All of my friends tell me that I can have any guy that I want cause I'm such a great girl but I can't ever find any good guys. I'm pretty close to giving up on ever finding the guy of my dreams. I know that I'm not going to find him in a bar but it seems like there isn't anywhere else to go. If anybody has any advice on what I should do I would really appreciate it. Thanks in advance!
2007-03-21 08:06:04 · 24 answers · asked by Lyndee J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, according the ultimate source, the movie "Coming to America" (LOL). One of the barbers says that if you want to meet a nice person, go to a church function, a library, or some nice function ... not a bar.
If you are a person of faith (or not) trying attending a church with a large population of people your age. Perhaps you could try being a volunteer for a noble cause in your area, and meet a guy there. Like working for Habitat for Humanity.
And, as sick as it makes me feel to say it, the web based things have worked for a number of people ... real ones like match.com
good luck.
You sound like my best friend in high school. She was beautiful ... looked like Brooke Shields, but guys were too intimidated to ask her out.
2007-03-21 08:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about the type of man that you want and then consider
the sort of environment he would be in, some men love music,
some the spoken word, some enjoy sushi, some a good book, some are health enthusiast,and many are geeks, tech heads true sports fans, and then their are the rare few who love life to the fullest and enjoy it all and a beautiful woman, such as you, but the key is he has to find you so be in the right place at the right time to be found , I wish you the best of
luck.
2007-03-21 15:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to find a good guy then you may have to change your venue to find one. Depends on what you are looking for. If you want to find a duck you look near water but if you want to find a bear you go to the woods. So bars aren't the answer. that's cool...that's not the only place guys hang out. What I am saying here, is think about other interests you have. Do you like sports of any kind....are you a book worm...how about a movie goer. There are venues for all these things whether it be clubs, sports activities, a continuing study class at your local community college......at church if you are involved with your religion. I could go on and on. I met some of the best dates I ever had at a community recreation council. Here they would have various sports like co-ed volley ball, softball etc. You can volunteer for some community activity and meet the nice guys you are looking for.In other words try and match up the kind of guy you are looking for with what you think a nice guy would be doing and then go for it.....don't be afraid to get involved in a number of varied things so that you have a great selection and guys to choose from.....Good Luck!
2007-03-21 15:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by chcman74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never know you might meet him at a bar, your there right and if you are such a catch then why can he be there with his friends. lol. There is no such thing of man of your dreams, there will always be at least one thing that will be wrong, you need to find a man that you can love and have a lot in common, that will be there for you.
2007-03-21 15:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know... i've been in two long-term relationships in my life... my last one we lived together for 3 years and engaged... but i have to say, all the times that i found someone that amazing, is when i wasnt looking.
All the times when i was looking, i can never find a girl that fits... i never take any relationship seriously if i didnt get a spark when i meet them...
the girl im seeing recently, first time we met in a bar, we ended up talking for 2 hours and ignoring our friends... and everything else just fell into place.
Just enjoy your life, and live for you, do what you enjoy... and some awesome guy will see you for who you are and like you for you. and thats the type of guys u want.
2007-03-21 15:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by almostdeadman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl don't let your hopes go down there is someone for everyone, maybe you should go to a church and find yourself a good o church buy one who will respect you and treat you right, and also one who will be true to you, every good girl deserves the right guy but sometimes it takes a little time to find him, or maybe one will come to you, now if your going to bars, or clubs looking for guys they are not the right guys no guy who is in a club is looking for a girl to settle down with otherwise they woulden't be there, as for woman no guys are going to respect a girl they meet at a club or bar they feel that they are there for one reason only so I strongly suggest that you donnot go looking for the guy of your dreams, at a bar or club, and also because now a days those kinds of places are getting way to dangerous Good Luck to you!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-21 15:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by JENN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guarantee you will find him when you stop looking for him. Get busy doing things for your self, go to the gym, get a hobby, join a club. live your life, having a man isn't everything, infact I know some women who would love to get ride of the man they have. Don't give up, just live your life to the fullest until you find mr. right. Not to mention once you find him everything will change and you will have to adjust your single life to this new couples life. So get your fun in now, you never know, you might find him while having fun and then you will also share common interest.
2007-03-21 15:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by NANCY J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It mainly depends on your age. You should mainly get in touch with people of your age or probably a little older than you are. Approach matters a lot, you really might be a great girl , but perhaps because of your approach they may not be able to do comprehend properly to your actions.
Improve the approach, I am not saying, change totally, just a change in approach is good enough to win over anyone.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 15:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bingo, I am like you. Its same thing that my friends told me im great girl and awesome girl they ever met. I was like i dont know if i should believe that because i dont uddy why i dont have any boyfriends? Image that, I never had boyfriend. So now friends said give it time and I have to give it a chance to give it time and let it flow. Just keep meet more people from your friends or any events or college, so many places to show that you will meet new people, once you bump to one guy and you would never know if you will end up with him. Good luck.
2007-03-21 15:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, i know how you feel. I always find guys but, the wrong ones. I wasnt looking for love when i found it. Before i met my boyfriend i had told myself that i wasnt going to put myself in line to get hurt again. I thought the right guy would never come along but, he did. We've been dating for two years. I bet your a beautiful girl but, dont get yourself down. Be patient! Good things come to those who wait. Its true!
2007-03-21 15:16:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋