SEX in dreams.............. ++++++?

Question

Okay. I am waiting till marriage to have sex and have a great long-term boyfriend who respects that. Yes, I am a virgin.

Of course, I have the natural urge to have sex. And I'm curious as to what it's like. But I am going to WAIT till marriage.

I have dreams about sex. I feel like I have a lot of them. But everytime we are about to do it in my dream, something stops us from actually doing it. It's either someone pops up outta nowhere, I actually wake up, anything. And it's so annoying!! I just want to do it in my dreams atleast GOSH!

Does this happen to any of you people?
Any words?
Please, I don't need immature lame responses.

Answer 1

it's just because maybe you don't know what it feels like your mind when your at sleep can't tell you what it is either in your dreams... your mind only can reproduce what it knows... and because it doesn't know the feeling it's hard to put it in your dreams... but don't worry... happens... i haven't had one of those dreams either where we do it since i stopped having sex...since i have no bf... so it's just how your brain works...

Answer 2

First of all, hello.

I'd like to tell you that having those dreams is:

+ Physically - absolutely normal. We all do. Further, your body may be just discharging some sexual pressure during the dream, just like men have their famous 'wet dreams' if we don't have sex for a long time.

+ Psychologically - maybe a sign. You said you feel the urge to have sex and you are expressing it that way; maybe the idea of waiting is pressing you and you are letting it out that way. Any of those, or any other alternative, it is nothing to get really concerned about.

+ Morally / religiously (people who say they want to reach virgin to their wedding is usually more religious than who don't)- Not a sin, not objectionable at all, so don't worry.

If it's annoying for you, well, maybe you should start thinking on other topics during the day. Do something different with your boyfriend... Get the idea of sex out of your mind during the day and those dreams should reduce their frequency during the nights.

Good luck.

Answer 3

It's an internal, subconscious defense mechanism that stops you to protects you. The same thing that stops you from having sex in your dreams also stops you from hitting the ground after falling a long distance in your dreams. Before it actually happens, your wisked away to someplace else. I've had the dreams about sex with someone else, but it has never happened. You think you can do anything in your dreams, but your common sense is always there to monitor it, even in dreams. Having sex before marriage is wrong in reality, so it won't happen in your dreams. Once married, you will have sexy dreams, but only with your husband.

Answer 4

The solution is simple but it may take a little practice. You need to realize that you are in your dream and give yourself permission to have sex. Then do it. Knowing that you're dreaming is incredibly powerful and you can make anything happen that you want. Maybe tell yourself you are on your honeymoon and then lock the door to your hotel room. Tell the front desk that you don't want to be disturbed for any reason, and then have fun with your new husband. Imagine the best night of your life. I hope that helps.

Answer 5

OK, first of all, I have to say that I'm very proud of you for waiting. That's great! I am also waiting until marriage to have sex.

Ummm, I have "sexual" dreams a lot, but I'm not sure if it's ever happened... So, maybe I do have the same sort of thing going on.

Just remember that dreams aren't reality... So... What happens in your dreams may not be what it's like on your wedding night, if you understand what I mean.

Have a great day and God bless. :)

Answer 6

I think it's really cool that you want to wait. Really! And I can see why you are having these dreams, its nature, and your body is asking for it, it's on your mind even when you don't realize it, thats where the dreams are coming from. But you will most probably not see the whole process till the end, cause you don't know what it feels like. As simple as that! How old are you?

Answer 7

This reminds me of that one greek mythology story of that guy who had to roll the giant stone up the hill and just when he got to the top, it would roll back down for him to start again. This is very normal for someone that hasn't had sex yet, but the thing is, dreams come from our thoughts and you really don't know what sex is, so it might be hard for your mind to actually go through with it when you have never experienced it in real life.

Answer 8

oh yaa thas soo normal i was a virgin up until 4 months ago an im 19 i know how it feels to have dreams an i know how frustrating it is...but i give you so much respect for waitin till your married i was going to do that myself but i realli love my bf and i have a feeling we will get married...but back to your dream ur having those dreams beacuse your stoping yourself from having sex before marriage...so i think its a good sign shows the will power you have i used to have dreams like that all the time before i lost it..its normal dont wrry...neways goodluck with your relationship

Answer 9

your dreams work off what you've actually experienced. This is why *typically* you wake up before you die, or in your case, before you have sex.

Since it has nothing to base the action on, all it can do is act out the desire - it knows about that, it has tonnes of reference material to pull for that...and when it gets down to the nitty gritty of it, it has to abort because it literally doesn't know what to do next.

Answer 10

My Brain Studies teacher told us that our dreams have no hidden "meaning" or anything behind them in our lives. And having sex dreams is 100% normal, in both guys and girls.