Someone please help me my life is falling apart!?

Question

I am a 13 year old girl my mom's Chinese my dad's English there is a big cultural difference. My parents since I can remember have been fighting for so long they've never ever kissed in front of me or showed their love for one another. Then one day when I was six my mom told me she was pregnant. I was a only child until then. Then when I was eight my mum crashed a car in Malaysia (thats where we lived) all because she was angry with me for taking her notebook to write a note she asked me to write. I broke my nose cartillage (I used to have a perfect nose now its got a slight bump I hate it). You see me and my mum have always had a difficult relationship. she's always wanted me to become a mixed hong kong star like Maggie Q. So thats when my father decided to take me to New Zealand to stay. Thats when I found out he had a Thai mistress I was shocked as I was only nine. The reason was simple you see my mum she hates cooking same as her twin sister they have a major OCD problem. Continue>

Answer 1

Your mother sounds as if she is emotionally stunted... i mean that she has never grown up....

be what YOU want to be when you get older... it's not up to your parents to decide, or to push you or force you to be something you are not.

Perhaps you are better off living with your father? If he has a girlfriend or mistress, perhaps he needs companionship. Does he seem happier?

I hope your life in New Zealand is better than before, and that you will be able to better focus on YOUR life, and what you want and need.

It's ok to continue loving your mother... and hopefully she will improve, too... It's not up to you to worry about "fixing" your mother. That is entirely up to her....

take care of YOU for now.

hugz

Answer 2

you sure talks a lot for a 13 year old.
I dont buy your story

Answer 3

wow so dramatic,im hooked,its like a drama story,where is the REST!?!?

Answer 4

so what is question? should stay with ur mom or go with ur dad? is that the question????

Answer 5

what's the question

Answer 6

Soooooooo.....what's your question???

Answer 7

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Answer 8

This is still starz_are_blind300 here just with another email cause the thing wont let me write more. So as I was saying my mother hated cooking infact I could count the number of times she has even fried an egg for me with my fingers. My dad obviously was very angry as he was trying his best to to earn as much money for me and my brother to live on for the future and my mother just went and at every single night to eat at restraunts. So as I was saying I went to New zealand to start a fresh as my mum was still in malaysia an anorexic and on the verge of suicide. Everything was going very well until one day my mother arrived in new zealand with my brother. and she wanted to kick my dads mistress out. I didn't particulary like Ketsarin (that's her name) but I didn't hate her she was very nice to me although really she was soo young (20 years old) compared to my dad who was 39 years old. She did everything a every normal mother would have done but not my own anyway my arrived from Malaysia and really want to get my dads mistress out she threatened them that she would commit suicide in the houde and haunt them forever. She caused such a fuss that Ketsarin packed up and left. After that everything went back to normal apart from discovering that me brother had ADD. My mum and dad would occassionally fight as my mum reverted back to her old ways ad started taking away food cause she couldn't be bothered to cook. She hated my dad for not getting her a maid like she had in Malaysia previosly. I started getting anoyed cause she would drag me on to eat with her until the early hours until the early hours of the morning and I hadn't still done my homework i had loads of tuitions during the day I was not one of the tallest people in my class anymore and it seems like I've stop growing because of lack of sleep that is (I also started puberty at 9-10 years old due to all the stress) Although I'm not the shortest Im one of the shortest at only 5'2 my mum by the way is 4'9 or 4'8 my dad is 5'8. It seemed that i had stoped growing and it was sooo frustrating. The one day I started getting bullied by this girl in my all girls school I couldn't take all the stress so I told my dad I wanted to leave new zealand for Malaysia. there were many other reasons like my brother looked malnourished like those people in Africa my mum's eating out bill was exorbidant my dad health was in jeopardy because of my mum's reluctance to cook for her family my dad had to eat either Mc Donalds or KFC everyday. How unhealthy is that so we decided that we would go back to Malaysia and get a maid and get home cooked food everday. Now my dad said to me it will be a big mistake to come to Malaysia since in New Zealand I was going to the 2nd best school in the whole of NZ. I never knew how right he was. I decided to return to Malaysia we got a maid and now rent an apartment near my International school it was the same school i went to before. I was Miss Popular than along with a mixed australian and chinese girl called Tanya we were both athletic and pretty smart and talented. We were obviously always envied especially since my mother dressed me in the best clothes which just out shone the other kids and put them really off. But this time round 4 years had passed i was slightly taller (I am still 5'2) more pimply due to puberty a bit more curvy I wasn't so athletic and I was no longer a cute 6 or 7 year old. I thought people would welcome me with open arms. But it seemed quite the opposite. People who were sort of my friends before had turned all bitchy and before long they arraged to have my drama shoes thrown in a bin (we take of our shoes for drama) I knew straight away it were them because they stayed back after school saying in a overly dramatic voice full of sarcasm. Oh no was where's her shoe! I reported them to my head teacher and a boy called Nick who I thought carried out the dirty deed and I was right he admitted it. But he said it was just a prank and he said he didn't even put in the bin but around the bin he even had the guts to say he had apologised to me so he saw no reason for me telling the teacher all of his friends believed him. But when I told his friends what really happened (this aren't the bitchy girls but the stupid guy's friends) the realised nick just lied to them all. Then next in ICT class when was not looking they wrote dirty stuff on my computer. (Now this is when I need your help) they stole my books and hid it on the Art floor when I got home I realised they did it again and I broke down and told my dad everything he told me had the Nick said anything me I didn't like I said apart from pimple farm and pimple butt (can people get pimples on their butt?) he said tome suck my **** b***h. My dad got so angry. The next day we he arranged a meeting with the heads of the school he told them it was unacceptable what this Nick had done to me. And that he wanted him expelled my dad didn't see it as a problem as he knew this Nick had already urinated in a public fountain and did many other disgusting things. The school refused then my dad sugested moving me to year 9 the refused so my mum and dad gots angry and told them that he would be contacting the schools owners wife who happens to be my cousins god mother my mother actually had tea with her this tuesday to discus my things. But even if she can get me into yr 9 I dont even know whether i even want to go back to that school with all the trauma ive suffered there. I haven been to schools for 2 weeks. And whats worse now is we've got a maid and my my mom still insist on not letting her cook and my mums gotten worse know she's taking away breakfast lunch and dinner. My dads so angry. My dad said he was willing to move to England if we wanted to but my mum would not be allowed to go and eat out cause the eating out in Englands expensive and whats worse is that it is in pounds. Today like other days recently my mother as been drinking I warned after the first big bottle of Sake she was sharing with her friend in this Japanese restraunt. But she still ordered a second sake and then finally a third sake and the thing is they were big sake bottles. My mom and her other friend were I thought to be only slightly drunk. So my mum started mumbling to me slurring her words saying if she were drunk she wouldn't be able to see this and during her speech and her drive she was driving wiggly wobbly all the way up the hill everything seemed okay until she hit the passenger front seat on the left's door which was where I was seating against the aparments card sensor for letting us in. I was in shock and worried for my safety. 30 seconds later I told my mu that I think she had scratched and dented the side alot she replied to tell me she did no such thing at all and she started talking about all this nonsense. So I quickly went upstairs from the car park to tell my dad what happened my dad got really angry but my mum denied she was even drunk though she was clearly swaying from side to side. My Dad said he was going to take me away from my mum for sure I don't know what I exactly want but all I know is I want to be a sucessful lawywer or historian or actress or singer. Please help

Answer 9

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