Like, what if someone you're not really attracted to asks you out, but you don't want to turn them down because you know it takes a lot of courage to go up to someone you like and take a chance on getting rejected and you don't want to crush their heart...
2007-03-21 10:29:14 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that if you do go out with them you need to be up-front and honest. Let them know that you just want to go out and have fun and are not interested in a relationship. But be prepared for them to ask you out again. It could start to get uncomfortable.
2007-03-21 10:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong, actually. I think that you should reward this person's courage and go out & have a great time! Just because you aren't romantically interested today doesn't mean you can't still become a friend of theirs... and you never know! Eventually, you may possibly grow into "more than friends" b/c they might win you over with their charm & personality :) It's happened! Not all true, loving, long-lasting relationships are based on physical appearance alone!
Or, you may find that both your personalities clash something awful, and that you're better off not hanging out together at all LOL. Either way... I think courage is an admirable trait, and I think you're awesome for considering the other person's feelings ^_^;
Go for it, and have a blast! If nothing else, you'll gain a new friend in the process :)
2007-03-21 10:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its wrong. It doesnt make them feel any better than a rejection when you give a pity date. Once they know you're dating them for pity, they'll get their hearts crushed. Dont ever lead on people like that, just be honest about how you feel about them. They'll understand you.
2007-03-21 10:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, but it will crush them even more if they find out that you're only dating him for pity. However, if you do, you may find out more about him that you didn't know before and you might actually come to date him for the sake of dating him and not just for pity.
2007-03-21 10:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation before, and its okay to let them down in a nice way. If you do date, you will not be happy and it will probably be an akward night. Instead, tell him you rather be friends and maybe even plan a hang out with a group of friends. You will have to let him know eventually you are not attracted to him and believe me, the sooner the better!
2007-03-21 10:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its wrong
personally i dont want anyone to date me out of pity. yes it will hurt when they say no, but i will get over it. if i should find out they only went out with me because they felt sorry for me i would feel 10 times worse.
thats like reaching the highest level on a video game and then have someone suddenly pull the plug before i could save it!
2007-03-21 10:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by JudiM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong because they deserve to go out with someone that wants to go out with them for real reasons, not pity. Even ugly people deserve and even find love. They deserve to find it and not be led on by people that feel sorry for them. Besides, it's easier to get out of it early on rather than later. Later they might develop more feelings and it will hurt even worse.
2007-03-21 10:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so dumb to do that!!! Why waste your time and date someone you do not even like? I can see your a caring person, but it is just leading that person on and that's so not cool, after all, if someone was dating you out of pity, wouldn't you feel like crap?
2007-03-21 10:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by <3TurkishLover<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would at least give them a chance! I know from personal experience that it really doesn't feel good to be rejected. So I would at least go out on a date with them once. Then I would see what happens from that point...
2007-03-21 10:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would only do this (and I have for grad) if the guy was a close friend and agreed to go with you as such. Otherwise, no. There's no sense in going out with someone you're not attracted to.
2007-03-21 10:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋