theres this guy that likes me (and its definitely starting to get annoying!!!) but i dont feel the same way about him...should i just tell him straight out that i dont like him or should i just let him eventually get the hint??
2007-03-21 10:29:26 · 16 answers · asked by rvl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All you need to do get him hinder his actions is by just plain 'ol telling him so....
you don't have to be mean about it. But you need to tell him something like:
"Hey you know, I'm quite flattered that you're showing the interest like you do, but since you're not willing to go by the indications I've given already, that's enough to turn me off. When I'm turned off about something, there's no way of turning me back on. I may be willing to be friends or acquaintances, but I'm afraid, and not to offend you, you're just not what I'm looking for in a guy and I think its time you get that message into your head and heed to it! Because if you don't, you're only going to be wasting your time...Now back off and accept it!"
Make sure that you have another friend with you when you make this announcement to him, so you're protected and also you'll have a witness in case anything should go wrong (God Forbid). But You don't have to say that like that, but mean it like that, this way you're showing that maybe you're not only interested in just being friends or an acquaintance, but also you're showing that you know what you want. Also, you need to be aware that if you have to be careful with the words you choose to tell him, he may retaliate is a abnormal social way. If that's the case, then you'll know its harassment and you can file an order against him. He sounds like a real ignorant jerk that has no respect for himself, which leads to why he's not showing respect for you and your feelings....nobody should have to or deserves to feel like that. Good Luck!
2007-03-21 10:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rmprrmbouncer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him.
What's a hint anyway? To us guys, hinting, is like playing hard to catch. You respond and that's all it takes for us to get even more interested.
Just tell him flat out. Possibly infront of his friends. That really seals the deal.
2007-03-21 17:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by stranger2ooo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should -- nicely -- say to him that you appreciate how he sees you, but you have to be honest and you don't see him that way. Guys don't get hints. They have to be hit over the head with a 2-by-4.
2007-03-21 17:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him very plainly that you're not attracted to him in any kind of romantic or sexual way. But be cool and discrete about it. If you make a huge scene you'll have backed him into a corner where retaliation is his only defense.
2007-03-21 17:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by arjo_reich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest u slowly give him a hint that u dont like him......... and if he's coming behind you even after that, tell him straight that u are not interested in him..........
2007-03-21 17:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by raju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately guys are pretty stupid, tell him(in a nice way) straight out. his feelings will be hurt but he will get over it.
2007-03-21 17:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Bruce B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead and tell him, he might get mad at you for a while but it shouldn't bother you any right? I've always preferred girls to be brutally honest with me.
2007-03-21 17:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight out that things arent ever gonna work out between yall. otherwise you are leading him on and giving him false hope which isnt really good.
2007-03-21 17:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by No Know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just avoid him. He'll get the hint.
2007-03-21 17:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Wonka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell him, guys are morons and most wont get the hint
2007-03-21 17:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋