Okay.Me and my boyfriend Mikel, have been together for 8 moths and 21 days.He is everything that i could ever possably want or need.But latelly he has be going off and on with me.Like we would start fighting and then he would say i think that you dont need to be with me anymore.I always reply,"THATS NOT TRUE!I LOVE YOU MIKEL AND YOUR THE ONLY PERSON THAT GETS ME THROUGH THE DAY!WHY ARE YOU SO WILLING TO GIVE UP ON ALL THE HARD WORK IT TOOK TO GET HERE!?!" He always says,"Dont yell at me." But then after an hour of that we are like nothing ever happend.And see at first he didnt like me talking to my guy friends that i had way before i had moved here, but then again i guess it is okay for him to "LIKE" other girls.So far he has liked this chick named Haylee, and this one chick named Jamie.I dont know what to do.And he just gets mad at me for doing the stupidist stuff.He tells me he loves me and that he dont mean to hurt me but he just continually keeps on doing it.I just need HELP!!!
2007-03-21 08:09:52 · 12 answers · asked by ♥♥Natalie♥♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he is taking the easy way out.
I know in the past when I was younger and too much of a coward to profess my true feelings I would turn to the other person.
He is giving you the classic " it is not you it's me routine."
If he was mature he would say "I know how much you love me and I feel very strongly about you.
I am however too young to be in such a serious relationship.
I think it is time that we both look at other options.
If it is possible for us to stay friends which is probably so far from your mind right now let's do so.
I need to end it before we both end up being hurt."
Now as hard as that might be for you to read it gives you the information you need to move on.
I am truly sorry that your relationship is not working the way you want, but if he cares talk to him.
Leave your feelings out of it and find out what is going on in his head.
Ask him if he is still into the relationship as much as you are?
It need not turn into some big "OC" type drama.
Good luck.
2007-03-29 07:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by makeda m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need help, you need time. Time to think about is this what you're really willing to go through for this guy. Don't EVER take relationship advice from people who don't know the whole story. That includes family, friends, strangers, and anyone else you can think of. All they'll do is take sides and give you advice that may not work for you. You need to figure out how you truly feel about your boyfriend. I'm sorry but the internet is not the place to look for an answer to this question.
2007-03-29 08:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a healthy relationship.. it will only get worse if you stay in it.. If he completely cared about you and loved you the way you should be loved then he wouldn't hurt you like this.. and if he can say things and think nothing of it later he doesn't care.. has he ever physically hurt you? It sounds like he could be the type to physically abuse you, if not then there is mental and emotional abuse. It is not good, you deserve better and I would break it off asap cause trust me it will only get worse and harder to leave!! (My ex husband I was with him for 8 years and I just got the paperwork filed for a divorce and it would have been so much better if I would have listened to people in highschool).
2007-03-29 05:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by littlemama882003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no longer and have not been in any relationships in any respect, due to the fact I'm no longer involved in relationship in any respect now due to the fact I'm simplest thirteen. If I have been so far whilst I'm older I could be ok with on the such a lot a five 12 months age hole.
2016-09-05 10:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is just a word babe... His actions is what you should look for... and from what you said, looks like he is taking you for granted. Im sorry to say this, but you should make an ultimatum, make him realize that you can leave him anytime you want to and he needs to treat you better or you will leave him.
Take the power back or he will walk all over you. If he still acts like that then he is a ********, and you need to move on, find someone who can care for you better.
2007-03-21 08:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by almostdeadman1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you dont like it. if you cant talk to your guy friends he sure in hell cant talk to his girl friends. thats not fair. you have to have an equal agreement. tell him that if talks to his girl friends you can talk to your guy friends. if he has a problem then tell him you dont need him. just say it and show you mean it. if you show you really need him he will do whatever he wants cause he knows you wont do anything about it. what you have done, dont get mad, is tied yourself around his finger and he has you. meaning that no matter what he does he wont care cause he knows that you really need. show him you dont need him when you guys get into these fights. just try it and if he really loves you back he will stop all the **** he's been doing. if he decides to end it then you really dont need that.
2007-03-29 04:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know its a shame that "I love you" don't mean much to people anymore. But the reality of the matter is that love doesn' t keep people together anymore, its a combination of other stuff, such as passion, commitment, lust, trust, etc. I think its time to move on.
2007-03-21 08:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by wanwan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a relationship. A relationship is about 2 people caring for one another, respecting one another, and constantly trying to please one another, but it sounds as if you're the only one. You deserve much better and the fact that he constantly hurts your feelings...face it, he's just not into you.
Be happy-Life is way too short!
2007-03-21 08:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by ann c 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmph pathetic common sense should tell that he does not want you nor cares about your feelings regardless of how much you say "I love you"
2007-03-21 08:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by spiritualism0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what i think, i think that he does love you if he says he does, and at time he might think that he might want to be with one of those other girls, and at those times its when you fight, and then later on he realizes that he doesnt want to be with those other girls and he wants to be with you, its just a rough spot in your relationship, i think he'll change back to how he was if he really does love you
2007-03-21 08:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋