At what age do I suggest Plastic Surgery for my Daughter?

Question

Although her looks are not perfect by anymeans, at what age should I suggest and pay for her plastic surgery? There are so many things I would like to have done with her. The one daughter has such a good heart but, her inside does not match her outside at all and I need to change that.

Answer 1

GASP you have a serious issue. Your daughter needs to make her own decision about what she wants to look like. If you tell her she needs surgery etc what's that going to make her thing? She's not good enough or worth your time which will hurt her or anyone that you told that to badly.

Imagine if I told you that you are so ugly you should go get plastic surgery. Would you not be offended?

Your daughter needs to be herself and decide when and if she's ready to have it or if she even wants to have it. Plus if you start this plastic surgery too soon it can become something like an addiction.

Lay off the ridiculous comments and enjoy life... with your daughter whilst you have her.

Answer 2

Unless she has a significant deformity, or something that isn't likely to correct itself, it's best to let your daughter decide when she is 18. Most doctors do not perform plastic surgery on children unless it is to correct a deformity until at least age 16, usually later, because they are still growing significantly.

I had plastic surgery at age 10. My ears just stuck out a lot and it was thought, at the time, that setting them back to where ears normally are might reduce ear infections. Yes, it actually did reduce the number from 15 a year to 3 or 4. I still don't get why that worked. However, this was a deformity (albeit mild) that would not have corrected itself over time. Because of the reason for the surgery, insurance even paid for it.

That said, a lot depends on how she views herself and what it is you/she thinks needs changing. If, for instance, she has overly large breasts, that can affect your outlook negatively for life (ask me how I know this) and attracts unwanted attention from much older men. This is particularly uncomfortable when it is relatives or friends of parents. Many plastic surgeons will consider breast reduction as early as 16 and it is often covered by insurance. A huge (for her face) nose can also have a negative effect, but isn't likely covered. Ask for a consult with a plastic surgeon without your daughter first. You'll have to supply photographs. That is really the only way you would know in any case.

Answer 3

This is the most horrible and ridiculous thing I have ever heard. To actually want to change your daughter's physical appearance because you don't think she's attractive is one of the worst things a parent can say. If you think that your daughter is such a wonderful person inside, then why don't you help her to be confident with herself because of who she is and not what she looks like? How do you ever expect your daughter to love herself or appreciate who she is if her own parents think that she's so unattractive. You say there are many things you "would like to have done with her," but she's not your personal Barbie doll, and you are an extremely shallow person to think this about your own child. I hope that your daughter is one day able to overcome the obstacle of having you as a parent.

Answer 4

this is a touchy question but I will try to be non-judgemental here. What is the plastic surgery for? if her appearance is something that is seriously affected quality of life (like large facial scars or burns for example) get the surgery whenever SHE becomes uncomfortable with her looks, if she is still very young she likely doesn't care what she looks like but when she's older it may cause self esteem issues. Now if you're just talking about something like a nose-job or a boob-job, most surgeons won't even consider doing these procedures until at least 16. Do not pressure her to get anything done, she needs a supportive parent no matter what she looks like.

Answer 5

Plastic surgery should be reserved for people who have major defects or injuries that require reconstruction. How shallow are you to want to "improve" your daughter. Can't you love her the way she is. Soon enough she will pick up on your feelings and that could either send her deep into depression (been there, not a good place to be), or she will become like those paranoid celebrities that have to fix every tiny thing. Let her be herself. When she grows up she should make her own decisions. She should not bend to peer (or parental) pressure to change. If you are worried that she would never have a boyfriend or something, just remember that not everyone is as judgemental to you and only look to the inside, rather than what people look like!!

Answer 6

Does she feel self concious? If so you as her parent should be telling her that beauty comes from with in and not teach her that looks are everything, because in time looks will fade but personality is forever. If when she is old enough to make her own decisions (after having good positive up brining) then support her, but don't push her into it. So she isn't the most beautiful LOOKING child, she may be a beauty queen all on her own later. Go read the book about the ugly duck that turned into a swan.

Answer 7

you gotta be joking right??

what needs to be changed is you way of viewing her!

Give her a chance to grow up and grow into her looks!

Also, teach her to be happy with herself despite her outside appearances. Otherwise she will be on a destructive path seeking approval and perfection in the wrong places.

Ever see these crazy celebrities obsessed with plastic surgery..they look sooo fake and are NEVER happy with their appearances...even though they are better looking than like 97% of the rest of the world!

I hope you are kidding and I would say there is NO age at which you should offer to pay for her plastic surgery!

Answer 8

i suggest that you visit a psychologist take a few pics of your daughter with you and then talk with that doctor about what sort of plastic surgery you were thinking of having done on her. i think every person who is going to have cosmetic surgery should have to visit a physiologist first to ensure there reasons for wanting the operations are sound . this way we don't have people like that woman who wants to be a barbie doll or Michael Jackson kind of people get all manner of things done.

Answer 9

Does she has some type of deformities or is her nose just not "perfect"
The answer depends on so many things.... if she has deformities I would make it seem as though the Dr recommends it. I would never tell her she needs it. Or if she brings it up you could then offer to pay for it but make sure your not just wanting a perfect daughter

Answer 10

This is obviously something you both have discussed thoroughly with each other and plan to go through with. Now keep in mind that I'm just a layman, but I would first see a medical doctor (maybe even 2) and go with the doctor's recommendation in this matter. Have you tried a professional make-over?