Me & my bf of 10 months have recently decided to stop seeing each other. He said he can't and wont say goodbye to me, but we both agreed to stop coz we have no time for each other coz he's busy with his new business. We lost contact for 2 wks, I deleted all my email account only me & him knows to stop my self from checking and waiting for emails from him... Then he contacted me the other day and asked me if I am happy without him I said I'm not. THen he asked me if its ok if we still see each other once a month for you-know-what, but no strings attached. I felt so angry but I kept it inside. I told him that I don't agree with it and I don't play that kind of game. I never heard form him again after that. Now I regret it, I should've said yes coz i still love him so much. but the question is, do u thnk he still love me, or just wants the other thing? I cant stop thinking about him, I wanna forget him but its so hard. I need your advice... thanks...
2007-03-21 09:58:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you hurt so badly right now! That is probally the worst pain in life... Loss of someone you love but he sounds pretty immature! I think you did the right thing by saying no to him because you would hurt even more because he would only have been using you. You need to go out with friends, go to dinner, clubs, shopping... whatever but get out and get your mind off of him. If it is meant to be than he will come back but you need to empower yourself now and know that you are worth it. You deserve a guy that will treat you like the beautiful wonderful person that you are, not a guy that just wants to get a piece! You are worth sooo much! Please know that!
2007-03-21 10:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by sweet pea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by saying no to seeing him once a month. He was acting selfish by even asking you that question and it doesn't sound like it had anything to do with him loving you. If he really loved you, he would see you as often as he could no matter how busy he is and his reason for seeing you would be because he misses you not because he needs something from you. It is up to you if you decide to see him for that once a month, but if it was me I would be even more hurt doing that then just never speaking to him again. Dont you think?
2007-03-21 17:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by lizzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i know just what 2 do i had the same problem so i tell you what i did i got a know gurl frind and i spent all my time with her but she went 2 war i was wiating 4 her 2 come back home but she die we was datring for 1 year it's hard but i geting over her in your case you need 2 find anther guy
and move on it's will take time 2 get over him if your need help her is my here my add me ghst318 i will help i ben thoght the same thing 5 times
p.s don't lose hope
2007-03-21 17:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by ghst317 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope were not seeing the same guy.i was or still with this guy and i'm trying my hardest to forget him.it sounds like you and i are in the same shoes.he wants to keep me around while his out looking for some replacement.he is also a business man.i've been in such confusion over this guy.that i'm almost giving up on my own ability to believein myself.its very hard and there are some times that you just want to pick up that phone and tell him you want him back but don't do it.we have to be strong.it hurts when someone you love dearly ask you to be his sexbuddy.that's disrespectful.i want to ask you.is he molato,6'1 and in his 30's.he has a birth mark on his left leg in the back of it?i hope your still there.
2007-03-21 17:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Chris y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just wants you know what because he "thought" u would be so willingly to give it up but luckily u stood up for yourself and said no. Now if he really does love u then he will contact u again, apologize for asking that stupid question and try to make things work but if he doesnt care about u he'll move on.
2007-03-21 17:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by oxcremexo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think its just for the sex. He said no strings attached. If he really wanted to get back with you, he would have kept persuing you. Only time will help you get over him. Its hard yes, but if you had said yes the no strings attached sex, you would have kept getting more and more hurt because he wouldn't wanna be with you for you and to be with you to love you but for sex. Its hard to see it now, but just keep your chin up and things will start to get brighter as time goes by.
2007-03-21 17:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by Just a girl... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE SUCKS!! all guys are losers,, just remember that :)
and wow they all think with the penises,, OMGG,, sryy its rli starting to aggravate me that all guys want is sex, i mean like ****** omgg theres more to life then sex..
hehe sryy i had a bad day today! :)
So yupp in short i know how you feel like its so hard to let go of someone you love but if hes acting like that get over him,, ASAP! and find your self a good guy,, I mean i have no clue if theres actually such thing as a good guy,, but a better one i guess lol! :) good luck on that sweetie :P
2007-03-21 18:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one said it would be easy to get over someone. the best thing to do is to just live your life. although you'll never fully heal, time will heal a part of you, and thats what you need. about making your choice, clear your head and make up your mind. make your choice, and dont regret it.
2007-03-21 17:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by evo25zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loved you he would want to see you more then once a month and do more then...you know what. Im sorry that you still love him but dont let him use you!
2007-03-21 17:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's only looking for sex. If you're looking for a committed relationship with that guy, you're practically asking to get hurt. He doesn't love you; he just wants to get free, easy-access sex from you. Forget about him, he sounds like a loser.
2007-03-21 17:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋