We have had such a roller-coaster on-again/off-again relationship for about 1 1/2 years. I love her to death but we are both dramatic and unstable together. In that sense we're perfect for each other, but we also have an unhealthy relationship. When it's just the two of us, in private, it can be REALLY good. We're very similar and we compliment each other perfectly. We love each other very much, but we deal with social situations differently and that causes tension. I'm very independent and I need time with the guys. She either likes to be together all the time, or tries to punish me for my "time with the guys" by going out with sleazy guy "friends" and trying to make me jealous or regretful for not bringing her out with me. Meanwhile these guy "friends" tell her anything they can to make themselves look better in comparison to me. We're broken up now and I'm moving to California. I'm glad to be free of the nonsense but I feel like she's my other half. Should I work it out or move on?
2007-03-21 09:18:36 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Great question.
I'm sure you'll learn a bunch from this one!
My guess, most people will say yes, and a few will say no. You should write a book about the results.
2007-03-21 09:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by bdcanuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship sounds like mine and my husbands, perhaps you guys need to grow up. Go ahead and move but keep in touch the problems you guys are having is because you are young and you will grow out of your need for "guy time" and she will quit being jealous. We struggled for years through all of those very issues and have finally come to a place where we can see clearly now what is most important ....US. Move, have fun and what ever you do don't ever lose contact with her. That will be the biggest mistake you make.
2007-03-21 09:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WORK IT OUT! I have been in the EXACT same situation. Whether you like or not you will always care very deeply for that person, even more so than anyone else. You will find yourself comparing new partners to them, not on purpose but you do it none-the-less. The more you fight it the closer and more drawn to this person you will become. Save yourself the stress and try your best to work it out. If you try, at least you won't have that burning question in the back of your mind WHAT IF??? when you move away.
2007-03-21 09:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like true love. I think you should try to work it out, with the help of a counselor. You already know what the problem is- you're a step ahead of the rest of us. It sounds like you are willing to face it realistically. I would bet that the two of you could work out a compromise that works. Don't let a good thing go. You will always regret it.
2007-03-21 09:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let your EX hold you back from your destiny. Maybe this is the best thing to ever happen to you.. This is what you need. A great move and a fresh start to be away from all the chaos and drama..
If you make up with her again and again, boy u better have a UHAL on lock coz you will move to each and every state in the freakn U.S..
2007-03-21 09:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by ask n ye shall recieve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on how much you "love" him or if it's just what you feel at this time. If you're truly in love then yes you will most likely end up regretting it, but in the long run fate will steer you in the right direction. Only time can determine weather you let yourself regret it or not, but my suggestion - make the best of your freedom and fate will get you to the love your meant to be with. - good luck!
2007-03-21 09:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cousin actually went through same problem. if you love her more than anything, and if you can understand what she wants and feels, then maybe you should try to work it out. however, you dont really want an unhealthy relationship, which is what your relationship seems like. talk to her about how you feel about your own freedom, and give her a chance to work everything out herself. you need that freedom, and you shouldnt let her take that away from you. hope it turns out for the best
2007-03-21 09:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by evo25zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound really young. Move on and you'll find out that some day you'll want to settle down and not go out with the "guy friends" and will want to be with your wife and family. Until then, don't get too serious with anyone, you'll just hurt them.
2007-03-21 09:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who could answer that is you. If you think it's worth a try, then go for it. If you could live without her then move on.
2007-03-21 09:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by rosemarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the flow of time, generally, perspectives & perceptions, change "drastically."
Some deeply etched memories may remain, though, for quite some period.
2007-03-21 09:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I couldn't tell. Are you the boy or the girl? Boo Ya!!!!!
2007-03-21 09:22:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋