Can someone please help me,I'm scared and I'm hurting,serious answers only??

Question

My father died last August and since his death I've been feeling really empty inside and I've been in so much pain.For some reason over the months the pain is becoming much worse and I feel I am becoming suicidal.Each time the pain comes back there's something inside of me that tells me if I end my life all the pain will go away.I'm so afraid and I dont want to listen to that voice in my head because I don't want to hurt myself but on the other hand im tired of crying and hurting inside.I'm afraid to tell my family because they will think I am crazy,I'm starting to think that about myself too.Can someone please tell me what to do.I pray everynight for god to take the pain away but it doesnt help.That voice is talking to me again and my heart and soul is aching.I know that I need help,Could someone please tell me what should I do??

Answer 1

Is there anyone besides your family that you can talk to? Friends? A therapist? I have personally been there myself and I know what you are going through. I couldnt talk to my family either and I felt like God just was not listening to me. Is the pain just resultive of your father's death or was there something else on top of that? I can tell you from personal experience that talking to someone DOES help. I talked to a therapist and it really helped me. Talking to someone you do not really know well can help because they do not have a biased opinion about you or your situation. Keep on praying and trust in God's strength and know that if you have held on this long that you are stronger than you might think. Taking your life is not the answer because I am sure that that is not what your father would want for you. Believe in your mind and in your heart that you are still here for a reason, you are your father's legacy left on earth and God has a plan for you. Trust that He does know you are in pain and he wants you to hold fast to Him and trust that He has a plan for you. I know that sounds hard to believe but its true. He will NEVER leave you and you need to remember that. Hold onto your father's memory and wrap yourself up in those memories when you feel down. Believe in your own strength and willpower to survive. Again try talking to someone because you do not have to suffer alone. People love you...You dont have to cry any more...Live life as the daughter you were when your dad was here...Cause as long as you are still here so is he...

Answer 2

The first thing you must do is NOT give in to the temptation to end your own life - you are experiencing a tremendous amount of grief over the loss of a close loved-one, and while you are not 'crazy', you are not thinking rationally because of the grief.
If you are not close enough to anyone else in your family so that you can talk to them about this terrible pain you feel, then please talk to a friend or a neighbor that you trust and ask them to help you find someone you can talk to for help getting over this hurdle.
You said you pray to God every night - this shows that you are a spiritual person - have you considered talking with your pastor or a priest? They help people all the time so we can come to an understanding about the big questions - and big pains - in life.
We all go through the type of agony that you feel right now, we all have the kinds of thoughts you are having right now, and sometimes it seems like all is lost and all is dark and the sun will never shine for us again - it is not true, there is always hope and healing if you can talk to someone about the pain you are feeling right now.
My favorite passage from the Bible is "This too shall pass", the pain you feel over the death of your father will pass away eventually - but this does not mean that the memory of your father will pass away, you will keep that treasure in your heart always. Please find someone to talk to - your life is too precious to end it early.

Answer 3

honey i am so sorry for what you are going through. I am still going through the loss of a parent myself. It takes a lot of time and the hurt never really goes away it just becomes less frequent. it's been over a year now and it still hurts just as bad sometimes. all i can say is that you are NOT crazy just hurting. It is definitely a good thing to talk to God about it. Your family shouldn't think you are crazy, and if they do than they are the ones who need help. you should DEFINITELY go and talk to them. another good idea would be to look into grief counseling. your local hospital should be able to help with locating someone or a group meeting. whatever you do don't keep this to yourself, go and talk to someone whether it be a family member, Friend, or priest/ minister just tell someone. don't feel too bad you are not the only one. Just be glad that this is probably the hardest part of life.

Answer 4

First of all....I'm sorry for your loss...

Losing someone, especially someone as close to you as your father is hard. You will go through ups and downs. That's normal. But, as soon as you begin having suicidal thoughts, its time to let someone help you. I think you already know what you need to do. You need to go see a doctor. And if you are afraid to go buy yourself, find a family member or a really close friend who will accompany you to the doctors. Hunny, it's going to be ok. You just need some counselling...it's hard. But, I can promise you this, it's going to be ok. Take everything one day at a time. When you start hearing those little voices, call someone, immediately. I have lost too many people to suicide...and no one ever knew how they were feeling... and if only we knew, we could have helped. You're family will NOT think that you are crazy. In fact, if you sought help, I would think of you as courageous! It's a hard thing to do sometimes...but it's the right thing...

please seek help...your family loves you...and would love to be there by your side while you get help.... they wouldnt want to attend another funeral!!!!

Best Wishes...

Answer 5

I was afraid to try to answer this, but I recently read a book about death...just out of curiosity. What I learned is that a person whom has died - has a rather interesting experience. None of which involves fear or pain...it's actually quite the contrary. It's an amazing experience that they truly enjoy. Sure, they will miss their loved ones whom are still living...but there is life after death...a life unlike anything we can even imagine.

I'm not sure if I'm a believer, but information never hurts. The point is, your father lived his life and died...just like millions before him and millions after. He gave you wisdom, feelings of happiness and feelings of pain and everything in between while he was with you...Use this, remember this, and make him proud as you continue to live your life. He did what he was supposed to do while he was with you. Show your gratitude, remember his legacy and share the lessons he taught you with others lucky enough to meet your acquaintence.

It's not easy...it's not supposed to be. Move on to the next stage of your grief by understanding. Fear not...what will be...always is...and that's the way it's supposed to be. Don't try to forget about him and don't beat yourself up. This is life and life is beautiful. The name of the book is "Life After Life". It's a short book and a quick read...if you're interested. Nothing is wrong with you. What you're experiencing is OK...but come on - trust me - it's all good.

Shel - 78

Answer 6

I have had a lot of grief in my life and I always think of the saying, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" and "God doesn't give you more than you can handle". I have always been a person who truly believes that everything happens for a reason and you might not see any reason now, but in time the answer will come to you. God has a special plan in your life and he must think that you are a strong enough person to handle what might come your way. Sometimes we have to be knocked down to make us look upward. Look to him for your answers and not ending your life. That will just cause more grief and confusion within your family and cause more heart ache for the people who love you. If you need someone to talk to then feel free to email me anytime. I will keep you in my prayers =)

Answer 7

The first thing you should do is tell someone keeping it bottled up will only make you hurt more.They wont think you are crazy the first thing the will do is try to help you instead of assuming you are crazy.You should definitely continue to pray because god helps all with their pains and problems. After this you should probably try to get counseling or see a therapist(or someone like that to help you with your problems i forgot what the job is called).Also you must believe in yourself and know that you can overcome any pain with the help of friends family and god.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Please, don't do anything such as killing yourself. I know you are hurting badly right now, and I think you should go and see your Doctor and go for some counselling. Counselling helped me through a bad patch in my life, and I came out the other side. Tell your family that something is wrong. You never know someone else in your family may be feeling all the things that you feel. Talking really does help. Ending your life won't solve anything, and will only make your family more sad. There are people out there that really care about you, talk to them, please.

Answer 10

I am sorry for your loss. But, you have got to make yourself stop wishing to see him again. He loved you, I'm sure, with all of his heart. With that in mind, think about how he would feel himself if he knew his baby girl was hurting so bad. It would hurt him terribly, I promise.

My daughter and I are very close and I keep track of her closely. She is 13 now and I was checking her chat logs on AOL with her friends just to make sure she wasn't being pursuaded into putting herself into harms way. In my search I simply rediscovered that I have done a fantastic job raising her as she was doing nothing wrong. However, I read one little line where she said she was "just tired of it all." Her friend, a boy, asked her what she meant and she came back with "I'm just tired of it all."

This really scared and hurt me as when you love someone with all your heart, as most Daddy's do, when you determine that your baby is hurting, well, there's no easy way to put it, it hurts real bad. I spoke with her in a round about way asking her if anything was bothering her and she answered me to my satisfaction that she gets bored at home sometimes with her three brothers. She's the only girl, etc. I am confident she's ok now and that makes me feel warm and happy inside.

For you, you need to realize that your Daddy wants your happiness. And if God exists per the masses definition, God wants you to be happy too. So, the only thing really holding you back from happiness is the fact that you are wishing for something that cannot become a reality. Your Daddy is gone. he isn't coming back. Please accept this as real and carry the love he gave you while you were together with you wherever you go and in that way, you will never be without him.

I wish I could give you a hug right now. Your Daddy love you, I can feel it. And he wants you to be happy.