i am 19 yrs old and have been with my fiance over a yr now were plannin on movin in together the thing is i live in liverpool and will be movin to yorkshire i kno its a long way but i am really in love with him as he is with me were perfect together but every1 keeps sayin all stuff like "wot bout ur mum" and "you wont be able to cope" they dont understand iam really independant. why dont they want me to be happy i always thought that people learn by there mistakes i feel really in between i wanna move in with him so much and my mum loves my fiance she thinks were perfect for each other aswell so why are they makin it so difficult for me there makin me chose my fiance's not here as he's away in iraq and is based in yorkshire so he cant move down to liverpool am so messed up i dont wanna lose him and am scared that my mum and that will try there best to pesuade me to stay also my dads not speakin to me coz i wanna move please help am desperate xxxx
2007-03-21 11:24:26 · 8 answers · asked by army chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i kno were ur coming from but he's been away in iraq since september and doesnt come home till may to me thats a long distance relationship and were still together and stronger than ever i just wanna be with him wen he comes home and really start our lives together
2007-03-21 11:35:51 · update #1
hey my daughter is very happy in Yorkshire with her hubby she can't stay with me forever, it is nice to see her happy go for it girl my son in law was in the army too I now go visiting them and my grandsons, its not that far away, stop worrying you can visit too. good luck in your new home in Yorkshire the people are really friendly and make fab fish and chips.go where your heart is be happy together xx
2007-03-21 11:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by susan will of the wisp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 19, which means you can make your own decision.
I moved up to yorkshire from kent, I'm back in kent now, but if you want to give it a go with your man then your family should respect your decision,
it is hard for a parent to let go, but on a routefinder i just looked at Liverpool to Hull, East Riding of Yorkshire and at 125 miles its a couple of hour drive, Obviously it depends on where in yorkshire, I lived in 2 villages and the scenery is second to none, its lovely!
You will be moving to be with your man, who wont be there all the time as he works away... Your family are trying to protect you, you may get very lonely in a new place without knowing anyone...
Why not try to promise (and keep to it as best you can) that you will drive / travel back once a month for an overnight stay? and let them know they can do the same? This way you get to see them, they dont feel you're running away, and if you do get lonely or homesick you already have regular visits planned.
2007-03-21 11:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your life Hun and people will spout their advice, that's normal, i have kids and a 19 year old daughter who is mature. She has done OK so far but still needs her mum sometimes, let your mum know that you want to do this, but if it goes wrong can you come home that's is all she wants to hear and i am sure u will call her all the time. It will be lonely when ya fellow is away, taking it as he is in the forces, so apply for a job on the base and go to the social clubs for wives and girlfriends. so you are not isolated. good luck let me know how it turns out x
2007-03-21 11:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by squawinpants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can see that you think your independent, but its different when you have to do it on your own. im not gonna patronise you though, coz i dont know you well enough to judge. all i can say is that why dont u just keep your engagement to your fiance and just have a long distance relationship, it will show the strength of your relationship and you dont fall out with any of your family. if you want to make a drastic change in your life like that, you need alot of suppot- you cant afford to lose your friends and parents. good luck xx
2007-03-21 11:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by chatterbox15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i am a mum! if my son was in your situation i would not hold him back. as long as i knew he was safe and looked after then i would be happy for him. i would make sure he knew that he always had a home to come back to should he need to. i would be devastated at him leaving home but would hope that he will follow all his dreams and ambitions without letting me and his dad hold him back. you need to stand on your own two feet at some point in life and if you feel ready then follow your heart. make sure you explain all of this to your mum and dad. they will find it hard but will evenually understand. like you said. you learn from mistakes. us mums can only advise you and love you unconditionally....thats why we catch you when you fall!!! good luck sweetie and i hope everything works out for you. my advise to you is never look back and think what if! reach for those dreams! better to regret having done something than to sit on your bum and do nothing in life! xx
2007-03-21 11:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me.... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you sat down and told your mam all of this. i think you should go and live with your boyfriend that what i would tell my daughter i would be sad that she moving but it will not be for ever you could tell your mam that you want her to visit you lots and that you will come to see the when your boyfriend is away. your dad will come round their just finding it hard to let go good luck x
2007-03-21 11:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people do learn by there mistakes, that's probably why they are being the way they are. if you go try and make amends with your family,and tell them you are in this to last. god i wish you all the best, and hope that you are happy, good luck sweetheart,x
2007-03-21 11:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by honey xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family...sometimes get scared of a loved one moving away...they feel they will never see them again...it's your choice..your decision...they are scared for you..reassure them and all the best....x
2007-03-21 11:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by amri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋