Me and my girlfriend have been dating about a year and 5 months. Well, its been 6 months since we last had sex, after 8-10 months of sex every day sometimes 3 times a day. We had fights before because I wanted sex and she said that thats all I wanted from her, and to her, ive made the sex a big issue in our relationship. Although I reasurred her and I told her, if she thinks thats all I want then why am I still with her even after 6 months of no sex. I love this girl to death She claims to love me, although shes not a very affectionate person. Can there be a good relationship without sex? Is she still attracted to me even tho she is not having sex with me? Can this be because I was a virgin when I had sex with her that I crave sex so much? I am willing to try to work with it, but i am afraid that she might be cheating on me, which she never has given me a reason to think that. Could she still be interested in me? Can she really love me as much as I love her even without the sex?
2007-03-21 10:32:26 · 13 answers · asked by bad2bone2212 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what do people mean by giving the girl the cold shoulder??? We also have been arguing alot lately, but we are happy sometimes also. Should I also try to become her really good friend? Please give me more suggestions, all of these answers are great, as i love this girl and I would do anything for her.
2007-03-21 10:41:19 · update #1
I really do love her. at this point i wouldnt care if i got it 3 times a day, just once that would still let me know that she is all mine mind body and soul. i really do believe in making love, not just having sex, although our hormones in the beggining of the relationship were out of hand. I love this girl so much and it hurts me every time we argue, because these arguments happen more and more frequently as time goes by and I hate arguing because I love her so much. she is not a very affectionate person, but she still shows me a little affection.
2007-03-21 10:52:35 · update #2
You need to get over this girl. She has created a psychological situation with you that is about power that she has over you. I don't care what she is or does or did. She is engaging in a very unequal relationship and it's not about love and mutual enjoyment and SHARING! It's about her having power over you. I can understand not having sex during a 1 or 2 week tiff, but this is really out of hand and you need to see this for what it is and not what you want it to be, wish it were or hoped it could return to. She is on a one way street and it's not going back to were you've been. Sorry, but consider this an opportunity to regain your life and find someone who will love you back as you love them.
2007-03-21 10:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by notasperfectasyou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she took your virginity then i can see why you love her so much. Yeah there can be a good relationship without sex even though a little d*** is good every now and then and if she just all of a sudden just wanted to stop after 8 months of sex every day then she might of found someone else. You know just ask her these questions and if you think shes cheating go through her phone lol. Hope this helps :)
2007-03-21 10:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so young that you feel you need to have sex 3 times a day, or maybe even more than that , you have not matured enough to find true love. Some relationships are based soley on carnal desire....More importantly, "good" relationships are based on trust and love , and yes, the ability to just lay down and hold each other to get through the night. All of us women,,,, well, I can't speak for "all" of us, but the majority of us do not want sex 3 times a day. When we are in the mood.... Hell YA!!! But the fact is that no woman likes being the depository for men, unless she is trying to get pregnant.
2007-03-21 10:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by mi4ree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I will have to partially agree with your girlfriend. It does sound as though the sex is the important issue to you. You need to work on the communication with her. Sit down and talk with her about your relationship (without bringing up sex). Give her and open forum to discuss anything and be willing to listen. You may find there was an underlying problem that has been hampering the relationship for a while.
2007-03-21 10:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a tough one. You really need to sit her down and have a long talk about how this is making you feel. I do think she still loves you but someone on yahoo answers can't ever say that for sure. I think maybe in the beginning she began to feel a little more like a piece of meat instead of a person but should have quit holding out on you by now. When you talk to her I would NOT bring up your suspicion of cheating unless she leads you to believe that is whats going on.
Good luck on this one.
2007-03-21 10:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First she probably isn't cheating on you so don't worry about that unless you have proof. About the sex....females don't need it as bad as males. BUT it's kind of weird that she never wants it. If you are in love I think it's a natural wonderful thing to want to have sex. Just tell her how much you love her and let her know that "making love" to her is part of a connection you two have and you miss the intimacy.
2007-03-21 10:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by aa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not Love although I do be live it can be a very important issue in a relationship it also depends on the persons in the relationship how they feel another thing could be that she has some type of sexual dysfunction many people suffer with sexual dysfunction
2007-03-21 10:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by domainquie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive it's o.k. to be in a realtionship without sex. You are young. When you get married you can start having sex with the person you are totally, and completly in love with. But, then again I am an old fashioned Christain person, and very conservative. I have had realtionshops without sex, and I enjoyed them just fine. Take care, and best wishes.
2007-03-21 10:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by gemandsue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship has gone from one extreme to another. I would say the relationship can be one of friendship and not sexual . If you are thinking of marriage , then you both need to talk more about this. If a person is disabled and can't have sex then it's not unusual for there spouse to be faithfull and not seek sex somewhere else.
2007-03-21 10:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wishes that you will concentrate on other equally important part of a relationship--getting to know one another more; being friends and confidant; sharing deep things and thoughts---If she is the one, talk to her about a future together. Propose marriage, if you love her enough
2007-03-21 10:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋