2007-03-21 08:40:08 · 22 answers · asked by thesunshineking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My ex-husband used to say: "Old enough to bleed, old enough to butcher"!
He was a sad, bitter & sexist male chauvinist and when his youngest daughter got herself pregnant at 16 years old by some guy she met on the streets, he finally realized what a terrible & appalling mess he had made of her upbringing.
That's one of the reason he is now my ex-husband!
My personal opinion is that you shouldn't start dating until you are an adult; same goes for sexual intercourse.
In an ideal world, people should wait until marriage but since the sexual revolution of the late sixties, folks don't wait anymore and why should they?
It's especially the case in our Western society.
I think I made a mistake with my current boyfriend; I offered myself to him much too soon in our budding relationship and now he doesn't seem so eager to marry me anymore and with good reason!
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
I should have waited a little while at least but I must admit that we were both too impatient to finally become intimate with each other after waiting several months before we could meet one another face to face at long last (we originally met through the Internet while we were living on opposite sides of the Atlantic Ocean).
My personal advice?
WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE 100% READY & IN A LOVING AND LONG-LASTING RELATIONSHIP AND FEEL EMOTIONALLY MATURE ENOUGH TO HANDLE A SEXUAL PARTNER AND THEIR THOUGHTS & FEELINGS AS WELL AS YOUR OWN, NOT TO MENTION THE INEVITABLE UPS & DOWNS OF ANY SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You have your whole life ahead of you; don't ruin it by committing yourself to becoming sexually active & intimate too soon!!!
Hope this helps with your personal query & dilemma.
Take care!
2007-03-21 09:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Devilish Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wrer my daughter I would say 49. The problem I have with your question is that you have equated dating with sex. I think a person should be able to date when they have shown they posses the maturity to handle the emotions that go with dating, breaking up, etc. As far as the sex part goes, I am old fashion, when two people have commited to a lifetime together, be it through marrige or a promise to one another then I am kinda ok. But as far as teens and sex, NEVER. Your body is the one thing that no one can control, not even your parents, and yet yoou are all in such a rush to throw that wonderful gift away to the first moron that says I love you, dont you love me. Grrrr the dad is coming out of me. It's not a race, date have fun, and you have a lifetime for sex.
2007-03-21 15:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People should start having sex when they are emotionally ready to handle all of the pleasures and possible consequences of their actions. There is no specific age but I would advocate no earlier than late teens, preferably when you become legal. I don't necesarily agree with waiting until marriage, but waiting until you find someone that you genuinely care about is something I truly recommend. This is not a decision that should be treated lightly. Educate yourself on all of the precautions and risks of having sex and then make an informed decision when YOU are ready not when someone else is.
2007-03-21 15:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever they feel the time is right. But dating should start at the minimum of around the late teens and sex should generally be saved until after marriage when the action is about expression of love rather than a one-night stand where there are huge risks.
2007-03-21 15:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Rewind 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You start dating when you enjoy each others company and when you want to spend more and more time with that person.
Depending on your age, your maturity level and your feelings for one another will determine when the right time to have sex is.
2007-03-21 15:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by accebermn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had to honestly answer this question and use my daughter in this illustration, I would want her to date in her late teens to explore relationships without sex. The same would go for my son. As far as sex is concerned, I would tell them both to wait until they are married, even though they may do what they feel anyway.
2007-03-21 15:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Iwannanewcar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should start when they are good and ready, not because some guy or girl says that they want to, and as far as dating goes about 14.
2007-03-21 15:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by Just me... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Around 15 or 16.
2007-03-21 15:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i started dating at 15 and had sex then to but was in a two year realtionship. i look back and i had no buisness doing that at that age so i say you should have fun as a teenager not get seriuos and if you ready at 17 or 18
2007-03-21 15:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Erica 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This I am sure will get many differences of opinions. I would say that when a man and woman are ready and comfortable with each other (and as far as age -- please, at least 16 and educated), take your time and enjoy each other.
2007-03-21 15:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋