when they go out of their way to be so insensitive. Its very painful when a spouse is treated badly, because for all intents and purposes, they (the in-laws) should become and act like they are your extended family. I hope your family is the complete opposite and treats your husband with love and respect, that way, he can actually see with his own eyes how unfair they are to you, and speak up and out on your behalf, and put them in their place when needed. As for you, just grow a thick skin, and make it understood to them, that the only reason you come around them at all is out of respect for your husband. Congratulations on your adoption!
2007-03-21 12:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I understand how you feel. My husbands family didn't like me much for a long time ( not sure if his aunt likes me yet) We have been married for four years and they are still rude to me sometimes it really hurts my feelings to. I just had to shrug it off and I told him that me and our daughter should come first in his life not his family because we are his family now and he has stood up for me any time since then. you dint have children yet but he needs to understand that he CHOSE to marry you and that you are his partner and that he should stand up for you when they are being rude to you. he needs to tell them if they cant be nice and accept you that they will end up losing him to. Good Luck!!
2007-03-21 11:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by mommieof1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a frightening hadith of Prophet(pbuh) I do not know the detailed phrases however the hadith is that If a Muslim see an oppression and makes a decision to not do something approximately it, does not condemn the acts of the oppressor via his middle or via his speech have the bottom degree of Emaan.
2016-09-05 11:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband needs to tell his family to show you respect or else. no one has to put up with this kind of treatment. if they cant treat you with respect stay away from them. good luck and god bless
2007-03-21 11:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by little bit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they did not invite you for Christmas, then scratch them off your list of relatives. That is unexcusable!
2007-03-21 12:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by pooty36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yikes, tough situation...but shouldn't your husband be on your side and defending you and telling his family to mind their own business? and i can't believe the uninvited you! how rude...
2007-03-21 11:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your husband he is right, god said what ever he put together let no man tear them a part. anyone that mess with this union trust me they will deal with god and i quote there arm are to short to box with him. start praying for them and you will see them differently.
2007-03-21 11:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by joan k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋