ok, here is the situation....last year i begun a sexual relationship with this guy that works near me. we had such strong passion for eachother.something i've never felt b4. he said the same thing.. i had reoccuring dreams about this guy constantly and still believe i'm in love with him! anyway, after our sexual interactions, i ended it and decided to just be acquintances. anyway,on my b'day he bought me a cake and joined me and my boss for wine. and we were kinda flirting! today, he said he wants to fulfil his fantasies, he wants my body to talk to him, which sounded strange cuz i had a dream of us having sex last night! i now have a boyfriend who treats me very well, but i still have a strong passion for the other guy. i'm so tempted to sleep with him, but i feel guilty especially since my bf is so good to me. i just saw the other guy walk past my office.. he's trying so hard to seduce me. what should i do?
2007-03-21 08:28:37 · 25 answers · asked by nizo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break up with your boyfriend. He deserves to be with someone who both loves him and doesn't love anyone else. If it's not in your heart to be faithful to him, DON'T CHEAT. It will hurt him if you leave him, but if you want someone else then you're going to break up in the end anyway, and you'll hurt him more if you stay with him while you're thinking about this other guy. It's in everyone's best interest that you get out of this relationship now before you do something really wrong.
2007-03-21 08:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your heart would break if the tables got turned and your b/f was in a position to sleep with someone else. i know you still like him, but if you have a b/f, then you need to pay him 100% attention. if this guy who flirts with you has ANY class, you need to tell him exactly what is on your mind and why you cannot! great sex is one thing, but feeling empty on the inside is another.
my problem is people not being honest, and if you tell him what you feel, but let him down gently, then everyone will understand. playing games isnt fun, and when emotions and feelings run high in a relationship, dont play jeopardy and lose a great guy over this. if you and your fling are so great, then you should have been in the relationship with him.
remember, love is a two way street by taking one step at a time. not a slot machine where you press a button and hope for an instant result.
good luck
2007-03-21 08:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by brianju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you need to decide if you can be faithful to your boyfriend or not. If not, then do the right thing and tell him you want to see other people. He may or may not be ok with having a more casual/ less committed relationship or not, but you owe him the truth up front and should be willing to lose him for your passions with the other guy if you must pursue it and your boyfriend isn't willing to share.
2007-03-21 08:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cronides 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what you should do but actually doing it seems very unlikely based on what you just said.
If you are looking for validation as to whether you should give in to your lust. You probably won't get it from a sensible person here.
Talk to the guy, tell him you have a bf now and to stop. Refrain from reciprocating his flirtatious advances because for as long as you respond, he will continue to think you will eventually give in because you are interested. If it is not too much trouble seek employment in other places.
Best,
G
2007-03-21 08:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have a boyfriend. Don't mess up what you got. Sex is nice but all the other stuff is better and outweighs the sex so stick it out with your boyfriend. Don't ruin your relationship for a guy that you will probably only have sex with and nothing else.
2007-03-21 08:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by *apes* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell me him to respect you that you already have a boyfriend who treat you good. he already had the opportunity to have a good relationship but he didn't give you all that you wanted. (well only sex right) Just repeat to urself " he had the opportunity and it did not work"
Go out with ur new boyfriend!!!!!!!! That will take away the temptation!!!!!!!!
PLEASE DON'T CHEAT, YOU WILL FEEL SHUT ABOUT IT
2007-03-21 08:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by who cares 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you already have a boyfriend you would be a very horrible person to go for someone else and you are already pretty bad for even asking someone else to tell you what to do in a situation like this. you should already have said no i will not.
2007-03-21 08:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by fuderpod 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a boyfriend. Would he be upset if you slept with this other guy? If so, you then have a decision to make: The Fling or the Boyfriend.
2007-03-21 08:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont sleep with hm while having a bf cuz what goes around comes around.if your man is a good guy stick with him on the good and bad cuz good guys r hard to find.
2007-03-21 08:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by star 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat. You are only going to want more and he would have made it known if he wanted more from you.
Stay with your boyfriend. He's the guy who is treating you well.
2007-03-22 04:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋