Should I be upset if my boyfriend only likes me because I look like a certain celebrity?

Question

Ok here's the problem: I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 months now, I've noticed in his room he has TONS of pictures of Kate Moss. I thought it was no big deal he just had a crush on a model most of us have one on some celebrity...but the other day he told me the reason he started talking to me was because he thought I looked like Kate Moss. I don't see the resemblance, but he seems to. I know its probably not that big of a deal, but I just feel upset because he only got to know me because I looked like a copy of somebody. Should I be upset?

Since a lot of people seem to not know her .. kate moss is some model my boyfriend seems to have a fantasy about. I dont know how he found out about her but she is a well known model. here's a pic:
http://www.quepasa.com/newsimages/gallery372/1/Kate%20Moss.jpg

And no he doesn't make me dress like kate moss or act like her or anything, this is the first time he's mentioned it.

Answer 1

No, don't be upset. It just means he finds some of your features similar- and ATTRACTIVE. So you look like his "type"- Thats OK.

Answer 2

Okay, so now that he's gotten past his initial attraction to you, what does he think of you? Most of us are attracted to people initially for superficial reasons -- a great smile, a certain eye or hair color, the way a person walks. Appearances are usually what first catch our eye and make us keep looking until we eventually get the nerve up to make contact. It's what happens after that that counts. Does he make you dress like Kate Moss? Does he insist on calling you Kate? If so, then yes, you should be upset, but if not, then I don't see what the problem is. As long as he loves you for the individual that you are.

Answer 3

You should only be upset if he's dating you because you are the closest to kate moss as he can get and if you were to get into an accident and all your physical characteristics were distorted he would dump you. Otherwise think about this for a minute. Would it have been different if he told you he only approached you because he thought you looked attractive to him? I would surely hope not because looks are the only thing someone can work with if they dont know you and you have never said a word so they have nothing else to work with but what they see.

I would say your boyfriend understand's beauty in a different way. To him when he thinks of beaty he thinks of Kate Moss when you think of beauty what do you think off?

And by the way who the hell is Kate Moss? never heard of her

Answer 4

I would be kind of worried because this might mean that when he's with you, he's only thinking of Kate Moss, and not the real you. But if he only means that he got to know you because you looked like her, then don't stress! He probrably likes you for you with the bonus that you look as good as a celebrity!

Answer 5

Most people do go on looks when they first meet someone. You wouldn't approach a nasty person in hopes of him being a romeo, right? That is probably all he did. And if you have been together for 3 months, there is more to your looks. I am sure he just found your very attractive and wanted to get to know you. So to answer your question, I wouldn't be upset...I would be flattered...because not only are you beautiful, you are what he wants every where else, too.

Answer 6

Well it's a yes and no situation. I mean yeah it's rude that he only spoke to you to begin with for the fact that you looked like km. But let's not pretend here, I mean a good portion of first impressions have to do with physical attributes. The only people who can claim this is false and mean it, are blind people. Only, things aren't really to the extent where someone might say "I spoke to you ONLY because you looked like KM." That's kinda shallow, but whatever.

The important factor here is why is he still with you? If all he comes up with is the same response, then you are not only entitled to walk away but as far as i'm concerned you can leave a five fingered red spot on his cheek as a going away gift.

If he's still with you because of the person you are and not the person you look like then no harm no foul.

And as I tend to always bring up in my relationship comments...us guys can be a stupid breed. He may've been thinking he was complimenting you, but didn't really say it the right way.

Answer 7

He said he *first talked to you* because you looked like Kate Moss, I don't think that's the whole reason he's dating you, but I may be mistaken. I think it's fine to be upset about something like that. Looks are nice, but being dependent on them is shallow and you need to get that message to him. Good luck.

Answer 8

If he only likes you for your face, then yes. Ask him what he likes about you besides your face and figure out from there. He can't really be that superficial.

But personally, his fetish sounds scary. If he has TONS of pictures and is looking for a girl that resembles her, that MIGHT be okay. But if he starts calling you Kate, run.

Answer 9

hes a retard kate moss is ugly shes a skinny wannabe probably dying as we speak from lack of nutrition i dont think you want someone to compare you to a drug addicted anorexic pencil....he has issues for saying that to you tell him you need a brake to think about what the relationship really means to you and tell him to do the same

Answer 10

Well, it's okay if that's the reason he talked to you in the first place. But after that, ask him, does he still have the same reason for talking to you? What about the relationship? Is he in it just for your looks? If he says yes, leave him! You deserve someone who would love you for who you are, not because of your looks.

Answer 11

Well, it's what first attracted him to you. I say if things have grown deeper and beyond that, then it's no big deal. However, if you feel that it's all about he looks with you on his arm, and there's no real depth, then, yeah, that's a bummer. Find a man with a heart, not just eyes.