2007-03-21 10:14:54 · 7 answers · asked by PreciousLady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Serious people only, please
2007-03-21 11:55:43 · update #1
Yes, I am. Been so for going on 9 months now. What I'm about to say may sound like it's a regilious reason but really it's not, I'm just a very spiritual person.
1) I'm tried of meaningless sex. I want to love and be loved and I'm tried of just fulfilling my physical desires. I want my emotional and spiritual desires fulfilled as well.
2) I feel that each time I have sex with someone that is not for me, I pull myself farther and farther from that person that I am meant to be with. It's kinda hard to explain. It's like you think you like a person and you think they are the one, then you put all that time in and you give something that is very precious, just to find out in the long run, that you were wrong. So, now you have to sit there and get over this person, pull yourself back together and prep yourself for the next one. I figure I'll cut out all that frusation and just wait. I live by the ol' saying "Good things come to those who wait." I believe that includes true love as well.
3) I refuse to get pregnant or catch anything from someone who I don't love and they don't love me back.
4) Had my heart broken and am not in a rush to have it happen again. I'm in love now as a matter of fact, but I refuse to have sex with him because one; I love him too much, two; I value our friendship, and three; I don't know how things will work out so, I figured why complicate things with sex. I'm already emotionally tied and, to me, that will do nothing but make it worse.
What helps me along with this is everytime my friends call me with problems they're having with their sig. o's. I also think about the times they call me asking me to go to the hospital with them to get checked out because they think they got something. Things like that do nothing, but make me happen about the decisions I have made about my life. It's so nice not to have that extra added stress. I'm going through enough already.
Oh, and there are a whole bunch of dildos out there that can assist me. Yes, I would prefer the real thing, but considering everything that I've been through I think it's better. I don't have to worry about being cheated on, lied to, getting pregnant unwantingly, going to the clinic, or having to clean up behind a grown azz man. It's kinda one of those things, when you get sick and tired of being sick and tired, you just don't talk about it. You do something about it, too.
2007-03-21 10:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Nana♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been celibate for months or years at a time throughout my life...the reasons varied. People don't die or go crazy from lack of sex, and sometimes casual sex is just too emotionless to bother with (not much better than masturbating).
The longer ya go without, the more kewl it is when the dry spell breaks...lol!
2007-03-21 17:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been celibate again for five years now because I choose not to have sex casually. I can't separate sex from emotion and it's just too intense unless I'm in a committed relationship. You'd be surprised how it helps clarify my thinking on relationships.
2007-03-21 17:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am what I call "love-celibate" — I'll have sex, but not a meaningful relationship. I came to that decision this summer. I don't believe that romantic love is necessary for a fulfilling life and that there are other, more significant pursuits to focus on.
2007-03-21 17:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been for 3yrs.After my ex who too my virginity broke up with me,I was angry for a little while and didn't have sex and got used to it.And after that I just haven't had sex or a girl friend.I guess I realized that sex isn't as important as people make it out to be.
2007-03-21 17:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm celibate for 30 years now....can't get an erection because of an accident i had when i was younger...it kinda bends to the right quite sharply...i can use my penis as the arrow in an i'm with stupid t-shirt...no girl would want one in her sideways...unless asian girls really are in sideways
2007-03-21 17:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by blah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 24 years old and am still a virgin. I just believe in saving myself for my husband.
2007-03-21 17:20:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋