So I was going out w/a guy for 2 1/2 yrs. and things were good and bad. Ups and downs type of thing. Anywho, I broke it off completely and even started dating someone else because I'm not the type to do the on and off thing and he went and did his own thing cuz he needed space. Then he comes back and says that he can't live without me, blah blah blah and wants to get back. Well, I was dating someone so I didn't but things work out with the other guy and I started seeing my ex again. We've stayed on this "seeing" thing but I've told him that I wanna have a serious relationship (maybe not with him if it's not meant to be) but he tells me he's not ready for a serious relationship. After 2 1/2 yrs our parents still haven't met cuz he's not ready. He's 28 and I'm 23. So I stop calling him and stop seeing him and tell him I'm moving on and he calls me and tells me he misses me and wants to see and what not! What the hell is going on?! Can someone explain to me?
2007-03-21 10:46:11 · 7 answers · asked by batchick5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is scared to commit. He is scared of the responsability that he might have if there is a commitment. He does love you but its on you if you want to continue with him.
2007-03-21 10:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Games are what's going on. Leave the 28 yr old alone. When i was 21 i was in a similar situation. I dated a 28yr old guy who never wanted to make it clear what we were for the two years we dated. I was confused all the time and wanted to loose my mind. He used to always tell me the reason we are not getting serious is because "We are on different pages in our life" When i got tired of the madness i broke it off. He disappeared for about 6 months then reappeared and would try to convince me to get back together with him. So here is the PUNCH LINE. about a year ago i found out that the two years that we were dating or rather the two years when i was wasting my time with him he was busy dating about 4 other girls. At the age of 23 you need to realize that when men want something they go after it, if they act confused or something else apart from completely inteterested they are not being honest with you, its just that acting confused and unsure is their way of telling you that they are just using you to keep busy until they find that woman they are looking for.
I suggest you read a book by Dr. Phil titled Love Smart. I am not a big supporter of Dr. Phil as a matter of fact i think his show is a bit on the shaky side but this book actually provides very good knowledge on how most men think.
Good Luck!
2007-03-21 17:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by Wondering.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just like the chase or he's really not ready for a serious relationship. If you want a serious relationship then tell him straight out that the only way he can have you is if he consents to a serious relationship and that you won't deal with a fickle relationship. If he really misses you as much as it sounds then he'll agree, but if he doesnt then dont waste your time.
2007-03-21 17:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by theother_littlesoldier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd guess he's keeping you on the string because he's hoping to find someone else, but till he does, at least he has trusty old you. If he really, really cannot live without you, and he means it, he will show up at your house with a 10 piece marching band, red roses, and an engagement ring, and he will mean business. Until he does that, ignore him and make him go away.
2007-03-21 17:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kyle 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I hate this on again off again thing. If he is not ready and you are, well then he should allow you to find someone who is. This is not fair to you. If this thing with you and him is meant to be, it will, just don't waste your time like I did for someone like him which never happend and so I look back and wasted 4 years of my life.
2007-03-21 17:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is using you. besides hes a little to old to be playing games and you still young and should have fun. Your not going to get to for much longer. If he seriously wanted you he would have said so.
2007-03-21 17:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
besides the fact that he is a user, he probably has another girl. And she has met his parents already so he has to hide you from them or they will say something.
2007-03-21 17:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by B.C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋