My boyfriend says I'm not protective enough. Apparently, he's been making up stuff about girls hitting on him to see how I would react, and he's decided I'm too nice and not protective enough because I didn't really react. He apparently likes 'protective' girls. I honestly don't see why I should care and get upset about some girl flirting with him when I know he won't do anything, but apparently he thinks there's something wrong with that.
2007-03-21 09:11:56 · 20 answers · asked by kytigirl200 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think I should also mention that he's very protective. I have a lot of guyfriends, more of my friends are guys than are girls. Some of them he can stand, the ones that have their own girlfriends, but the other ones piss him off. Some of them are my best friends, but he doesn't like them and gets mad if they come up in conversations, whether I'm talking to him or not. Despite it all, he's one of the sweetest guys I've ever been with, and I really do love him. But I dislike being told I'm not protective enough when he's doing this and pulling tricks on me like this. What do I do?
2007-03-21 09:18:24 · update #1
Yah...what he wants is to get a rise out of you to see if you care. Probably some self-esteem baggage too. You see, if you start getting upset that other girls are talking to him, he feels more valued because he thinks its out of a fear of losing him (and so he's valuable enough to lose).
If you DON'T get upset, he feels like you don't care if you're with him or not, so he feels less important in your life.
If you want to help him out and stroke his ego, wait awhile until this dies down, then next time you're out at a place where there are pretty girls and he inevitably checks them out, start a disagreement/fight about that...that should do it.
2007-03-21 09:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you to be more protective and jealous, then you could try ACTING more protective and jealous.
By this I mean you could:
call him 10 times a day just to see where he is
throw a hissy fit if another girl so much as glances at him
insist that every waking moment is spent with you
accuse his friends of trying to break you two up
turn on the tear factory if he wants to do anything without you
demand the passwords to his email or personal websites
You get the idea. See which girlfriend he prefers.
2007-03-21 09:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most girls get protective when they are committed. They get possessive. It's normal. So he feels that you don't care much otherwise you would be upset. This is because in his experience he feels protective over you because he loves you and feels you should feel the same way if you love him the same way.
2007-03-21 10:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by sickblade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong girlie with keeping your cool about things, why should you have too react, it will only get you in trouble, stay the way you are, it seems you are too nice for him.Maybe he should go with the so called girls that are hitting on him, then he will find they wont either,as they will only wont him him for one thing, so he looses in the long run.
2007-03-21 09:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by staffie lover from Aussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta say that I'd enjoy a bit of protectiveness. Maybe at least put on a show?
Just not that freaky obsessive paranoid stuff.
2007-03-21 09:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you trust him to do the right thing when it comes to other women and your relationship...a relationship is nothing without trust. He should be happy that you trust him...you might let him know that...it should make him feel good.
If he needs a jealous female for a gf then it appears you are not the one...maybe time to move on.
be cool...
2007-03-21 09:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I dont get it either. I thought guys like it when youre not over protective.
2007-03-21 09:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a stupid a$$,shows ur mature that u dont care if girls flirt with him and u know we wont do nothing,u know him well,good job ur really mature,ah oh well if he wants to trip leave him,theres nothing wrong with that
2007-03-21 09:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Antonio R. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hehe, that's kind of funny. I really don't see why you couldn't just pretend to be a little jealous to make him happy? It wouldn't be that hard, just tell him that it upsets you when he talks about other women. It will make him feel appreciated.
2007-03-21 09:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doenst want your protectivness but your jealousy. Which it seems you are moved by either. You are very confident in your emotions and this is something he doesn't understand....
2007-03-21 09:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋