At what age is the appropiate age to date...?

Question

Because, I'm 16 and I haven't had a boyfriend since second grade. I feel like such an ugly freak!!!! Everybody in school, has or had a boyfriend. Even my best friend and we practically have the same personality...shy! I dunno, if I'll ever get a boyfriend. Because when I'm older I do want to get married, and eventually pregnant. What's up with me?

Answer 1

You're at an ok age to date, at 16. However, a couple of comments concern me. "I haven't had a boyfriend since 2nd grade" and "I feel like such an ugly freak". 1st things 1st. What are you doing, having a boyfriend at 8 years old? Nothing to be done about it now, but geesh, girl, that was way too young and if you're judging that to where you are at today, then it tells me you're still thinking somewhat in the past and a lttle bit like that little 8 year old girl. You need to grow up as you grow older (I mean that with no intent to hurt your feelings). Maybe that's part of the reason that you don't have a boyfriend. Or maybe you're trying "too hard", and that scares the boys off. The 2nd thing was, you know you're not a freak and I'm willing to bet that you're as pretty as a rose petal, floating down a mountain stream, on a moonlit night in the Rockies. Ok, maybe I sapped it up, a bit, but I'm sure you're pretty enough. But ask yourself, have I been trying too hard to land a boyfriend? That tends to scare guys off, as a rule. You said that you are shy. If that's the case, then be more mysterious, along with it.. Be more unassuming and they will be more intrigued. I know it's not easy to change mannerisms but work on it. Be that girl. If you want, try instead, another avenue...more outgoing. It's hard to get a boyfriend if you don't even try talking to one. But don't worry about how many "other girls" have or have had boyfriends. Key word, "have had". That means that they never lasted (of course, you're still young, and it's a learning process) and therefore nothing more then a footnote in history. Smile, girl. I'm sure you'll be fine. Just don't be so hard on yourself.

Answer 2

Have patience. The guys in high school are too immature and don't like to commit. Don't get a boyfriend just to have one. Is there anyone really worth being with....really? Work on yourself, your interests and hobbies, if you're not in shape start going to the gym or find a physical activity that you enjoy. The best way to meet a good guy is to be an interesting and diverse person. You may not meet someone right away but when you meet the right one he will fall for your personality and your good looks will be just a bonus.

As for the original question. The appropriate age to start dating is a hard question. 16 isn't unreasonable, but don't get yourself into situations where you're alone with the guy and feel pressured to do things you don't want to do. Under 16 you should mostly be "group dating" meaning go out on double and triple dates only. Once you're an adult you can be alone if you want to but just be careful not to do anything that you'll regret.

Answer 3

There is no age. Some people might date later on in life. What i mean is you need to be mature enough to date and ready to date a person because dating leads to marriage and children. Some people when they feel that they are not ready they wait to be 20 or 25 or 30 and 35. Depends on level of maturity.

Answer 4

I haven't dated since i was in 4th grade and i watch ma friends date. I think u could be at least 11 to date. There is no appropiate age to date because u can fall in love in any age. If u feel like u really want a love, i guess u could ask a boy ask. Its not that normal but its ok.

Answer 5

nicely, I wasn't allowed as much as now until eventually i grow to be sixteen. besides the shown fact that, i grow to be allowed to go out in communities. i think of 15 is a sturdy "group age." As on your little sister ought to go out with a collection of persons (inclusive of whoever she's crushing on on the time) fairly than with basically one guy. At fifteen, a woman would not ought to be relationship around. She ought to have numerous friends, no longer attempt to concentration on a undeniable boyfriend. I in specific circumstances see people asserting that 10 is a sturdy age for relationship (or some thing the two idiotic). i do no longer understand that. i basically won't be able to imaging a fourth or a 5th grader relationship all of us. I recommend, they might't even rigidity for God's sake.

Answer 6

17

Answer 7

What's the big rush?!?

May I remind you of how young you still are?

Take your time; you have your whole life ahead of you if you behave appropriately & maturely!

If you feel the irrepressible need to be around the opposite gender, make friends with boys, by all means, but don't date them just yet!

That will come later when you're emotionally mature enough to handle the full impact, consequences, ramifications & repercussions a sexual, intimate & committed relationship can have on a human being.

Be patient.

It will happen.




In the meantime, take it easy & enjoy your safe & carefree youth!

Answer 8

Hon, you are 16. High school dating is pointless for 99% of the population anyway. Have fun with your friends and concentrate on school and when the time is right, further down the road, you'll find someone.

And NO ONE should be dating in grade school!! That's just ridiculous!

Answer 9

who cares...im 17 sure i had a gf when i was 15 but that lasted a whole 2 weeks cuz we didnt rlly hang out ever...seriously the whole bf/gf thing is very overrated...its high school u should be more concerned with havin fun with friends then havin a bf...on average once u graduate high school u will not see 90% of ur friends ever again with exceptions of class reunions...so id make memories with ur friends while u still can...u have all of college and the rest of ur life to find ur future husband and babies daddy.

Answer 10

you're just wise minded, dating is forminds involved with feelings deciding futures,negociating a marriage , but , what youngteens do today is just playing with sex , one day they will have kids ...and will see why that is really not a very good example, or a past nice to remember (you dont want to be called a whore..hu?) any way , i am not against dating i am against ruining your life when is not time even to face responsabilities, hold on.....the best is yet to come , make yourself more and more valuable so the really good guys go after you when is time and when is real dating time.