ok there is thins girl thats been liking me since 2004 and i told her im sorry i still like my ex and me and my ex been on and off dating since 04 but me and her always tell eachother we cant be separated but this girl she keeps tellin me she loves me and i tell her i luh u 2 and then she tells me whateva then i be like whew ok! but she wants to date me sooo bad and i dont want her and i already told her that but what would you do in my position??
2007-03-21 09:09:28 · 22 answers · asked by Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I may be wrong, but I get this feeling that if you haven't put her straight real hard yet for 3 years she's been ‘pestering’ you it can only mean you actually enjoy it somehow.
Now do you like it because it's flattering and ego-boosting to have a woman love you so much especially since your other relationship is clearly not working out as it should?
Or else do you enjoy her being around because deep down you do care for her but are so wrapped up in that other sick affair of yours you keep feeding with your on and off dating, that you can't even just accept to shake your ex-girl off your life once and for all and open your eyes to something that might lead you to real happiness – a brand new love with someone who cares for you and isn’t playing.
I know perhaps not too nice to hear, but a real possibility that this is at the source of your doubts and question of today.
I hope you'll find it in you to sort out what you really want from life after all. :)
All my best
Andie
2007-03-21 09:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be a man and cut out off all ties. From her perspective she thinks your in a 3 year relationship, and your like no were just friends! Not! She likes you and the fact that you keep her around means she's of use. You don't want her let her go! If you cant do that then some where deep inside your in love!
2007-03-21 09:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by babygirl l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in that position about a month ago! these girls are bringing u down! this girl who is bugging u- tell her exactly how u feel! and don't be nice about it! i tried being nice and beatin around the bush, and it didn't work! she will still think she has a chance if u don't come right out and say it! and ur ex is ur ex for a reason! free urself from both of them and move on! if u don't make ur feelings known to this annoying girl she will never leave u alone! plus ur just leadin her on by telling her u love her! that's dirty!
2007-03-21 09:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lollipop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the samo problem there was this guy Tony who just wants to go out with me, I always tell him to bug off and stuff, that didnt work, Im even somean to him after one point where i cursed him out and yelled in front of his friends at him, so then this worked, one day after school i saw him and i can up to him and we had a serious talk, I told him to lay off for real and just find someone who likes you because i obviously dont and then after that day were just cool friends, he doesnt stalk me anymore thank god, and he hasnt been weird for about 3 months now, so i think that talk got to him.
2007-03-21 09:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by MarinaMCR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off and no offense...but get control of your life before you go bringing in other people. If you've been on and off with one girl since 2004 that screams red flag! And if your stringing along this other girl all your doing is hurting her in the process which screams another red flag! I say you leave both of them and try leading a singles life for a while. Your young...dont hold yourself down...trust me.
2007-03-21 09:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lead this girl on. Be straightforward with her. It is hard to reject someone, but you need to be strong. If you actually want this girl to leave you alone do not tell her you love her too, that is leading her on. If you say things like that you give her the hope that she still may have a chance with you, and will not leave you alone. Let her down gently but firmly.
2007-03-21 09:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ann Onimous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always better to be honest about things. Make sure that you really tell her that you will never be with her. And if she doesn't get the picture just ignore her and stop telling her that you love her. Try not to be mean to her but if she keeps messing with you you might have to get mean.
2007-03-21 09:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lyndee J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truthfully u shouldnt had performed with the females thoughts making her think of u have been into her. the female is barely buggin u cuz she thought u have been being genuine together with her and u see now she likes u and that i think of if u tell her u in effortless terms wanted action it's going to make issues undesirable yet whilst u shop going with it u can shop getting action.i think of if u get to understand her mayb u can finally end up feeling the comparable way she feels for u.
2016-10-02 12:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you dont like her and to stop buggin you. Dont tell her that you love her and not mean it it will just break her heart in the end. Honesty can hurt but its the best policy. lol Good Luck!
2007-03-21 09:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be tough, but not to tough with her. She seems desperate and insecure. Tell her to leave you alone, but don't scream at her. If all else fails, get your ex on her case. lol
2007-03-21 09:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by **Angel_Eyes** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋