i got some great answers and this is really allot of help to me.thanks everyone....my girl friend of 3.5 years broke up with me 3 months ago.she started to see someone else right away.now we are talking and would like to get back together.but she don't know how to end the relationship she in now..she said she doesn't want to hurt his feelings.and waiting for the right time...(when he screws up again).....how can she get out of that relationship before more time passes and his feelings will be hurt.she say im in her heart for marriage.
we do talk ,i do see her once a week.everything looks promising .i told her to tell him you still have feelings for me..i have asked her to end it as soon as possible,before to much time goes by and he wont be so hurt...she says its too late for that
2007-03-21 10:50:11 · 13 answers · asked by David 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, but she loves him( has feelings for him). If she is waiting for him to screw up, she is giving him a chance which shows that she loves him. And sorry but you are the string just in case something goes wrong between them.
2007-03-21 10:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell him she needs a break from their relationship to sort out her own life right now. She has problems that have come up and she needs time and space to deal with them. They are of a personal nature and so he can not help her with them. She should ask for some time off from there relationship for like a month and then see if her problems are less at that time and if so consider getting back together, but if not then she would ask for several months and reassess. Maybe over a few months this process will end up letting him down gently and allow her to get back to you without a lot of unnecessary drama. We don't need more drama in our lives.
2007-03-21 17:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me she is trying to have her cake and eat it too. She wants the guy she is with but she also wants a little of you on the side. This is an issue that SHE needs to deal with as it reflects some uncertainty on her part. She either doesn't know what she wants or she just wants both of you. Her intentions may be good in not wanting to hurt anyones feelings but frankly that is a lame cop out. This is life and sometimes you have to be the bad guy. When someone says "i dont want to hurt him" they rarely mean it. It is probably just that she isn't sure herself. Most people don't have a problem being the bad guy in relationships.
2007-03-21 17:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH NO.
If she really wanted to marry you, she wouldn't be afraid to leave a guy she has been with for 3 months. She left you at the drop of a hat after 3 1/2 years to be with him, and she won't leave him after 3 months to be with you? She's very DECEPTIVE. Run, run while you can. I know it's VERY difficult to walk away from such a long relationship, but you have to know that staying with her (or getting back together) will mean more pain for you than staying away from her ever could, and you will just end up breaking up again in the end anyway, because her heart obviously isn't in it for real.
2007-03-21 17:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by IQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so she's waiting for him to "screw up" so she can break up with him, but she doesn't want to hurt his feelings? Oh criminey. A break up is a break up. He'll be hurt either way. She needs to tell him that she's enjoyed her time with him but she wants to have her freedom now. That would be much less painful for him than waiting for him to "screw up" so she can dump him. I'm not really sure you ought to want this girl back. How do you know she won't do the same thing to you some day?
2007-03-21 17:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude this girl was seeing this guy before she broke up with you. If she wants to be back with you then she will break it off straight away just like she did with you after 3 and a half years. You really gonna take her back that easy?
2007-03-21 17:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a trick question?
This is the same question you asked yesterday, are you looking for an answer that you want?
She is lying to you, she had sex with him before she dumped you the first time, she is lying to him, she cheated on you, she is cheating on him, she will cheat on you again and she didn't have a problem hurting your feelings so why doesn't she want to hurt his?
You really are having a problem understanding this aren't you?
2007-03-21 17:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! she's got issues. u need to make sure u aren't becoming the man on the side in her new relationship. she needs to have strength to break it off with him if she really wants to. ask urself why she cares so much about hurting him if she really wants to be with u?
u can probably do better...u can't make her end it, she needs to do it on her own. maybe if she knwos u'll be gone of she doesn't it'll make her do it. but i wouldn't bet onit. sounds like she takes u for granted in a really big way!
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please listen to Just a Friend. he's right. SHE DOESN"T CARE ABOUT U! MOVE ON! if she cared, she wouldn't be worried about hurting him! i know ur probably looking for one of us to tell u to stay with her & help her end her relationship, but that would be crazy. u can do better! good luck
2007-03-21 17:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by RedDevyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the other dude is really into her than there is no good time to do it. She should do it as soon as possible because he is getting more and more attached as time goes on and she needs to let him know how she really feels.
2007-03-21 17:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by joeinchino2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she remembers dumping your sorry a$$, then she might have some insight how to end a relationship
2007-03-21 17:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by lovesyourdiamond 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋