Have you ever experienced a significant other constantly accusing you of cheating?

Question

If so how did you handle the situation? Did anything good or bad happen in the outcome of it?

Answer 1

Basically, I was the one accusing the other one of cheating. Well , one day, he told me to grow the heck up and basically told me about myself..lol. I thought about it and came to the conclusion that that was something I definitely had to stop doing so my relationship with him could grow. It's all about not bringing in old baggage to your relationship and starting fresh because you never really know if this is the person you'll be with for the rest of your life and you certainly don't want to ruin by always accusing him or her of cheating all the time. They will definitely get tired of it and leave. It's also all about the maturity level also.

Answer 2

I am going through something similar with my boyfriend. Although I wouldn't say he is "constantly" accusing me, he is accusing me more than I would consider normal. I have more male friends than female friends so I know this is partly why but he has gotten jealous over ridiculous things like Myspace and even once got jealous of my brother-in-law! He was cheated on before so I think this is why. I just keep trying to reassure him that I only want to be with him and I'm not doing anything inappropriate. I told him that if I really wanted to cheat that I would and he would never know about it, but I am open and honest with everything I do so that he knows that he has nothing to worry about. I'd say it's improved because he doesn't get jealous as often.

Answer 3

No luckily I haven't... yet!

The question I have for you is the following:

I can only assume that your question is relevant to your own personal situation (like most people on this open forum I'm sure!) so I would really like to know what you have actually done or are presently doing for your significant other to fear that you are in fact cheating on him.

Or is your mate simply a very insecure individual?

Or is he unsure of your relationship and is therefore looking for a way out?

Ask yourself those questions and you will find the truth.




P.S. If you've done absolutely nothings untowards, then you need to investigate your boyfriend or spouse's motives for such an unfair accusation.






Hope you soon find what you're looking for!

Take care & good luck!

Answer 4

Well I have been in this situation before.I have been married for 10 years and just recently had to put my foot down and tell him if he didnt stop accusing me I would divorce him. He has alot of insecurities and has been in bad relationship and there is no need bringing the past in you present relationship. He had to choose and he stopped accusing me! But I would had to say 10 yrs is a long time to put up with it...but sooner or later if you dont stop it, it will only continue and possible get worse.

Answer 5

yeah. usually it's b/c they themselves are cheating!!!!!! always be weary of a man who constantly accuses u of cheating. 9 time out of 10, he's the one with the guilty conscience! i'd say tell him that unless he has good reason for these accusations, u think he's the one that must be doing something shady. & move on! ifit were me, i'd leave quickly! he sounds a bit nuts. way too jealous. no one wants to have to worry about that crap all the time.

Answer 6

when they accuse you of cheating, they are usually already cheating or are thinking about it, it is really to get the attention off of themself and on to you, you can't be on the offensive while you are on the defensive, ya know. if you are always defending yourself, then you won't accuse them. when a person is trying to distance themself from you emotionally , they will pick an argument with you about anything, they have to distance themself or the guilt will eat them up. if you say something mean, they will justify what they are doing, that's what they hope for, that you will get mean and nasty. good luck

Answer 7

I haven't, but my younger sibling has. I can't believe she continues to put up with him. She has broken up with him dozens of times, but they keep getting back together.

It is my opinion that with a man so untrusting as him... there is no future. He will not even let her go to outings with friends at all, and he won't let her go to family get-togethers unless she calls him every half hour to an hour to check in.

If you have a man who is doing something like this to you, or even if he just keeps being untrusting and accusing toward you all the the time, think about what you want out of life... do you want to deal with that for years upon years? Do you think he will ever trust you? Do you think you deserve accusations of that all the time?

If your answers to those questions are something you view as negative, re-evaluate the relationship and perhaps get out of it.

Answer 8

Many times it means the other person is actually guilty of what they are accusing.

Answer 9

usually when a man accuses a women of cheating its usually beacuse they have cheated so they put the blame on their spouse...hopefully thats not the case..buh srry to say usually thats what it is

Answer 10

maybe if the person thinks you are cheating he might be cheating since it draws attention from him to you. or you could break up.