My daughter is almost 19 and doesn't live at home. This past week, she took my debit card out of my purse and spent almost $200. I was out of town, so it took me almost 2 days to realize it was gone. I contacted the bank, cancelled the card and transferred all of my remaining money into another account. I left her a message (she wasn't answering my calls) that the bank had said I would have to press charges before they could re-imburse my account due to her making withdrawals from the ATM. She never responded.
This isn't the first time she has taken money from me. Over the past couple of years, she has written herself checks from both my account and my oldest daughter's account. I've learned that it's not safe to leave cash ANYWHERE in my home. She's not working at the moment and I help out when I can while maintaining my own household.
Other than this problem, she's a great kid with a good heart. What would you do if it were your daughter?
2007-03-21 10:39:57 · 13 answers · asked by justaquestion4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to report her because if you dont this will never stop. Tough Love sometimes is the answer. Sorry hun but think of it this way...maybe she'll learn her lesson after sitting in jail for a little bit. She will hate you for awhile but she'll get over it.
2007-03-21 10:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great child or not , hard to believe she has a good heart if she is stealing, have her arrested it is a small amount this time and if she has done it in the past she will do it again except next time it may be from someone not a family member and more money.
Check the laws in your State, but in most States once it reaches a certain amount it is no longer considered petty theft a misdemeanor, but it is considered larceny and then it becomes a felony.
If she has to spend a couple of nights in jail, do not bail her out because lesson will not be learned if you do, and some community service.
You are not teaching your daughter any life lessons by allowing her to act on this behavior and get away with it.
2007-03-21 12:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably thinks she's still your responsibility. She's 18 and has decided to move out, teach her a lesson and tell her that if she wants to be respected as an adult, then she had better take care of her own finances. That kind of behaviour should not be tolerated -- it is against the law and against the will of God. Demand her to pay back whatever money she owed for stealing your debit card. Or else, you will (and this you should do) definitely press charges just so she learns a lesson. If she doesn't straighten up, give her a beating.
2007-03-21 10:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to get a debit card - with a bank that you have a checking account with. Check your local main street for a bank. Alternatively you can get a pre-paid credit card. But you are right - until you are 18 and legally able to sign a contract you cannot get a credit card
2016-03-28 22:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all defending her with the she's a great kid with a good heart does not cover up for the fact that she is an adult and is stealing from her family.
You need to press charges, this is not going to stop until you put your foot down and no longer support her.
She is living the lifestyle of a thief, and will continue to be one unless you put a stop to it.
Good luck to you and your family.
2007-03-21 11:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is a constant behavior, then she is not a good kid. You need to press charges. It is harsh, but the fact that you never have before has taught her that she can steal from you with impunity and you will do nothing about it. If you don't now, she will never stop stealing from you.
2007-03-21 10:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make her pay you back and if she refuses, you could file a report with the police. She is stealing whether she is your daughter or not. If she can steal from her own mother, she is capable of stealing from other people, too. You would be helping her by getting her in a little trouble.
2007-03-21 10:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Breinn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is an adult.
you can tell her to get a job and repay you the money she stole, with in a certain time frame .& If she does not repay you tell her you will press charges.. and do it!!!! I know it will hurt but its the only way shes going to learn. You want to teach her about life.. If shes stealing from the family now just imagine if she contuines to get away with it.
2007-03-21 10:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by sunshineinohio 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
treat her like an adult. I know its tough love buy you need to set boundaries or she will think it is okay to do this and she can get away with it. I know it will be hard but u need to press charges.
2007-03-21 10:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would show her she is never to old to get the switch,and I would make her get a job and pay me and her sister back every dime.
2007-03-21 17:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by fonda t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋