They have a child together and he claims he doesn't love her and wants to leave her but needs to good excuse to break up with her (example: dating me). I don't want to break anyone up but I really like this and I want to wait until he's single and they both had enough time to get over it but he insists that it happens right now because I am never get another chance. What should I do?
2007-03-21 09:22:54 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I already decided I will not date him because I do know that he would do the same to me...but I'm more worried about their daughter and his girlfriend...i could never do that to anyone. I was just wondering what I should tell him because there is no way I would break them up and I think he's a jerk for saying that. I admit I do like his personality but I don't like the way he is handling this situation.
2007-03-21 09:35:11 · update #1
i am not male and i never date girl has a bfriend
2007-03-21 09:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave this guy alone! he's going to cause you nothing but trouble! he want's to use you as an excuse to get out of a relationship he's already in. and this relationship also involves a child. nothing good will ever come of this situation, and I'm sure of that. this guy is pressuring you by insisting that you do this now or you'll never have another chance with him. what a jerk! he will either use you and go back to his girlfriend, or he'll use you and then move on to someone else. just do what's best for you, and stay out of it.
Best Wishes
2007-03-21 16:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is already threatening you that if it doesnt happen now, it will never happen, that is a huge red flag. If he needs you to be there in order for him to leave his girlfriend, than he has some huge dependency issues. I think if you end up dating him, it will be a bad relationship, and will bring more heartache than anything else. Stay away from this guy! if you must be with him, you have the right idea to wait until he has been single for awhile and realizes what he wants as a single man.
2007-03-21 16:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by sjhockeyfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a nasty piece of work this guy is. Do you really want someone that hasn't the guts to end a relationship he SAYS he wants to leave. He hasn't the right to insist you date right now. If you have any self-respect you'll wait to see if he leaves her first. They have a child together, are you comfortable with his leaving his family? If I were you I'd move on and look instead for a decent man who treats women with respect, not this would-be two timer.
2007-03-21 16:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in the other girl's shoes for a minute...what to stop this guy (no matter how nice he may seem) from doing the exact same thing to you? It doesn't seem like he has enough guts to do this thing on his own. Stay strong...if he can do this on his own it'll make him all the better for it! If he needs you as an excuse...well...that just seems to me that he's using you. Stand up for what you know is right...either he will come around or you'll see him for who he truly is. Best of luck! :)
2007-03-21 16:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on! believe ive been in your same situation and he played both me and his g/f. this guy of yours, er, hers.. sounds like a jerk. if he really likes you, then he will break up with her and wait till you feel comfortable dating him. as for that good excuse that he needs to break up with her? its just bullshit. he would have left her a long time ago if he really wanted to.hes just a stupid boy that wants some booty. if he wont because of the baby, well hes already messing up by cheating on the mom. i think the baby is better off without them fighting all the time. and your better off too without him, trust me. you need to make it clear to him that you dont want to be the other girl and that he needs to sort out his own stuff before confronting you again about it. remember, dont ever get with a guy that is cheating on his g/f with you, because he'll do the same to you. besides you sound like much too good of a person to be with that loser. if you just do what you believe is right, things will EVENTUALLY turn out how they ate supposed to. good luck! and dont give in to his sweet words, most of is probably bullshit.
2007-03-21 16:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by serendipityxoxox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy doesn't sound so good to me. if he's doing that to his "ex", how do you know that he's not gonna do the same thing to you once you guys get together? what if someone else comes along who wants to date him, and he ends up trying to break up with you to be with the other girl? i'd suggest you think about it some more and be sure if that's what you really want to do, cuz it could turn around and bite both of you in the butt
2007-03-21 16:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! can you even imagine how much drama there will be if he has a kid w/ her and leaves her for you? and how do you know he'll really leave her? and he insists it happens now? what is that about? and if he didn't love her he would have left her already. he needs an excuse? this has shady written all over it!
2007-03-21 16:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should leave him alone. There are enough single men in the world. You don't need to go messing with a man who is already involved with someone else. Plus he has a child with her!
2007-03-21 16:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't even know whether he will really leave her or not.
He has an obligation to see his child every day even if he does leave her. If he doesn't, he's not a good prospect. He will treat you the same.
If he will cheat on her, he will cheat on you.
He may fun to be with, but he is not to be trusted and he is not a real man.
If this is what you want, go for it.
2007-03-21 16:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he is single. You dont want to be called for the rest of your life the sluty boyfriend taker or something like that do you? If he wants to rush things right now and doesnt want to be true or even respectful of you and this other girl than maybe you shouldnt date him.
2007-03-21 16:26:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋