her friend had to tell me a year later i just found out yesterday ive forgiven her and all but was it wize for me to take her back and trust her?
2007-03-21 08:50:52 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The answer in no, no, I am an older man 49 to be exact. I have had a lot of relationships. But as of now have been married for 15 yrs.You can not tell me that the gig is still the same.Nothing ya'll will ever do will make yourself trust her deep down inside. Every once in a while you will think about what happened,.that is unless you are completely shallow.
Trust and comunication, are the key. period.. my mother and father have been married for 65 yrs, their is somthing to that. Love can only take you so far.The rest you learn on your own.Its different for everyone. But its true that inside,You know the answer. remember this.. Advise is just that ADVISE.
2007-03-21 09:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a cheating girlfriend back is a common error on many men these days. (It happened to me when I found my girlfriend who was engaged to me (also) sleeping with a close friend of mine.
With relationships...if your girlfriend or boyfriend cheated on you...its fair to say that they'll do it again should "something better" come around.
Just take a look at all the divorce cases out there in America! That should be a big clue for you or anyone for that matter.
What I suggest is reweigh the relationship again or in pieces and see if your former cheating girlfriend is truly sorry, or a sorry case.
Just friendly advice...and she'll probably cheat on you again.
My advice and the people in my office agree that you should GET RID OF HER!
She's probably worthless.
2007-03-21 15:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by jose_jara2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all your choice man. You need to ask yourself two questions:
1. Is she worth keeping?
2. Will I genuinely trust her, or will I always be suspicious?
If she's worth keeping, then you're willing to pay the price in case she cheats again. If not, then stop wasting your time. This is your quick ticket out guilt free.
If you can trust her, there's potential for the relationship to keep going. However, if you're going to always second guess and torment yourself thinking about where she is when she's not answering her phone, you've already lost the trust. That's pretty much irrepairable.
2007-03-21 16:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Shades of Green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to that question is do you really trust her? If she goes out with the girls do you really believe she is being faithful? I've been in your situation and I found that it's hard to trust again and you have to have trust if you want a relationship to work. Good luck! Trust your instincts on this one.
2007-03-21 15:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by accebermn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a strange thing to deal with.
I did the same with my husband,took him back after he had his first affair, only find out he was haveing a bigger affair with a work mate for 5yrs.I sure did leave him actually divorced him.
Only you will be able to know if you can trust her no one else can give you their apinion,as trust is a big thing in a relationship, and it hurts when broken.
GOODLUCK
2007-03-21 15:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by staffie lover from Aussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to earn back your trust.
It's easy to forgive..........forgetting is the hard part.
It wasn't wrong to take her back if you truly did forgive her and you love her.However it sounds to me as though you are having second thoughts about the forgiving part. Better be sure in your mind about it.
In the meantime don't rush back into things too quickly.Take it slow and give yourself time to get your head on straight.If she agrees then that's a step in the right direction for both of you.
Good Luck.
2007-03-21 16:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly not. Once she does it once she probably will do it again. Plus you'll be paranoid all the time about it. I am little biased though because my dad cheated on my mom and ruined our family and she took him back. He still talks to women on the internet. Obviously this is a little less serious but still...the worry will always be a burden to you. Either way, I hope your happy ;)
2007-03-21 15:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by FreckleFace42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say once a cheater always a cheater, so it's really up to you, if you think that you can trust her and really feel that it won't happen again and feel in your heart that you can move on in your relationship without it ever being a problem because you shouldn't bring it up now that it's in the past. Then stay with her.
2007-03-21 15:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have taken her back so quickly. first off, she didnt even tell you, her friend did. what makes you think she hasnt cheated on you more than just that time and no one except for her and the guy knows? take a break and see if she changes, and if you still need her in your life
good luck.
2007-03-21 15:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by chelsღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell you that you should give second chance but only that. if they didnt learn the first time round then they will repeat. so if she does it again then no dont stay with her but we all deserve at least one chance to redeem ourselves. i have never cheated on hubby while we were together. i did however sleep with someone while we were seperated and for some reason he chooses to hold that against me. i told him he could ve gone an done same thing an i wouldntve cared and gave him opportunity to do so once we were back together cause i told him when we argued bout it to go do it but i dont want this brought up against me ever again but he refused cause he wants to hold it against me but i dont care if he does cause we were seperated and i dont feel i owed him any loyalty during that time. but ive always stayed true to him while together and thats all that matters to me and my concious. hope this helps you.
2007-03-21 16:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by war 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋