my boyfriend and i have been together for about 2 1/2 months.....i told him i loved him and he seemed serious when he asked me if was joking, i said no but now that i think about it i reallly dont love him but i dont know how to tell him what i said was a mistake...the reason i told him that was because i had a burning desire to tell him what should i do? how should i tell him? should i even tell him how i really feel? or let him think what i said was true?
thankyou in advance for your advice
2007-03-21 10:30:30 · 12 answers · asked by jasmin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK here is the thing about love.....sometimes we say I LOVE YOU to please the other person when they ask us if we love them...thing is i think you meant it ...you told him willingly without pressure....youre confused about love whether what you feel is real or just another crush...love doesnt mean thinking about that person each day...wanting to die for them.... love is what you make of it we all love differently......do not tell him nothing yet let time pass by and see if youre feelings remain the same if they lessen well it wasnt love you need to figure out yourself and what you think is love
2007-03-21 10:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by hershey's kisses 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well did you know him more than just that 2 1/2 months. But I think you should have told him that you werent really serious and that you were securing the feeling that you do care about him and you wanted him to know and that you couldnt put it in another but sayin i love you. Also you can tell him that i really care about instead of saying i love you because those are strong words that dont need to be played around with
2007-03-21 10:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a very strong word that is used very lightly in our culture. I'm glad you thought this over and decided that wasn't really what you meant.
All you need now is some damage control. I think you should be honest with him. He'll probably be a little disappointed, but I think if you explain that the words kind of escaped your mouth and it was too fast of a move, he'll probably understand. Reassure him that you still care for him a whole lot, but make it clear that you think that word is inappropriate for short time you've been together. And make sure he also knows that when (and if) you've been together long enough for you to really mean it, those three little words will have an infinately greater meaning than they do now.
2007-03-21 10:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by janeowyn180 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad, but true. 2 1/2 months, come on now you hardly know him to say you love him. Anyone for that matter. I can't believe he asked if you were joking though. True love takes time.
2007-03-21 10:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just drop it. Time will blow it over.
I did this once after a wee too much alcohol. It was really embarrassing but it blew over and 2 years later we are still together. (Now, we say "I love you" all the time and it's much more appropriate).
Dont' say it again until you know you are sure. And I wouldn't bring it up and try to talk it out about how you aren't really sure that you love him and all that stuff. It will just make things more uncomfortable. Just go about your merry way and it will all work out.
2007-03-21 10:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Marina D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must understand that relationships do not last unless honesty and trust are traits you hold high. Time does not heal dishonest actions.
Please be honest with this man and if he does not share your thoughts and feelings, then move on... Dating is the process of finding that one true love who is compatible with the traits and characteristics you hold most high in life.
2007-03-21 10:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Open Your Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best way to communicate tell him you are still yet learning what Love means nothing wrong with that.
2007-03-21 10:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by domainquie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no requirment or book of rules on this. You continue to have a comfortable relationship for you and if it's no fun or not working you find a new relationship.
2007-03-21 10:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by notasperfectasyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont say anything if you know what's good for you. Leave it alone. Maybe he feels the same way, as in maybe he doesnt really love you either. Give it time, more than likely your actions will show.
2007-03-21 10:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to do anything is with honesty, and tact. Take care, and best wishes.
2007-03-21 10:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by gemandsue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋