Lady Quai a few day ago you asked me if you had the baby would I be mad forever. Yes I think I would. I already feel hurt like I was tricked, like I'm being forced into something I'm not ready for. I know you don't want anything from me but heres the part that kills me most. I don't want to be my father, but I don't know anything else. I don't even want to learn right now. Maybe Carl's right about me.
2007-03-21 10:17:22 · 8 answers · asked by lola B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
This isn't about him anymore. YOu have to do right by the baby growing inside you! God is good and will provide everything that you NEED! There are a ton on single women out there raising amazing kids and doing a heck of a job too. Forget about the man and you decide whether your going to run or "woman up"!!!
2007-03-21 10:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Stacy S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GOD and everyone else aside, you need to figure out what's best for you first and foremost. Hopefully you have family that you can turn to who can possibly help you and support you in whatever decision you make. Whether he says he's going to be there or not, things could change in the future. I have a 5 year old with my ex-husband who said he was going to be there and he rarely ever sees his child and pays NO child support. So again, I hope you can do some soul-searching and figure what is going to be best for you and what you can do. The worst thing is to bring a baby into the world and then not give it what it needs. There are several options...abortion, adoption, welfare...but you need to decide for yourself and let him decide what role he wants to take. You can't force anyone to be a father and maybe he'll come around. Best of luck.
2007-03-21 11:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by ntemp01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't know what he is doing yet. Have the baby, keep it if you want. He likely won't do either for sure until after the baby is born. My husband grew up without a father. With some encouragement to be the father he wished he had, he is doing great. Your guy can to, but sometimes you have to take baby steps to get there.
2007-03-21 10:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by Brooke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, have the baby, (if that is what you are wanting to do). It sounds like he is confused. Once the baby is born, let him see the child. Let him decide what he wants to do, but don't pressure him into anything. It might just take him a little while to come around and be a dad, but if and when he decides to....let him in. Things may be a little rough in the beginning, but they will work out in the end.
2007-03-21 11:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Katie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's going to pull a runner...but he is wrestling with the fact that his father took off on him and doesn't want that for his baby. so much for being forced into something he isn't ready for...shoulda thought of that before having sex.
2007-03-21 11:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about just asking him what he meant by that. That will be the only way that you will really know. Good luck.
2007-03-21 10:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Ama A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is anyone else supposed to understand this or is it a private conversation?
2007-03-21 10:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by Dogsbody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh?? I am guessing he wrote this to you?? If so i would guess he dosen't want to be a dad.
2007-03-21 10:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by got all I need 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋