..as my life has changed so much. I had a family life and didn't work, now I don't have that. I can do whatever I want althoufh, I'm, stuck with this man who was company during a bad time, but he has problems, he still wants his ex but thinks I don't know it. A man has asked me to motorbike around America with him. Should I pack up and go, although I'm in my 30's, so is it a good idea. Any experiences out there to share with me? Help!
2007-03-21 09:43:18 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So he stuck by you during bad times and now you don't want to do the same. Wow you are just the kind of girl that no man wants for anything but to use. Clearly what the new man wants, just to use you.
You should do this as that is all you are good for.
2007-03-21 09:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think life is too short to not do what we want. If you feel this is the right thing to do go for it. The only way I wouldn't go with the man who wants you to go is if you really don't know him very well then I would have second thoughts. You may be putting yourself in a worse situation. The guy you are staying with that you say wants his ex back, do you know for sure that is what he wants? Remember you are not stuck anywhere you don't want to be. There is always a way out. Find a shelter if you have to and then find a job and save money until you can afford a place to live. Women who depend on a man to take care of them are weak and will never go anywhere in their lives or will never find the right kind of man to take care of them unless they can stand on their own two feet. You are looking for someone to take care of you and make your life easy but it will not be the best way to go because you could end up in abusive relationships if you haven't already. The picture you have painted here is not pretty. If you want a better life, make it yourself, you will end up much happier and will respect yourself more.
Good Luck.
2007-03-21 16:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by devilgal031948 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only live once so why not take a chance.Change is a good thing and will only better you. You state that you are with a man who you know does not wish to be with you truly so leaving him will not be so hard. Go explore America you are only in your 30s and they say life begins at 40. You will also meet new people who will fullfill you and give you confidence and a new outlook on life.
2007-03-21 16:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by allforme283 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to be beholden to anyone at all.
When a girl friend gives help in bad times are you beholden to her. NO. So why is it different if it is a man. If you want to go to America then go girl! But don't make this trip - an excuse to leave this man (you're so called stuck with). If you don't really want to go to America, you are just replacing one man with another. Think really hard what you really want. Good luck!
2007-03-21 17:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by mother sensible 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess by "stuck" with this man it means u dont really want to be with him. And if he still wants his ex then he doesnt appreciate you too your full potential and he doesnt deserve u. Its your life honey, do what u want to do. If your want to go motorbiking, go motorbiking! You only live one and you want to get out there and enjoy life before its too late! Have fun whatever u decide!
P.s - sorry if in the middle there, it sounded a little b1tchy, i dont mean it to!
2007-03-21 16:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by only_lil_kez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy you're with still wants his ex, what are you waiting for? Go, you'll have the experience of a lifetime. Good luck to you, life's not a rehearsal.
2007-03-21 16:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better know this guy pretty good to make a commitment like that. He may turn into some nut case and have you half-way across the country.
2007-03-21 16:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're with someone who you know wants to be with someone else. Move on. Sure, try going sight seeing across america, IF YOU TRUST THIS NEW GUY. If you just met him, I wouldn't even consider it. Yes, its time for you to move on. Get a new job, move to a new area, but above all, leave your man. Goood luck!!
2007-03-21 16:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not married, don't have any kids, and know the biker man well then go for it!!!!! Have fun with the wind in your hair! Just because you are in your 30's doesn't mean you are dead jeez lol. It's your life girl Have Fun!!!!
2007-03-21 16:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For how long can we run away from ourselves??
Good idea to go but remember itl heal you on temperory basis... but the good news is
youl feel new... cos itl be an experience.... good luck.
2007-03-21 16:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by barley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋