If I accept his imperfections, why is it that he is not willing to accept mine?

Answer 1

Ill tell you why I didnt except ppls imperfecions..Coz I felt insecure...about myself and when I had to stand with someone which was not perfect and didnt respond to my each action the way I dreamed and wanted it to be, I felt intimidated by all the ppl around me.

Thank God now he gave me strength to realize the main reason for my insecurities...I had to live isolated from each family member coz of some problems at school.. This made me lose connection with everyone around me ..so I felt I was weak and needed to now plz everyone.. Thank God the mess is over and I realize that I am not Perfect nor I can be so what ever moment passes I can let go..If the past moment didint go aswell i still ahve my connection with parents and siblings and ones that I love and ones that love me..So I live day to day rather than pondering over spilt milk..Coz milk does spill now and then and you cant stop it from doing so..just dont lose connection with the outside world in pondering over whats lost ..live the new day.

Hope u can somehow convince ur partener to this fact..Really I feel this way and it took me along time to realize what I was doing wrong..May God bess me and u with this realization...

Oh my God B Dorian just said the same thing in such less lines...Let me add however that u must give him love and patience..I have a friend who waited for me for 7 years..She never really helped me but at times when I freaked out she stayed calm..That was a BIG support on its own..

Answer 2

B/c girls are much more able to accept imperfections, accept the good with the bad. And if he's not willing to accept yours, he doesn't want to be with you. But at least your finding this out now. Don't be with someone who wants to change you or who won't accept your flaws.

Answer 3

Guy tend to think that there imperfections are not that big of deal, but when it comes to us women that tend to have a big fit about ever little thang, My advice to you is to be honest with him and tell him that you don't mind his imperfections and he should accept yours..
If he doesn't like the idea of you telling him this then kick his *** to the curb..

Answer 4

Why do you accept his imperfections? Are they so minor that they don't interfere in your relationship? Or are you desperate for a boyfriend and are willing to ignore his flaws just to be able to date?

I think you need to move on.

Answer 5

Only immature people who are stuck in their own little world don't accept imperfections. You'll just have to accept that or move on.

Answer 6

If that person doesn't accept your imperfections, I think you shouldn't be with him. You should look for someone who really loves you just the way you are, and not because you are perfect. (NO one is PERFECT)

Answer 7

basically bc of his personal standards, values, morals, ethics if he has developed into his own person as of yet which seems unlikely at such a young age and just a little immaturity and a lot of self-centeredness and insecurity..
thats pretty much it in a nutshell.
I'd suggest to be strong and move on from all this nonsense and be free and just be friends and keep it light and fun for a while with the guys you date...

Answer 8

Because he can see your imperfections. He can't see his own. He probably doesn't know you accept his because he doesn't think he has any, if he thinks about it at all. Which is unlikely.

Answer 9

cuz all men want that perfect little woman that doesnt do anything or say anything wrong...they want to look at their woman as miss perfect and not as the actual human being that we are...i dont know how to get him to accept your imperfections except to say, be patient!

Answer 10

It doesn't work that way.
He's not obligated to not be bothered by things that, for whatever reason, clash with him.
You're not obligated to accept his imperfections either.

This is what we call a compatibility problem.