I've known my bf for about 1.5 years, and we've been dating for the past nine months. We have an amazing relationship, and are very close. He's been so good to me, and so good for me. We spend evenings and weekends together, and just got back from a two-week trip together. Love!
He's recently been making slips of the tongue. A lot. At random times, mostly when we're falling asleep, he'll say "Will you marry me?" Most of the time he realizes what he's saying and will change it mid-sentence or just sort of trail off. He's also said "Will you be my (pause) girlfriend?" to which I say "of course", laugh, and just give him a kiss. I've BEEN his gf.
Does he mean anything by this, or am I just reading too into things? I generally just let it slide, because I don't want to make him uncomfortable. We both think people need to date at least a year before getting engaged.
I think it's adorable, and would be thrilled to marry him, just not yet. Is there a better way to react?
2007-03-21 11:17:42 · 29 answers · asked by Ehlena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he is trying to build up the nerve to ask you and does it when he thinks you will not hear him. He could also be testing you to see how you would respond. Make sure you talk to him and tell him how you feel about him and how you feel about marriage, let him know that you love him but your just not ready for marriage yet.
2007-03-21 11:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you are right in waiting for a year before you get engaged. Very smart. Don't be afraid to bring that up if that is something you guys have discussed before. I know that 3 months doesn't seem like it would make that big of a difference, but it really does. Be honest with him, that you DO want to marry him, but you want to wait until the year mark before you make it official. Make sure that he knows you aren't rejecting him, or the idea, and stroke his ego, because believe it or not, he will take it beyond personal if you don't. Any guy will say that they won't, but they will. If you guys do have the great relationship you say you do, then he will be ok with you both talking about it.
Hope you had fun on your vacation, and good luck!
2007-03-21 11:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is testing the water before he takes the plunge.
By that I mean.. He is probably just trying to make sure you would actually say yes before he buys a ring and gets rejected. Find a creative way to let him know that you would marry him if he asked you, and I'd put money on it that he will pop the question about a week after you drop him some clues.
Good luck! and Congratulations in advance!
2007-03-21 11:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you had a really serious conversation and agreed that you need to date a year before getting engaged. So when is that year up, exactly? Sounds like it would be summertime - so when he makes these little 'slips of the tongue', say immediately, 'Ask me that in the summer' and turn over and go back to sleep. If he ever questions you about it, you can remind him of the conversation you had. Don't press him about it - let him surprise you with a romantic proposal.
2007-03-21 11:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend's a dork... but in a sweet way. He's probably thinking about proposing to you and says it as s joke to test your reaction. If he asked jokingly and you said, "Ewww! NO! I could never marry you!" then he's gotten the answer without having to buy a ring, set up a surprise and embarrass himself. A guy would NEVER let that "slip" if he wasn't thinking about doing it... for real.
2007-03-21 11:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by Just gorgeous dahling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure he really thinks ya'll need to date for a year before ya'll get engaged? he may just be agreeing without really feeling that way. he might just be testing the water to see how you will react especially since he is doing it at times or in ways were he can change it up or blame it on something else. talk to him about it he might just be feeling a little more than you think
2007-03-21 11:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue doing what you've been doing.. not really acknowledging it to him too much cause things haven't gotten weird. its obvious that he really cares for you and see you as the woman he would like to see a future with. he's not ready thats why he hasn't completely popped the question, he just have that thought in mind. give your relationship another year or 2 before thinking about an engagement. i see things are good between you and him as you described.. continue to flow with that path.
2007-03-21 11:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Blake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to ask but is afraid that you might not be ready or that the answer may be no...
Casually mention how great it would be if you guys were married... Let him know how you feel about it, without directly confronting him about it...
Then let him take it from there :)
Good luck, and by the sounds of it, congrats!
2007-03-21 11:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by *meh* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that he is working on a way to ask you but is trying to keep it secret until the time is right to surprise you. But keeps almost ruining his on surprise as it is always on his mind.
If your relationship is as strong as you think sit him down and have an open honest conversation about this and see what is up.
2007-03-21 11:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by debcat76135 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is probably thinking about it but doesnt know how youll react. Maybe bring the subject up in a fun way or talk about marriage, just say so wheres our relationship going next. And then you can voice your idea of waiting alittle longer. he probably wants to ask but is to afraid your not ready and doesnt want the rejection.
2007-03-21 11:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by resqshanna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋