am almost 37 weeks pregnant, my boyfriend, at the time we met told me how he has always wanted 2 girlfriends, that did not bother me,we did the 2 gf thing, twice & both times it worked for a while & then it ended, well now he wants to try it again, & im just like "hold the f**k on, im about to pop & i feel huge, and you want to have someone else here in OUR relationship when at the moment im just not the most physically confident, sexual, willing person i was a year ago..." (i havent said that to him, which is why im asking) How should i say that this is not something that im comfortable with at the moment...i feel like he should be here for me & not getting someting going with someone else. becuase what is gonna happen when i am "out of commission" for 6 weeks, is he just gonna be screwing her all f*ing day long, & running away from me to her. i dont know what to do, i dont want to have him just do this behind my back. please give me some non-judgemental advice on what to say & do.
2007-03-21 08:52:00 · 9 answers · asked by miss me! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I hat e to sound judgemental honey but yes he is going to do this behind your back and it sounds like he is running away from you because you are pregnant. i would get out of this situation as quick as possible, do you really want to raise a child in this environment (Daddy has 2 girlfriends) Obviously you or your baby are not a priority of your man. he is selfish, SELFISH. A leopard doesnt change his spots, I thinkyou are setting yourself up for some major hurt. i would look to friends or family to support you during this time, your gonna need it
2007-03-21 09:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by Bored 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Part of becoming a parent means some sacrifices may have to made in order to do whats best for the baby. Sounds like he needs to get his hormones in check and think about you and the baby for once and not just what he needs and wants. Plus how are you going to feel when he is running out on you leaving you at home alone with the baby while hes out having fun with the new gf. Never mind the fact that you are tired, up every other hour of the night, have very little free time to do what you want including taking care of yourself, some days just taking a shower and doing your hair is hard to do. Then what if the baby is fussy, sick, or collicky....is it really fair to you that you are left alone while he is out having fun.
Now i may be completely overreacting. I am hoping things really arent that bad. I just hope you think about your own feelings. If I were you i would sit down and talk to him. Tell him exactly how you feel. Make him aware of your expectations of him after the baby arrives. Let him know that both you and the baby need his love and support and need him to be there for you. Alot of men have this missconception that motherhood is natural for women and we should just "know" what to do. Truth is we are just as scared and clueless as they are sometimes.....we just put on a bettter show and hide it better...but i mean when it all boils down to it a brand new baby is solely dependent on its mom...and for some of us that is the scariest feeling in the world and we need the support of the fathers to reassure us that it will be ok.
I hope things go well for you. Only you know what you want so whatever you decide to do is solely up to you. I am sure you will do whats best for you and the baby.
2007-03-21 09:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by mamacita25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally, and i will state my OPINION clearly, think about what you are doing. look at your situation objectively. take-a-good-look. notice something wrong here? most in the outside world would. your boyfriend will leave you to the dust quicker than flies on ****. yeah, that metaphor didn't work out well. anyways, seriously. look at what you are doing. you should have thought about this BEFORE you got pregnant. yeah, so it could have been an accident. but do you truly believe that your boyfriend will be there to help you out with this child? or for you? hell no. sorry, i don't mean to be rude, but i suspect your age is rather young and if not, you don't truly know what it's like to be an adult. you need to step up to the plate my dear. your child will need a father who will be there just as much as a mother. this guy sounds like a loser if he wants another girlfriend. it is ridiculous. values and morals have totally left the minds of the young (and stupid). think about what you need to help yourself and that baby. you got yourself into this mess. you get yourself out.
2007-03-22 22:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the truth. That due to your condition your not likely to subject your unborn child to any STD's out there by bringin in another sex partner. It's very dangerous. The condom could break! And your emotional status is fragile at this time. You need his strength & full attention. By bringin in another woman his attention will be on HER not you & baby. But that after things settle down once the baby is born, your belly fat goes away, you'll thnk about it. And I hope your NOT married in case he goes behind your back rejecting your concerns for safe sex at this time. Condoms break, it's a fact. It's neglect if he goes behind your back then brings it home to you & baby. Good luck!
2007-03-21 09:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth...you shouldn't be in a relationship with a man that refuses to be monogamous with you. Do you know if he's using protection? Do you know if she has any STD's that he may contract and then give to you? The bottom line is, no you don't know. Obviously, as the father of your child he will need to be in your life and the baby's but that doesn't mean that he needs to be in your life as your boyfriend.
2007-03-21 09:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you understand this is what he likes but your having a child now and its not right for a baby to be put in that type of situation. he/she needs a mommy and daddy more now then ever. not mommy and daddy are too busy with there new friend then caring the proper way for me. good luck!
2007-03-21 09:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly+Ian 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't put your baby at risk!!...or yourself...he's being selfish!!...It's time to be a daddy and not a whore...
2007-03-22 02:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by jan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im not judging but from his point of view, if you were ok with it then, why not now?
2007-03-21 09:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW WHAT A F^^CKED UP SITUATION!!!
YOU ALLOWED IT ONCE, WHY NOT ALLOW IT NOW !
p.s r u serious with this question?
2007-03-21 10:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋