I am a bit of a shy lover and I honestly just don't know what to say to him. i have never had a talkitive partner before and really just don't know where to start the conversation OR what exactly I want. (I've always had selfish lovers in the past who didn't much care what I wanted) HELP, I need a push in the right direction!
2007-03-21 10:20:01 · 15 answers · asked by sdog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Part of me wants to tell you that if you don't know what you want that you are not ready to be doing it....but I dont you so you could just be extremely shy
Some people will tell you that confidence is key. If you ask for something, sexual or otherwise, in a confident tone you will get it. I dont think it is neccisarily confidence as the ILLUSION of confidence.
When i am with my fiance (7 yrs of togetherness) anything goes. he can ask me to do anything and i can ask him to do anything. I know that he wants me to be "naughty" so i say some **** with a straight face that i could never imagine comeing out of my mouth.
you have to remember that you are already having sex so you have nothing to be embarassed about. a lot of guys get off more on you telling him what you want him to do than actually doing it.
use grown up words when you tell him what to do. if you want you coochie licked say "lick my puzzy" and say it with conviction, like you really mean that shyt. dont say it all shy in a little girl voice...BIG TURN OFF...the whole baby talk thing is a NO NO!!
I dont know what else to tell you but good luck...after faking confident you will gain the confidence you need and you will have thebest sex you could imagine!
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-21 10:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tissa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to Amazon.com or any large local bookstore's section on relationship advice. Get a book about sex--one that has plenty of pictures. Just kind of page through it and see what grabs your interest.
Your boyfriend sounds like a pretty open guy, so after you've bookmarked a few pages why don't you share the book with him. Then tell him to surprise you with something you've bookmarked. He'll take it from there.
2007-03-21 10:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick (Midwest) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really interested in finding your true passion, just tell him the truth. If you know what feels good to you, (and even if you don't) EXPERIMENT!!!!Give each other a massage, and tell him what spots feel good to you. Try a Tantric Massage......read up on it if you don't know how. One more thing.... put his hands where you want them to be.... if you can't say it out loud, put pressure on his hands so that he knows it is a spot you want him to touch. Good Luck, and enjoy. Everyone should be free in the bedroom.
2007-03-21 10:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by mi4ree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't know what you want the when he asks you "Oh baby, what do you want me to do to you right now..." say "I want you to live out a fantasy on me" or "anything in the world you want to do to me" That leaves it open for his imagination and keeps you from saying "I don't know".
But keep in mind, if he starts doing something, anything you are not comfortable with then you have the right to stop him. You never know you might figure out something you like that you have never tried before.
2007-03-21 10:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that!
Don't expect Yahoo users to tell you what you like!!!
Tell him that you would like to explore. That you should try things to find out what you actually do like... Have him lead the different things. Be a good sport, be honest, and be vocal about which ones you really liked. Then you'll really know.
2007-03-21 10:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by stranger2ooo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find out what you want. Rent some porn. Get some ideas. If you just expect him to do everything he'll get bored. I know I get bored when the girl just lays there and doesn't put any effort or thought into it.
2007-03-21 10:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you hit the JACKPOT. U got a man who wants to be the one to satisfy you just the way u like. It goes to show that he is really into making love to you and not about busting a nut.
Simply start by letting him do his thing and point out what you like, how you want it, fast, slow etc and he will totally get into it.
That will be a total boost to his ego because he knows what he is doin to you is workn and he is gonna keep on keepn on.
Also dont be afraid to take charge. Guys totally like that. U dont expect to lay there looking at the ceiling all nite.Go Buck Wild..
2007-03-21 10:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by ask n ye shall recieve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under the right conditions (soft lighting if you are shy) suggest he perform a ful body massage. Enjoy being the prolonged subject of his attention, while he touches your entire body.
If he finds anything you like, let him know. In time, you and he will build up a list of erogenous zones he can play with.
2007-03-21 10:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Alan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This falls under girlfriend talk. Ask some close friends what they like and see what sounds fun to you. This also helps you build stonger friendships with your girlfriends.
2007-03-21 10:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by notasperfectasyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just response "Whatever you like baby" its easier from telling him you to shy and its spontaneous on what he comes up with and whatever he wants to do im sure you will enjoy!
2007-03-21 10:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋