How can I convince my parents to get a second hole in my ear?

Question

I've been dying for a second hole in my ear but my mom refuses to let me do so. She says i can choose when I am 18. She seems completely closed to the idea!! Help!

Answer 1

I think your mom has your best interests at heart. That hole is going to be with you for the rest of your life, which at this point is probably a good 70 years more. So is it that unreasonable to wait 4 years or so (whatever it may be) to get it?

I don't recall wanting a second piercing before I was around 18, but I did eventually want one. I was already at college, and I just went and did it on my own. Then I decided I didn't like it, didn't really need it, and shouldn't have done it. Now it's just a weird half-hole that I accidentally stick an earring in when I'm trying to put on my regular earrings, and a little dimple in an otherwise cute lobe.

I'm not saying piercings can't work out. I also wanted an upper cartilage pierce, and I got that and though it was sort of numbingly painful, difficult to care for (it scabbed for about 2 years, I though it would never heal properly), I really enjoy having it now. I'm glad I do, because if I didn't, that would be a very large hole in a prominently displayed part of my ear.

The point of these anecdotes is just to explain to you that your mom probably understands that your second piercing could have either of these outcomes, and she just wants to make sure you're making the choice of doing this permanent thing at an age when you fully understand that choice. 18 isn't even really old enough in most cases, but it's older, and more of an age where you're responsible for the things you do (and do to yourself).

You can try to change her mind, but you could also just try to understand her point of view and respect that soon you're going to be old enough to make *all* these decisions by yourself, and meanwhile she's looking out for you. You can also be glad you have regular pierced ears! Some strict moms don't even allow that! Also, use the time to try out what it would be like to have that second piercing. Get one of those costume rings (usually sold as a costume nose ring) or the jewel body stickers, and wear it every day, like you would wear an earring there. If you are talking about a cartilage pierce, try an ear cuff. Or you can try an ear cuff as an extra accessory anyway! Then you'll see if you really want to bother having a second hole, something you're always going to have to pay attention to, disentangle your hair from (or whatever unforeseen thing: my studs tended to get my hair all wound around them), and get its own little earrings. You might even end up changing your mind about the piercing after 6 months of that. Or your dedication to your style might convince your mom it's not such a big deal and you really will like it forever.

Answer 2

Maybe you should wait until your 18. Or at least closer to 18. You didn't say how old you are now, but you may change your mind as you get older.
I have mine pierced 13 times (4 in each lobe and 5 in one cartilage). I have no regrets to getting them done. If I don't want all the lobe ones noticed, I only wear a single pair. I do always keep small hoops in the cartilage though. I'm way past 18 though and any consequences are mine alone.

Answer 3

You don't say how old you are, or how long you would have to wait until youare 18. If you are 12 or 13, you have no option but to listen to your parents. Even if you don't like what they are saying. But how you react to that may make all the difference. Don't whine, pout or nag. Accept it, and say, okay. But can we discuss it again next year? Then let it lie. Bring it up if they ask what you want for Christmas, birthday, reward for good marks in school, athletic achievements etc. If you keep a positive outlook, and give them excuses to want to reward you, you may get your wish sooner than you think.
If worst comes to worst, you can celebrate your 18th birthday with as many ear holes, or other piercings, as you wish.

Answer 4

Prove to them that you can take care of the responsibility of the aftermath of the piercing. I myself have 2 holes and my cartilage. I got my 1st one at 5, 2nd one at 10 and my cartilage at age 13. Make sure they know you will take care of it by taking care of your 1st hole. Wear ear rings everyday (so they don't have the excuse that you don't even wear ear rings in your 1st hole) and guarantee that you'll take care of your ears and prevent infection. Also point out what a good job you do taking care of your 1st hole. If all else fails ask them EXACTLY why they won't let you and then offer a solution that might change their minds. Don't be TOO aggressive, or that'll turn them off completely. This means even though they may frustrate you don't resort to screaming. Resolve this matter with a level head. :-D
~Hope this helps <3

Answer 5

I guess it depends on your age. I think kids should express themselves to a limit. I let my son get an earring at 10. If you are around 15 or 16, and she doesn't want you to get another piercing, tell her you will wear your earrings very elegant, like studs in one hole and hoops in the other. Tell her how much you like the look. Tell her that it would make you so happy. If that doesn't work, gosh girl, just don't know what to tell you, your mom and I are obviously very different. Good luck.

Answer 6

Your mother may never give in if it's a matter of principle with her. However, the best way to get anyone to do what you want is to make a trade. Offer them something in return. Is there something she would like you to do or to change about yourself? Are you willing to compromise? Make the trade?

Also, try to understand her point of view. Teens say, "It's no big deal...." when it IS a big deal to parents. Don't discount that. Tell her you understand. Say, "I know lots of kids just punch holes in their bodies, get tattoos, and disfigure themselves for shock value. And sometimes it's a disaster! Very true. But I don't want to do that. I wouldn't ask you for more than one extra hole in one ear. I like the option of wearing complementing earrings on one side. [Whatever your reasons] Furthermore, if you let me get one extra piercing, I will agree to [fill in the blank with something that means a great deal to your mother]." Then follow through.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Theres a very easy answer. I confident my mum and dad to get all of my piercings while they initially pronounced no (I certainly have 7). the 1st attempt is to in basic terms ask. in the event that they say no then you pass from there yet once you're no longer beneficial she ought to declare ok. If she says no then you could attempt some tactics. one way I have been given a piercing became by ability of asserting "i visit get it regardless so which you will eaither take me to get it correct or i will shove a stitching needle by my physique". No discern needs that so it could artwork very efficiantly. in the event that they do no longer look to be those sort of mum and dad attempt to reason with them. Ask them to allow you get your piercing in return for all A's and all your chores saved remote from being asked. Or notwithstanding it incredibly is they have been nagging at you for. And tell them... "mom it incredibly is a piercing no longer a tattoo. Tattoos are everlasting. If at any evaluate existence, no rely if that is for a job or what have you ever, you could constantly only TAKE IT OUT and whala! that is long previous". That helps them think of greater logically understanding it is not everlasting. desire i became of suggestions to you.

Answer 8

My mom never really wanted me to get my cartilage done, so I just got it down basically behind her back by my friend's plastic surgeon relative. I'm not saying that you should do that, and I am and was 19 when I did it. I guess unless you beg her so much too annoy her into letting her do it, then she will never give in. Ask her why she doesn't want you to get it done. Then try to find an arguement to make her statement not stand up...

Answer 9

Whos going to pay for the piercing? I have nothing against it, I have many piercings, and my kids wont be told not to - as long as they are paying for it. So, if you dont have a job yet, i would say wait until you do, then talk about the idea again, since it will be your own money.

Answer 10

My mom wouldn't let me ever get a 2nd hole. She would say "Put it on the list of things you want to do when you live in your own house and make your own rules"

Years later I didn't put it on the list it was semi good advice.

Sorry. Your mom has good intentions.