How do you tell someone you care/love them and then turn you're back and cheat and lie...I don't get it?
2007-03-21 08:02:23 · 25 answers · asked by lotsofluv007 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The heart is a strange guide. It can lead you to absolute pleasure and just as quickly to undying pain. Unfortunately it is beating within the chest of the most insecure creature on the planet. Words are easy, and now days used more often without thought or truth behind them. I cannot or will not say that this is a gender issue, because I have seen it happen on both sides. But it must be understood that the basic reason for most forms of cheating is that something is missing from the relationship that is sought by one or the other. Communication is the key in that regard, and modesty, shyness, or an inability to express ones need openly to the other is usually the cause of lies, cheating and a plethora of other ilks. This is not meant to be an excuse only an explanation. At any rate for further reference you may want to make sure feelings, needs, and aspirations are completely in the open on both sides. I'm not going to say this will cure anything, but it will at least give you a good foundation.
2007-03-21 08:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tom H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes they think that they will get away with it. I may not be that they do not love you but that the needs are not being meet or that they can have there cake and eat it too with out getting caught. Cheating is not always sexual, it can be mentally as well so when I said needs not being meet could be in many ways.
2007-03-21 15:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, talk to the person and clear the air that is it really true that the one who cares for you and loves for you can really cheat or lie ?
Be positive and constructive, this way goes to smiles and hugs
2007-03-21 15:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Goldman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah. i understand people makes mistakes even for once.
but then cheating? ... cheaters will always be cheaters
idont get the point that other people loose their emotions to someone for just a cheap thrill of attraction.
2007-03-21 15:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Louise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it either. One of my close guy friends was cheated on my the girl he loved. Now she says that she still loves him and wants to be friends. But he doesn't want to because it still hurts him eventhough it's been about two months.
2007-03-21 15:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by sweet teddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no simple answer to that since people cheat for MANY different reasons.
2007-03-21 15:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad that you don't get it. There are many people out there that like to play with other peoples emotions just to make themselves feel something. Since you don't get it, you won't be one of those people.....thank you. There is really nothing to get since those people will get what's coming to them eventually. I wouldn't want it, would you?
2007-03-21 15:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by jimmer256 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cuz 10% of boys are heartless bast***S and unfortunatly thats the 10% girls go for... go search for the other 90% despite the fact we're hidden.
Sorry to hear bout what appened
2007-03-21 15:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ben 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Guys are usually jerks because they don't learn as quick as girls.... Boys and girls have about a ten years difference in learning so they think its ok to go out hook up with a girl and tell her he loves her and the next day he'll totally ignore her... they think its ok... don't even put up with it
If I were you i'd go up to him and say absolutely nothing and slap him on the face!!
2007-03-21 15:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by Rammer 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some guys are just assholes... but sometimes cheating happens during certain situation with temptation... we're all humans u know... its not always black and white there is always that shade of gray...
but also... it was their choice. So they are to blame.
2007-03-21 15:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by almostdeadman1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋