ok, I have a friend that works at verizonwireless, which is my BF cellphone company. I suspected that he's been talking to other women & he got another line for business and he wouldn't give me the new #. So my friend looked up his account & told me his new # & she told me some of the numbers that he called frequently & they all belong to other women.
He asked me if I knew the number to his new phone & I told him yes but I wouldn't tell him how I knew. Was I wrong to go behind his back? Or was I just being investigative because I needed to know the truth? I didn't break any passcodes or anything, I just had her give me some info that she had. Ok, lay it on me how bad is...& how personal is a cell phone that someone would feel violated because someone else knew who they were calling?
2007-03-21 10:00:36 · 23 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you were wrong, and your friend most likely broke the law. That information is private. It's truly not your business who he calls. Yes, in a real relationship, there really should be no need to keep things from each other, but it needs to be the choice of both people involved, not just one person. You would hope that your partner chooses to share everything with you. But if he doesn't, you need to either accept and respect his decision and move forward or leave the relationship. But breaking the law to basically spy on him is not only wrong, it speaks volumes about your future with this person.
Your relationship with this guy sounds doomed. He's probably cheating and you don't trust him. Where do you really think you can go with that kind of foundation? Just chalk this one up to experience and get out.
2007-03-21 10:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by P T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...You should have not put our friend through this ..if his/her boss finds out your friend can be fired from the job. And posting it here doesn't help your friend.
I do think you have the right to know though about your BF's new number and you have a right to worry if he didn't give it to you and then you find out he has been calling other woman.
He is probably cheating on you..cause why else would he not give you the new number and talk to different women on the new number.
Dump his azz and move on.. You already don't trust him and I don't blame you for not trusting him. But if thre is no trust then you'll always wonder if he's lying to you.
2007-03-21 10:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' think you were wrong in any way. The fact that he wouldn't give you that number is sneaky enough to look into it. If you suspect that your boyfriend is up to something, you have every right to try and prove your suspicion. How else are you going to know if your with the right guy. You could have done nothing and stayed with the jerk and wasted years of your life because you don't want to be intrusive. Now the big question is: now that you know the truth are you going to be smart and find a boyfriend that you can trust or continue to stay with a snake?
2007-03-21 10:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi
Why didn't you just ask your boyfriend what it was that you needed to know . Sometimes when you go snooping into other 's personal business you find out things that you should not know .
How do you feel knowing that your bf has been calling other women ?
You both were wrong . He is wrong for not giving you his number and calling other women (Cheating ) and you were wrong for snooping .
Take care
C
2007-03-21 10:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...so much to say. First, the fact that he didn't give you his "business" cell number is enough to back your suspicion up. He should've given it to you if he had nothing to worry about. Second, it was wrong of you to ask your friend for such a favor because you put her in a compromising position with her job. And you should've just dumped him at the moment he refused to give you his "business" number. All of my bosses have both personal and business ans office numbers and all of the wives (for the ones who are married) and girlfriends (for the ones who are not married) have all three. He's cheating. You know it, so now do something about it.
2007-03-21 10:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by batchick5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sure your friend broke some privacy law, but at least a company policy. she could and should lose her job for this. as for what you did as far as your boyfriend is concerned, you two have problems. if he wont give you his other phone number there is something wrong, and if you have to go to those kinds of measures to find out what he is doing, you dont trust him. and you did find out that he is calling other women. does his business deal with a lot of women? since you have gone as far as you have, call some of the numbers of these women and ask them what is going on. good luck
2007-03-21 10:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to do that stuff, but sometimes it takes stuff like that to get the truth. I'm perplexed. Cell phone numbers, at least most of them, are unlisted. There is an expectation of privacy. I'm not sure if what you or your friend did was against the law, but it seems like if it's not, it should be.
2007-03-21 10:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by toxicity_inour_city 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend either broke the law or at least broke company rules. Nice friend you are, I hope she gets fired.
You are a bad girlfriend as you don't' trust your boyfriend. He needs to dump a deceitful and manipulative women like you. Hopefully some future boyfriend treats you the same one day, you deserve it.
2007-03-21 10:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing as a guy I would have nothing to do with you anymore for doing something like that. You surely dont trust him but why should he trust you know.
The bad part is you involved a friend now into the problem....If I were him I would dump you quickly.
2007-03-21 10:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by kaptn35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you did sneak around, but you could probably have gotten a private investigator to find out that info if you really wanted to. I don't blame you . . . and you were right. I think the next thing you should do is confront him about all the other women -
2007-03-21 10:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋