well my gf broke up with me last march after we had been together for about 2 years. . . she started hanging out with this guy i knew from hs the next day and she knew i hated him and she proceeded to mess around with him like a week after we broke up which was really inconsiderate to me. The reason for the breakup was that she wanted to date around and she said she knew we would get back together sometime. Well it has been almost a year now and they have been together ever since(even though only officially for about 6-7 months) but anyways . . i tried to get her back for the first 2 months and it wasnt going anywhere so I went nc in june and i have been ever since. for the first 6 months she would try calling, texting,emailing . .anything to try to get me to talk to her. . even emailed me on our anniversary that said "today was 2 years" . . she would try to contact me on average every 1-3 weeks for 6 months. she even tried to get me to hang out with her . . continued below
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she even tried to gee me to come to her bday party when he was going to be there . .knowing that it would cause a fight . . .then there was a break from december till just a week ago when she sent me another email saying "just wondering if ur done hating me yet". .. i just dont get it . .. she seems happy from what I can tell . . she going on sb with her bf and everything . . why is she trying to contact me after 9 months of me not contacting her back? . . what does she want? What do u think is going on in her head?
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i can understand like the first couple months because maybe she wasnt sure about her new bf . . but it has been a year and she is still trying to contact me . . .wouldnt she get the hint when i havent responded in 9 months? If she was that happy then why would she still be doing this?
2007-03-21 08:08:29 · 10 answers · asked by osb2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. She lied to you about why she wanted to break up. If you haven't figured that one out by now, then here it is in plain english.
How do I know she lied, because she told you she wanted to date other people, but in actuality she wanted to get with this other guy, and who knows, she may have been seeing him behind your back when you were with her. Why do you think she was hanging out with him the day after she broke up with you?
2. She is happy with him, and that is great for her, and you can even tell her you are happy she found someone. Reverse psychology will mess with her mind. However, she might feel bad about what happened. That is a good thing. Let her feel bad, however, don't let her get you down, get you depressed or sad.
3. Start dating someone else and move on. Tell her you don't need her in your life anymore, and break it off clean. When you talk to her, pretend you are happy, believe me, that will work better than begging with her to take you back. Don't let her feel sorry for you, because if you do, she will keep calling you to find out how you are doing.
You see, what is happening is she is wrestling with her own concience.
She lied to you, and she hurt you, and she is torturing herself with that memory, she wonders if someone will lie to her soon, because she knows that what comes around goes around.
Hopefully what will happen is you will find a better girlfriend, she will get dumped and want to come crawling back to you, but you will have already moved on, and she will be alone, in agony over the karma that was just visited on her.
So be happy, act like your life is wonderful when she calls, and move on.
2007-03-21 08:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though she likes your attention more than she actually likes you for you. She was cold and unresponsive when she left you for the guy you hate and you tried to get her back. However, now that you have left, she wants you because she cannot have you. I'm sure she has some feelings for you, but she has to have more for the other guy for staying with him this long and not coming back to you. She wants to be with him, but wants to have you as a permanent option just in case, which is not fair to you. The girl is messing with your head, and it is wrong! You deserve better. She had more than enough chances. You need to move on with your life, and one day you will meet the girl of your dreams who knows how to treat you properly and will not deliberately hurt you. Best of luck! ;-)
2007-03-21 08:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl is just playing u! She is using u as a bounce back buddy! don't try getting with her but it seems like she might want to be ur friend! Talk to her and tell her how she has made u feel the past years! Make it known that u will never trust her like u did, but try being her friend! Just don't get to close! She's not the best to be around!
2007-03-21 08:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lollipop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she's a drama queen and likes a lot of attention. Maybe she's not getting enough from her current bf. Either way, stay away from her and find someone who is really nice for yourself.
2007-03-21 08:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she might be going through a problem. Maybe you should try to talk to her about it. Ask her up front. If she doesn't tell you the truth she might not be the right person for you.
2007-03-21 08:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Nameless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she still wants you to want her, or maybe she still wants to be friends. Maybe she is testing the waters to see how you still feel about her. Are you not speaking to her out of anger still or is it that you just don't care?
2007-03-21 08:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she wants you back.
or maybe she just want to play the emotions of her new bf like what she did to you.
i mean if she didnt really mean to get back to you why did she want to still have contact ..why did she make some efforts to make you close to her again?
2007-03-21 08:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by Louise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief she is a nut case get rid of her
2007-03-21 08:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by naseldrip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away.
2007-03-21 08:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Coyote81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she already let you go. tell her you do not want her...
2007-03-21 08:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋