My ex broke up with me and said that she wanted to be friends and that she doesn't want to lose me. I said that ain't gonna happen, we can't be friends anymore. It just won't be the same. She also added that she doesn't know what to do if i find a new gf. Eventually we broke up because she wanted to.
She got a new boyfriend later whom i met.
She tells me that she still loves me...and that she doesn't know if she loves her new boyfriend. He doesn't treat her the same as i do. I treated the way she wanted a guy to treat her. We both have an opposite personality. She knows that i want to work whatever problem tha caused the breakup. She said she's so confused and scared.
I told her to focus in school and one day you'll know what she want..if it's me just come back to me if i'm still waiting.
Two days down later, my friends ex girlfiend called me...saying that she misses her ex boyfriend and is also in the state of confusion. I'm was like omg and us four used to talk on the phone.
2007-03-21 09:20:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she's 21 and i'm 24
2007-03-21 09:54:21 · update #1
this girl is obvioulsy insecure about herself right now. the best advice i can possible give you, is to give her - her space. let her sort things out if shes so confused. why should that be your problem? i know u care about her but just let time go by. right now whats happening, is that ur really seeing the type of person she is. Are you sure you want this girl, who is a high matience, attention getter to come back to you? and the same advice goes to your friend.
you deserve better
2007-03-21 09:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Susanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you, man- appreciate that- she went around in a full circle just to come back for you. Shes complicated? She just doesn't know what she wants. Its just that she wants to ry out things- see other things. She came to the conclusion that, guess what?- you were better than she expected in contrast. She just doesn't know where to go in relationships- don't get mad! I'm suprised your so calm and steady! If you still love her, really love her like she does for you (duped a new boyfriend for an ex, pretty impressive), get her back. If you are confused- fine. Wait and see when she calms down. If your sick of the whole tug-and-war thing, brake it to her you can't handle off relationships, and you can't tell how she's going to be, your sorry, and she can get her wish about your friendship. If that brakes her heart- its her fault anyway.
P.S.
What do you mean, focus on school? Are you like, 20 years older than her?????!!!!!
2007-03-21 09:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Izzy E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me, that we have a master manipulater on our hands. I'm sweet and charming and also a gemini, we are the kings and queens of manipulation. What she's doing is tryin to have her cake and eat it too. No offense but women may appear to not know what we want but heres a lil secret, we always know what we want and we'll try whatever it is to get it, been there done that. What you need to do is get yourself a chica and move on, because if she can even get with another that shows that she has the will power to move on, she just gets a kick out of stringing you along
2007-03-21 09:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is very simple, she obviusly doesn`t know what she wants, and she knows you love her, and you`re vulnerable in front of her, that`s why she treats you that way, the day you say bye bye to her, that day she will take you serious, cause that day she will feel she lost you, and that will hurt. you shouldn`t be there anymore, you will only get hurt, when people dont`know what they want, they usually hurt without knowing, get away from the situation she will come back to you, you`ll see. good luck!! :)
2007-03-21 10:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Madison♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the sound of it u r very young or nieve... all of you need to move on... cause life you've already got one...and women or men are overflowing the world to stress over one! c',on man... get real and live the vida loca... cause it's short... to be waisting it on this... if she didn't appreciate or value you then what maes u think she will now or anyone else? u diserve better, but be carefull cause you could get worse! anyway it's lal on you... good luck!
2007-03-21 09:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by JLO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation I'd say it's because they don't really know what they want.
Don't become a part of their confusion if you don't want to. Focus on what you want and attract that to yourself.
2007-03-21 09:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by siddartha360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know because this happened to me this weekend. So when you find out and not get confused then you let me know...and it's not only women that do this...men do it too...
It's called having you're cake and eating it too...
No contact is you're best policy.
2007-03-21 09:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dnt give a big deal, leave her for a while, and let her miss you...she will think intensively...and later she will decide...let her know that you ain't gonna be under her finger's command!
2007-03-21 09:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by Farah K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what, all women are like this because this chick doesn't know up from down??? It's not our fault she's clueless. Maybe she's waiting for a grand gesture from you.
2007-03-21 09:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing by telling your ex to focus on something else and if its meant to be you'll be there for her but don't sell yourself short and sit around waiting forever
2007-03-21 09:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋