My daughter is 2 and she really is a good kid. Recently though she has been whining alot. Even when she is just talking to me she seems to whine. I have got her to stop by saying that "We dont whine" and make her repeating what she said wihtout whining. She does. All I am wondering is what makes her do it? And when will she grow out of it?
2007-03-21 10:20:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Be consistent and don't listen when she whines. Tell her "mommy will listen when you say it in a big girl voice" and then only listen when she doesn't whine. The main thing is BE CONSISTENT. Remember, kids are creatures of habit!!
2007-03-21 10:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by Stacy S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ussually a child will start whining because they have learned somehow that whining will get them their way. Either they have seen another child do it, or when she has whined in the past it worked for her. Whining is a form of manipulation. A child hopes that through whining they will end up getting their way. Just make sure you keep doing what you are doing, and make sure you never give in because of whining or you will have a much bigger problem on your hands in the future.
2007-03-21 11:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by whatever 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are there any new changes in her life (new move, school, new baby or one on the way, family stress)? Children will often resort to a new behavior when there are changes in their lives. If there are any changes, give her lots of extra love and support.
Children often whine when they are not getting their needs met. If she is not whining because she is feeling sick, she is hungry, or tired, she is whining because it gets her attention, it feels powerful, she is testing limits, or she is feeling frustrated
Children will whine when they feel their parent does not “see” them. When she whines, get down to her level, look into her eyes, and listen. Repeat back what you hear her say so she understands that you are really listening. Show her some empathy “I can tell you are feeling (upset, angry, mad, frustrated, left out, sad…). What should we do about that?” If she continues to whine about things like wanting a treat or putting away toys, say things like “I’m not offering you a choice.” or “Do you want to do that by yourself or do you want some help?” With practice, she will learn to better express herself rather than whine. If not, pretend you do not understand her when she whines. As soon as she speaks in a normal voice, get down to her level, listen and repeat.
Notice her when she is not whining. Say things like "You worked on that for a long time!” “You stacked every block!” “Look how high you can climb!” You can run super fast!” “You used so many colors on that picture!” “You did that by yourself!" These are intrinsic motivators rather than extrinsic rewards ("Good job," stickers, candy). These phrases are great confidence builders, great ways to show attention, and will help her to feel powerful in a positive way.
Hope this helps! Best of luck to you!
2007-03-21 13:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son whines a lot. I can get him to stop almost instantly by mimicking him...he usually is amused by this. I say, "Okay it's my time to whine" - then I whine. Then I say, "Okay, now it's your time to whine." And he stops. I turn it into a game. When this doesn't work, I tell him what the consequence will be if he keeps whining. I always do my very best to always follow up on what I tell him I will do. No matter what. Kids will play you if you don't.
2007-03-21 10:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by curtandlisa2002 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whining is manipulation in a cute dress. Read the book, Creative Correction by Lisa Whelchel.
2007-03-21 10:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by angelsteps51 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My four year old just started whining too. I think it is a stage they go through.. It will stop eventually. The best way to handle it is tell them whining is for babies, and that they need a bottle since they whine like a baby. That semms to work with my four year old. Don't worry she will grow out of it. Actually, she is probably going through her terrible two's...
2007-03-21 10:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
She will grow out of it. In my experience it works to just say, "What? I can't understand you when you whine." She'll get sick of repeating herself so much and stop. Right now she's probably just frustrated and annoyed and that's how she's expressing herself.
2007-03-21 11:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to the wonderful world of girls. They whine - continuously!! Just keep doing what you're doing - unfortuneately she'll be whining for a while though. But if you're consistent, you can at least cut it down a bit.
2007-03-21 10:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mom 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She is two... nope thats it.. thats the reason! Ever heard of the terrible 2s? At least she isn't throwing fits! lol If my son only whined I would be one happy mama! lol
Just keep doing what you are doing! does she take naps? She might be over tired... if she is sick that is a reason as well.. but honestly it is probably only because she is 2.
2007-03-21 10:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ PrincessLeia ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my daughter did the same thing at that age. just stay on top of it and keep doing what your doing and she'll snap out of it in a few months.
2007-03-21 10:29:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋