No one would just walk up to an adult and start touching them. Do people people view children as if they have no personal rights? I understand why some people do it, as in the case of elderly ladies and motherly types, but that still doesn't make it okay. I haven't been able to successfully make it through the grocery store without someone grabbing my infant daughter or toddler son. Who knows what people have been doing with their hands! The people who reak of cigarrette smoke and have nicotine stained hands infuriate me. And then if you say anything to them, you are the one who is being rude and you receive dirty looks. What happened to common sense?
2007-03-21 08:30:59 · 9 answers · asked by punchy333 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Campo- I'm referring to when I'm out grocery shopping, I park the cart in order to open a freezer, and while I'm pulling out frozen vegetables, someone I don't know is petting my 9 month old's head! How can that ever be concieved as appropriate? Wouldn't you have a problem if a total stranger came up to you and started petting your head, or grabbing your feet? You wouldn't find that a little weird?? I think you're missing the issues concerning personal rights, health safety, and most importantly, safety in and of itself. I don't want someone running off with my baby. From a very young age, we were all taught "Never talk to strangers!" It just makes my job that much more diffucult when I try to explain to my toddler, who is a concrete, black and white thinker, the abstract fact that the majority of strangers are not bad- we just don't know who from who.
2007-03-22 02:48:56 · update #1
I agree. It is totally inappropriate to go up and physically touch ANYONE (no matter what age, children or adult!). People also love to touch pregnant women's bellies...which really freaks me out (being pregnant). It's not ok at all for people to touch your baby without permission. Just backup or actually say "I prefer that you not touch my baby" or just walk off...who cares if they look at your like you're rude...THEY are the ones being rude.
2007-03-21 09:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree but whats worse is when someone asks can I hold her. A complete stranger is asking to hold my child. She was 3 days old and I had to take her to the hospital for a follow up test and a middle aged woman asked to hold my child. I said I would perfer for noone to touch or hold her because of germs. I bet she thought I was a complete nutcase. You cannot trust people. That lady could have ran off with her or anything. My daughter is 4 weeks old and after that day shes been out in public 2 times and that was at her Doc office. Im gonna give it another month before I try again.
2007-03-21 10:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, l highly doubt they are all trying to harm your child, but l too dont really feel comfortable when people do that. Just keep her on your side or dont bring her to the grocery store. If you are having a very hard time with people you cansantly run in to by "conicedence" that is different, ever consider going to a different grocery store?
2007-03-24 03:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to let your children relate to strangers while you are there. This will give them social skills and teach them not to be shy. Of course if the stranger is acting inappropriately, then you are right there to intervene. The child is developing their social skills at a very early age. By allowing a child some freedom in this area will give them confidence.
Don't damage your child's personality by being over protective.
2007-03-21 13:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Campo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree. Luckily, I have been fortunate that no one has messed with my children, or I would probably freak out. The only similar experience I had is when I was pregnant and people would come and and touch my stomach. It grossed me out and I would shoot them dirty looks and they would go away. I don't mind if people talk to my children *while they are with me, obviously* but hands off!
2007-03-21 08:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
was there ever a time when it was ok? This is the single rudest thing ever I am a mother too and I hate it!! I would NEVER touch a new born baby or any child I didn't know for that matter!! I agree with you 100%
2007-03-21 09:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry but i dont really have much regard for ppl who feel it is their right to behave any way they want with your child i just tell them the truth i dont like for anyone i dont know to hold my baby and if i do know them casually i will seriously ask them to use germ-x on their hands first the way i see it is my baby my rules! i dont think you are being rude you are just looking out for your child screw what they think of you.
2007-03-21 15:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would never allow anyone to just walk up and touch one of my kids i don't care if i come off as rude
2007-03-21 11:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I AGREE!
2007-03-21 16:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by proud2btysmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋