I think my sis is involved with a gay guy?

Question

I know it sounds weird, and I should mind my own business but our family doesn't work that way. My sister who is in her early 30s (single mom) has "befriended" an ex who I, along with many others believe is gay. I don't have a problem with the gay part, it's the part that involves her romantically linked to him and possibly marrying him and how this would affect the whole family. My neice was raised by all of us and a relationship with this guy would force her to move across state. She tends to make irrational mistakes and we all suffer for it, except this time I think it would kill my mother who is extremely close to my neice (one and only grandchild). I really feel my mother's health will be at stake if this were to happen. My neice spends more time with her than my sis., and I know this experience will scar my neice emotionally. If my sis does this, there's no way she would let her daughter stay. Our family is closely nit, but my sis has a short fuse making it hard to talk to her...

I guess I should add that we've been approached by others caliming they know he is gay for a fact. He is very much involved in a church that believes homosexuality is a sin and I think he's playing the "straight" role because his father is a pastor. I think he's fooling himself and everyone around him, so, can I prove his sexual preference, probably not. I don't think she's in love with him, I think she's in love with the idea of getting married.

If we are all involved in raising her daughter and their living expenses then I think I have a say. I hate this attitude that we need to sit back and be quiet when it comes to family. A family is there to love, support and yes, bring them back to reality a times as well. We don't detach from each other to avoid confrontation, if you love and care for your family you do what you can to help in everyway possible.

Answer 1

Where is the child's father? If he is at all involved in your niece's life, maybe he can prevent them from moving far away. As far as your sister's blind feelings for this gay guy, you can only try make her see she's making a mistake.
Of course, if you really have balls, you'd say something to the guy, let him know you're on to his little charade, and he can't pretend to be straight forever, especially at the expense of your whole family.

Answer 2

I have a homosexual first-rate buddy. We did not determine as fans however we make killer peers. We have the equal useless pan humor and we have a tendency to be catty toward men and women who check out and get dressed up like they had been in a few Jap-a-mation caricature. We simply have a well time in combination, as soon as the sexual anxiety was once eliminated. My Hag may be my Lez-bro. Though she does not allow me escape with a lot we've got a well time in combination, and she or he is helping me no longer get hooked by means of a few drama queen whilst I have my Vodka glasses on.

Answer 3

Boy this is not good,try asking her for the child tolive with you guys,there is not much you guys can do unless it becomes a dangerous situation,sorry,she is going to follow him if she is in love,love is blind,she should be thinking of the child fist and not making this guy happy,and he needs to get out of the closet.

Answer 4

You are way overinvolved with your sister's life. Detach yourself and mind your own business. She will work it out for herself. You cannot control her and will only make her angry. Plus, you could be dead wrong.

Answer 5

Uhm..if he's gay then there won't be a romantic part or a marriage possability.

Answer 6

First of all she can't allow him to bring his kind of sin around her daughter.. Please try hard to open her eyes. Just keep expressing to her the negativity of his nature. Nothing good can come out of it. ( AIDS is always lingering in the shadows of this type of nature , If thats HIS nature? )